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First lay since getting back in the game! Took about two hours from approach to sex. For anyone who's read my journal I'm still working on getting over approach anxiety and getting in my own head, so this was a huge win for me.
Got to the venue about an hour and a half before bar close. It was my second choice of location, as it's often hit-or-miss, but I got right in and it was fairy packed. The plan was to make 3-5 solid approaches and maybe snag a phone number or two.
Said "hi" to a couple people as I walked in to try and get in a social vibe. Went to the bar to grab a drink and scope out the patio. Not a ton going on. Saw a group of three cute girls and a LOT of dudes. Decided I would check out the upstairs patio, and if there was nothing good up there I would go back down and approach the group.
As I'm walking up the stairs I see a pretty cute brunette walking behind me. I turn over the shoulder and say "hi". She says "hi" back with a warm smile. NICE! I asked how her night was going, she said she was good and was out with a friend who was celebrating her anniversary. I told her I was checking out the view and asked if she wanted to join me on one of the couches. She said sure, and I led her to one of the couches and we sat down to talk more. Funny story, it was soaked in the spot where I sat down, and my ass got all wet. Ahh well, I soldiered on
She started asking me the standard interview questions, name exchange and the conversation seemed a bit boring, but she seemed interested and the body language/eye contact was good. I had to get off that topic, so I complimented her on her nails, and held her hand a bit to "check them out". She said she liked how they matched my shirt... and that they matched her bra. Interesting she mentioned that...
Hour until bar close now, so I asked what her plans were for the night. She said she was staying at a hotel downtown and was going to Uber there at some point. Said she'd love to keep hanging out with me, but she needed to check in with her friend. I told her I would love an introduction, and that we should get another drink after. She agreed.
Met her friend who was very nice, we joked a bit about guys hitting on her right in front of her husband (who was about 6'5" and jacked, mind you). My girl and her friend chatted for a bit then she said we should get that drink. Remembering the power of kino, I grabbed her hand as I walked us through the crowded venue over to the bar. It's rowdy, people are dancing on the bar/tables. She dared me to climb up on a table and dance. I said "only if you join me". We went up there and shook our asses like no one was watching!
By this point I can tell she's into me, but I don't want to break the tension by kissing her yet. I decide to try and pull her out of the club, so I said "let's go outside" and held my arm out. She grabbed my arm and we walked out. My plan was to walk around the corner where it was quiet (and where everyone gets their uber) and see if she wanted to go have a drink at her hotel. If yes, great, if not, I would grab the phone number and still have 30 mins to try another approach. We had to walk by another club, and she wanted to go, so I agreed - in 30 mins we would have to leave anyways, and things were going well. I felt comfortable committing to this interaction for the night. As we stood in the queue, she commented how drunk everyone looked. I said, "probably because it's almost bar close". She said "shit, do we even bother?" I said "no let's just go".
I walked us around the corner and said "this is the best spot to get an uber - unless you'd like me to give you a ride. I'm basically sober and my car is only a couple blocks away". After a little hesitation on her part (getting into a stranger's car) she agreed. I told her I would lead the way...
Here is where it gets good. On the walk I asked her why her and her boyfriend broke up (found out earlier she had a recent breakup). She said he was a narcissist, and asked why me and my last girlfriend broke up. I told her it was tough because while we got along great and had tons of amazing sex, we didn't really have any common interests. She told me that made no sense. I said that I'm ambitious, I like to go on spontaneous adventures, and if something feels right in the moment, I will go for it because life is too short, and we should indulge in what makes us happy or feel good. I asked if she was that type of person and she said yes. I said that my love language is physical touch, while my ex's was quality time. And that I was too busy with my career to give her the time she needed. I asked what her ideal man was. She said "someone who's honest and likes to have lots of sex". Hmmm...
