laid an asian virgin, how to proceed?

[mindful]

Hey guys,

I met this 25 yr old asian girl off bumble yesterday. Met out for a drink and then was able to get her back to my apt (with persistence).

I get her a glass of water when we get to my apt, which is usually what I always do for girls I bring back to my place for the first time. We sit on the couch and begin chatting, I also have music playing in the background. Convo is going smooth, after about 15-20 mins I go for the kiss and get the cheek turn lol. I immediately start thinking "oh here we go with the resistance". She stays pretty calm when I try to kiss her, doesn't really react or anything just turns her cheek. I get up and get her more water.

I sit back down and just continue a normal convo. Eventually I get my arm around her and then start holding her opposite hand as my arm is around her. She complies to my touching, put my hand on her leg near her pussy in a back-and-forth way. Eventually I go and try to kiss her again, but this time I kiss her cheek and forehead and then slowly try to work my way to her lips. She is resistant again so I start to ask her about it, tell her I bet shes a good kisser (which she laughs and says shes not). We continue this back and forth for a little bit and she brings up alcohol. She asks if I have any alcohol and that that would help. LOL I'm kind of laughing and being serious at the same time like you need alcohol to kiss haha. She laughs and says yes.

Unfortunately I have no alcohol in my apt. Usually don't have another drink back at my place just give the girl water. Anyways we are talking and she says "next time have wine or beer". I wasn't going to fall into the trap of "next time" since nothing is ever guaranteed with girls. I ask if she's comfortable with me and she says she is she just needs alcohol to kiss. Anyways, I eventually do get her to kiss... I tell her we can just do a peck on the lips no tongue. She eventually caves and we start kissing, which quickly turns into a make-out.

I take my time making-out with her while my hands feel her body and hair. I try to put my hand under her shirt but she laughs and starts to squirm. We eventually get to a point where I get my hand down her pants, and she is pretty hairy (first warning sign that she is probably a virgin). I finger her a little bit but she has her legs still clamped to resist. She is resisting but enjoying it at the same time. It's hard to finger her like this since she won't open her legs.

Eventually we stop for a bit and asks for more water. I get her water and she standing up. I stand beside her and start to kiss her again, and get her one breast out and start licking and sucking it. She really enjoys this, and I think this is the turning point in my escalation. After this, she sets down the water and I get her sitting on top of me on the couch.

I then get her bra off and continue to lick and suck her tits. She is really enjoying it and takes I get her to take off her shirt. I continue to kiss her and suck her tits and then she goes to take my shirt off. At this point I lead her upstairs. We are both eventually naked and just making out and such, i'm fingering her some more. I tell her I'll grab a condom and shes like "oh you have a condom?' I get the condom and then try to go to town. She is really tight and I ask her if she wants me to go slow. I still don't know shes a virgin at this point. I was only able to get my cock in halfway so never fully penetrated her. I eventually asked her if she wanted me to stop and she said yes. I pull out my cock and there is some blood on the condom.

I ask her if she is a virgin and she tells me yes. I told her she could of told me beforehand I would have been cool with it. After this we just make out and I finger her some more. Eventually was able to lick her pussy but it wasn't too enjoyable since she was pretty hairy lol. I get her to stroke my cock and suck it a little bit. She tells me it "tastes good". She doesn't suck it too long. We then get into a heavy make out session and i eventually get on top of her and rub my cock against her pussy. I do this until im ready to cum and then cum all over her stomach and get some in her pussy hair.

After this we go downstairs and she gets ready to leave. It was pretty late and she had to get going.

I sent her a warm text this morning telling her I had a good time and such.

She eventually got back to my not too long ago, but took almost the whole day to reply. I do like this girl and am not trying to just hit it and quit it. I'm thinking of getting her over to my place again in a few days and maybe try sex again? I'm not sure. But I wanna keep the momentum going.

Oh and, I'm the first guy she has met off bumble lol. I am not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing. I was kind of surprises she was a virgin. She did have a boyfriend but I guess they never did anything really sexual. She never gave a blowjob or anything before.

Should I run this the same as any other girl? Just see her a couple times a week and let it develop from there? I haven't asked her to hang out again yet so I don't know if she even will. I'm not too happy about sort of having sex with her, as you never know how much weight girls place on losing it, maybe more special when they are younger as opposed to mid 20s?

Either way I do like her and want to continue to see her.

 

[Hue]

So long as you sent her a warm text and received a her text back I think you're in line for a round 2+. I would go about it as normal and just make sure that you make her feel comfortable about being with you (intimately and sexually) while keeping attainability in check. If I had to choose between a "method" more in line with a post-sex 2nd date or a failed escalation 2nd date, I'd go with the former.

I eventually asked her if she wanted me to stop and she said yes.

That's too bad you only sorta had sex. But that's better you picked up on what she was feeling and stopped.


A girl losing her virginity can be really important to her. It can also be totally insignificant if she's never been fed fairytales about it - or quickly realizes it's just sex once she's been penetrated. It is one of those things that she'll remember the rest of her life though, so it's somewhat important to her that the memorable experience is a good one, hopefully you'd want the same. If she was 25 y/o you would think she'd have this huge expectation about what sex is and make a big deal about it, but to be honest, your escalation seemed like it didn't meet all that much resistance and you didn't write about you guys talking much about it after so.. could also be a "fuck it, I want to try it" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


Try to get her over again, bro. Do what you can to get her super wet with foreplay and she'll probably be down to try sex again. Just take it slow and steady, be gentle, and then eventually start actually fucking her. For some girls I know it hurts there first time, but I've met others that have been loving it since their first (;


Hue

 

[mindful]

So I hung out with this girl again on Fri. She came over to my place. We drank some wine and eventually ended up having sex again.

We also had dinner last night then went back to my place. We again had sex and she stayed over this time.

Now... the one thing that tripped me up is last night, we were talking and I forgot how we got on the subject, but she tells me "she doesn't know if she likes me yet". I try to pry a little more, in a cool, relaxed manner, but didn't really get a good answer. I also didn't wanna fall into the trap of talking about emotions and liking each other in a logical way since it wasn't going to do anything.

The convo basically ended with "i don't know if I like you yet, I'm confused".

I've never really been in this position before... is she talking more like evaluating me as a boyfriend? Obviously she likes me somewhat, otherwise she wouldn't be continuing to see me or have sex.

How should I proceed going further? Do I leave her alone for a week or so? Or just cut her off?

 

[Fuck This]

When she says that then you just reinforce good emotions about having sex together.
"You know what I like?" then proceed to talk about the sex, and how it turns you on when she.... and how sexy and warm she is.

Emphasize that the sex is its own reward and how it gets better each time.

give her good emotions about having sex with you so she associates the good feeling with the sex and not with your relationship..

Good Reading...

 

[mindful]

Thanks for the response!

Yeah i didn't think about framing it that way. Honestly when you are laying in bed with a girl naked after just having sex and she says that it just like caught me by surprise and wasn't something I wanted to hear (at least in that moment).

Anyways, I did let it breathe a little bit and finally hit her up today to hang out tomorrow evening. Still waiting on that response... lol. I think if she doesn't respond I will let it be and move on. I have more girls in the pipeline.