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Some free game here,
it’s come to my attention that there are alot of guy’s who think they have problems but really don’t. Or the problem’s that they do have are very miniscule.
I for one have never been an official or self proclaimed coach or dating advice guru so I don’t often get the opportunity to interact with people like this.
But I am open minded enough and perceptive enough when it comes to girls to sniff out a problem when there is one.
It’s dawned on me that alot of people are here, not because they want to get better and be their best self in what they do (like me), but they’re here because they think they have problems that need solving.
Don’t get me wrong there are people with real problems that need real solving, but that is not most guys lol.
If you do not know yourself first you are like a mound of clay, easily shaped, formed, shattered, and changed by the hands of whatever you pass yourself to.
You’re impressionable because you don’t believe in the things you do with purpose.
There are good behaviora to have with women and there are bad behaviors to have with women , these are the facts.
But once you’ve obtained the knowledge of these and put them into practice you can’t toss them out as soon as you run into resistance or failure.
You have to truly believe in what it is you do because if not when you run into someone else who truly believes in what they’re doing you’ll crumble.
For instance when you watch a movie that shows a guy getting a girl by laying his coat over a puddle of water so that she can cross without muddying her shoes. Without knowing yourself you might question if this is what you should be doing and change your behavior to model theirs.
Blasphemy!!
This is what makes me charasmatic. This is what makes charasmatic people charasmatic. When someone truly believes in what they’re doing despite whatever anyone elses opinion may be they’ll usually fall in line with the charasmatics dialogue.
And if not? The charasmatic wont care because they know themselves.
This is the difference between a girl not texting back being “oh my god I must have creeped her out”, to “she must not be a huge texter” or “maybe she has a boyfriend and got cold feet”
Once you have knowledge of the right behaviors and what’s creepy and whats not creepy, and whats sexy and whats not sexy, and whats charming and whats not charming, you have to believe in it.
You cant let one persons opinion take you out of your ways, you can’t let one loss make you question all of your attributes.
If you find yourself sulking and erasing the whole drawing board (before having mass exposure to a bunch of people having negative reactions to a specific thing), maybe you just need to have more faith in yourself.
And i’m not saying toss out calibration. But how can you calibrate when you toss out your behavior at the slightest scent of disapproval. You calibrate so that the other party can feel comfortable not because something is inherently wrong with your behavior.
When you’re playing a sport you don’t always use your full force, not because something is wrong with your form, but because you might need a lighter or stronger touch so that your goal will receive you.
That is the highly touted “confidence” that everyone says girls are supposed to find so attractive.
I’m not saying having faith in yourself will stop you from getting rejected, but it will stop you from fixing stuff that isn’t broken, allow you to work on the real problems if there are any, and get you back into the game faster so that you can more easily progress.
My learning curves are so short in the things I do because I have astronomic faith in myself first.
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it’s come to my attention that there are alot of guy’s who think they have problems but really don’t. Or the problem’s that they do have are very miniscule.
I for one have never been an official or self proclaimed coach or dating advice guru so I don’t often get the opportunity to interact with people like this.
But I am open minded enough and perceptive enough when it comes to girls to sniff out a problem when there is one.
It’s dawned on me that alot of people are here, not because they want to get better and be their best self in what they do (like me), but they’re here because they think they have problems that need solving.
Don’t get me wrong there are people with real problems that need real solving, but that is not most guys lol.
If you do not know yourself first you are like a mound of clay, easily shaped, formed, shattered, and changed by the hands of whatever you pass yourself to.
You’re impressionable because you don’t believe in the things you do with purpose.
There are good behaviora to have with women and there are bad behaviors to have with women , these are the facts.
But once you’ve obtained the knowledge of these and put them into practice you can’t toss them out as soon as you run into resistance or failure.
You have to truly believe in what it is you do because if not when you run into someone else who truly believes in what they’re doing you’ll crumble.
For instance when you watch a movie that shows a guy getting a girl by laying his coat over a puddle of water so that she can cross without muddying her shoes. Without knowing yourself you might question if this is what you should be doing and change your behavior to model theirs.
Blasphemy!!
This is what makes me charasmatic. This is what makes charasmatic people charasmatic. When someone truly believes in what they’re doing despite whatever anyone elses opinion may be they’ll usually fall in line with the charasmatics dialogue.
And if not? The charasmatic wont care because they know themselves.
This is the difference between a girl not texting back being “oh my god I must have creeped her out”, to “she must not be a huge texter” or “maybe she has a boyfriend and got cold feet”
Once you have knowledge of the right behaviors and what’s creepy and whats not creepy, and whats sexy and whats not sexy, and whats charming and whats not charming, you have to believe in it.
You cant let one persons opinion take you out of your ways, you can’t let one loss make you question all of your attributes.
If you find yourself sulking and erasing the whole drawing board (before having mass exposure to a bunch of people having negative reactions to a specific thing), maybe you just need to have more faith in yourself.
And i’m not saying toss out calibration. But how can you calibrate when you toss out your behavior at the slightest scent of disapproval. You calibrate so that the other party can feel comfortable not because something is inherently wrong with your behavior.
When you’re playing a sport you don’t always use your full force, not because something is wrong with your form, but because you might need a lighter or stronger touch so that your goal will receive you.
That is the highly touted “confidence” that everyone says girls are supposed to find so attractive.
I’m not saying having faith in yourself will stop you from getting rejected, but it will stop you from fixing stuff that isn’t broken, allow you to work on the real problems if there are any, and get you back into the game faster so that you can more easily progress.
My learning curves are so short in the things I do because I have astronomic faith in myself first.
andHere
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