Drove to the hotel and found a free parking spot (I'm a cheap fuck). She said "you can come up with me, but don't expect anything". I said "I was expecting some good conversation after having to pay so much for this parking". She laughed. Forgot to mention she was kinda ditzy, and I had to help her find her room. Busted on her a little bit during the process. Get to the room and the view of the city is amazing. Took my shoes off and poured myself a water. She went to the bathroom then joined me on the couch. She started talking about some boring shit, so I cut her off and asked "what was your first impression of me?" She replied with "I thought you were really handsome, to be honest". I told her that I thought she was super cute, and that she should put on her favorite playlist. She did. I told her the couch was really uncomfortable and that we should sit on the bed. She said "don't get any ideas" but got up and moved to the bed.
I got really close to her and started playing with her hair while we talked about something. She looked up at me and I went to slowly kiss her, but she pulled away, buried her face in the pillow, then said "I really want to kiss you right now, but I shouldn't". I said "that's fine. Because if you aren't going to kiss me, I'm just going to kiss you" and went in for the kiss. This lasted ten seconds before I pulled away. I looked into her eyes, stayed silent for a second, then said "I thought you were going to be a good kisser". She said "am I not?" and I said "I was right - you are". Went right in and heavy making out ensued. I put my knee in between her legs and started getting her REALLY turned on. I slooowly worked my hands down to her pussy and she did not resist.
We took our clothes off, she gave me some amazing head, then we fucked in quite a few different positions for a long time. She told me about halfway through that she always had a fantasy of being pressed up against a window and fucked from behind while staring at the city lights. I was happy to oblige. Laid in bed for a bit, then went round two, and by this time it's 4:30am and I am ready to go the fuck home. The funniest part of the night is that I had completely forgotten her name. I asked for her number, standing there butt naked, then used the classic line "and how do you spell your name?" She's been blowing me up today and we're probably going to hang out on Tuesday.
What I learned is that I should always be moving the interaction forward, keeping things flirty, and LEAD. And if she complies, lead more and more. It has been a grind the past couple months and I am FINALLY getting some results! This should be massive for my confidence when it comes to approaching new women this week. This stuff works wonders btw.
Cheers,
JT
Got to the venue about an hour and a half before bar close. It was my second choice of location, as it's often hit-or-miss, but I got right in and it was fairy packed. The plan was to make 3-5 solid approaches and maybe snag a phone number or two.
Said "hi" to a couple people as I walked in to try and get in a social vibe. Went to the bar to grab a drink and scope out the patio. Not a ton going on. Saw a group of three cute girls and a LOT of dudes. Decided I would check out the upstairs patio, and if there was nothing good up there I would go back down and approach the group.
As I'm walking up the stairs I see a pretty cute brunette walking behind me. I turn over the shoulder and say "hi". She says "hi" back with a warm smile. NICE! I asked how her night was going, she said she was good and was out with a friend who was celebrating her anniversary. I told her I was checking out the view and asked if she wanted to join me on one of the couches. She said sure, and I led her to one of the couches and we sat down to talk more. Funny story, it was soaked in the spot where I sat down, and my ass got all wet. Ahh well, I soldiered on
She started asking me the standard interview questions, name exchange and the conversation seemed a bit boring, but she seemed interested and the body language/eye contact was good. I had to get off that topic, so I complimented her on her nails, and held her hand a bit to "check them out". She said she liked how they matched my shirt... and that they matched her bra. Interesting she mentioned that...
Hour until bar close now, so I asked what her plans were for the night. She said she was staying at a hotel downtown and was going to Uber there at some point. Said she'd love to keep hanging out with me, but she needed to check in with her friend. I told her I would love an introduction, and that we should get another drink after. She agreed.
Met her friend who was very nice, we joked a bit about guys hitting on her right in front of her husband (who was about 6'5" and jacked, mind you). My girl and her friend chatted for a bit then she said we should get that drink. Remembering the power of kino, I grabbed her hand as I walked us through the crowded venue over to the bar. It's rowdy, people are dancing on the bar/tables. She dared me to climb up on a table and dance. I said "only if you join me". We went up there and shook our asses like no one was watching!
