Knowing Yourself

[Zoro]

I've noticed that many successful men, especially those good with women, understand themselves and what they want well.

Everything from screening women to moving fast with them is made possible and easier by understanding and going after what you want.

This may sound odd, but I feel I do not know what I want, all that well.

I observe how this effects my game, as I am hesitant and think a little too during my interactions.

So I'm wondering...

Do you know what you want?

and, has that always been clear to you?

 

[Richard]

Wick,

I'm ecstatic that you brought this up =P because it's something that I help people with all the time.

I firmly know who I am, what I want, and I have a plan to get it.

Knowing yourself is about knowing your values: which things you prioritize highest in your life, in your relationships, and in your work life. Once you understand those, you're able to map out which things are best for you in your life, and you proceed from there.

Anyway, to answer your questions:

Yes, I know what I want, but no, it wasn't always clear to me.

Up until I was in senior year of high school last year, I struggled to determine what I wanted (career-wise anyway), and it wasn't until I took psychology that I truly knew what I wanted to do. What happened was I found a field (psychology) that correlated and was congruent with what I had done my entire life which was give advice/therapy. The moment I stepped into a psych class I knew what I wanted because it fulfilled my values

Hope this helps you out, and if you're struggling to find out what you truly want, hit me up,

-Richard

 

[Desert Eagle]

Knowing thyself can take on many different forms, which extend past goal setting. Knowing your emotions, your reactions, and detailing out how you are, how you came to be are all a part of knowing who you are.

This may sound odd, but I feel I do not know what I want, all that well.

I observe how this effects my game, as I am hesitant and think a little too during my interactions.

It appears that you are finding a lack of purpose in your interactions. You just don't know why you're doing them, or frankly, why they matter. Are you talking to a girl to have sex? Or a relationship? Fit into society and be liked?

The man who wants to have sex with a woman gets it more easily than an aimless man who is not sure what he's after. Here's one of my main purpose points for getting out there and trying to sleep with women,

* Health, the driver of your own biologic systems, receives great benefit from a healthy, sexual, loving relationship with women. Enjoying great times and great sex is a great boost to health.

Because of the nature of this goal, I attempt to connect with women on an emotional level and provide great experiences. I can build this with multiple women and enjoy the great times and great sex regardless of any circumstances which may occur. With the knowledge that you know what you want, you can move forward in a more confident and efficient manner.

 

[BtwnSpaceAndInsomnia]

Im quite successful in real life, not so much with relationships and woman. I've met many successful men that are in this boat.

Nobody really quite knows outside of the general goal of being happy.
Successful people are just very good at navigating ambiguous situations and hit deadlines and move forward.
But you reevaluate alot, you question yourself, there is a whole internal dialogue.
We dont publicize it because the details are private and having the right advice is hard to come by anyways.
It costs more to talk about it than to actually sort it out yourself while having a sunny disposition.

This is normal though, top companies go through this on a macro level.
That being said, i have a very clear ideal of the type of woman i want to be with ( and it has to do alot with behavior and attitude and lived experience), which unfortunately does not give much for abundance.

If i can make an analogy, if your goal is past the peak in the far horizon, you kill alot of options.
If you set your goal 1km far, you will see alot of landmarks that are viable.