By this point I can tell she's into me, but I don't want to break the tension by kissing her yet. I decide to try and pull her out of the club, so I said "let's go outside" and held my arm out. She grabbed my arm and we walked out. My plan was to walk around the corner where it was quiet (and where everyone gets their uber) and see if she wanted to go have a drink at her hotel. If yes, great, if not, I would grab the phone number and still have 30 mins to try another approach. We had to walk by another club, and she wanted to go, so I agreed - in 30 mins we would have to leave anyways, and things were going well. I felt comfortable committing to this interaction for the night. As we stood in the queue, she commented how drunk everyone looked. I said, "probably because it's almost bar close". She said "shit, do we even bother?" I said "no let's just go".
I walked us around the corner and said "this is the best spot to get an uber - unless you'd like me to give you a ride. I'm basically sober and my car is only a couple blocks away". After a little hesitation on her part (getting into a stranger's car) she agreed. I told her I would lead the way...
Here is where it gets good. On the walk I asked her why her and her boyfriend broke up (found out earlier she had a recent breakup). She said he was a narcissist, and asked why me and my last girlfriend broke up. I told her it was tough because while we got along great and had tons of amazing sex, we didn't really have any common interests. She told me that made no sense. I said that I'm ambitious, I like to go on spontaneous adventures, and if something feels right in the moment, I will go for it because life is too short, and we should indulge in what makes us happy or feel good. I asked if she was that type of person and she said yes. I said that my love language is physical touch, while my ex's was quality time. And that I was too busy with my career to give her the time she needed. I asked what her ideal man was. She said "someone who's honest and likes to have lots of sex". Hmmm...
Drove to the hotel and found a free parking spot (I'm a cheap fuck). She said "you can come up with me, but don't expect anything". I said "I was expecting some good conversation after having to pay so much for this parking". She laughed. Forgot to mention she was kinda ditzy, and I had to help her find her room. Busted on her a little bit during the process. Get to the room and the view of the city is amazing. Took my shoes off and poured myself a water. She went to the bathroom then joined me on the couch. She started talking about some boring shit, so I cut her off and asked "what was your first impression of me?" She replied with "I thought you were really handsome, to be honest". I told her that I thought she was super cute, and that she should put on her favorite playlist. She did. I told her the couch was really uncomfortable and that we should sit on the bed. She said "don't get any ideas" but got up and moved to the bed.
I got really close to her and started playing with her hair while we talked about something. She looked up at me and I went to slowly kiss her, but she pulled away, buried her face in the pillow, then said "I really want to kiss you right now, but I shouldn't". I said "that's fine. Because if you aren't going to kiss me, I'm just going to kiss you" and went in for the kiss. This lasted ten seconds before I pulled away. I looked into her eyes, stayed silent for a second, then said "I thought you were going to be a good kisser". She said "am I not?" and I said "I was right - you are". Went right in and heavy making out ensued. I put my knee in between her legs and started getting her REALLY turned on. I slooowly worked my hands down to her pussy and she did not resist.
We took our clothes off, she gave me some amazing head, then we fucked in quite a few different positions for a long time. She told me about halfway through that she always had a fantasy of being pressed up against a window and fucked from behind while staring at the city lights. I was happy to oblige. Laid in bed for a bit, then went round two, and by this time it's 4:30am and I am ready to go the fuck home. The funniest part of the night is that I had completely forgotten her name. I asked for her number, standing there butt naked, then used the classic line "and how do you spell your name?"
She's been blowing me up today and we're probably going to hang out on Tuesday.What I learned is that I should always be moving the interaction forward, keeping things flirty, and LEAD. And if she complies, lead more and more. It has been a grind the past couple months and I am FINALLY getting some results! This should be massive for my confidence when it comes to approaching new women this week. This stuff works wonders btw.
Cheers,
JT
