Laughter, wit and well-timed jokes.

[Animatronic_Squirrel]

There's a lot of emphasis on the blog that laughter can be bad for seduction, especially one-on-one. Cool. I get it - it can defuse tension.

However, being witty or having good timing seems enormously useful in a group setting, and the best seducers I know are able control the flow of attention in social circles by being funny or witty.

Here's the deal; I'm about as funny as a potato. I get that a lot of it has to do with social calibration - being able to spot incongruous moments and whatnot. But even considering that, I'm not sure how to be funny, make people laugh, or the type of humor that can be appropriate to use.

Is this a skill worth developing? Right this minute, I'm more interested in increasing my social abilities than an outright focus on seduction. And if so; how the hell do you guys start?

 

[Franco]

Animatronic,

I'd start watching some comedians and seeing which ones you find funny. Once you find one that makes you laugh, watch as many of his videos as you can, and determine how he uses his humor and how you can use it as well.

What also helps, if you have a Facebook, is to "Follow" pages that have funny posts. They usually have to do with mainstream or current happenings, so it's great material to use as conversation with girls if they're aware of it. For example, the Facebook page "Welcome to the Internet" has a lot of funny posts -- other FB pages worth looking into are The Onion, Clickhole, and The Oatmeal. All of their own types of posts they make regularly on Facebook with funny material.

Just absorb as much material as you can, and eventually you can use that same humor when you're in situations where it seems fit.

Hope that helps!

- Franco

 

[Troy]

Animatronic,

I probably sound like a broken recorder by now because I am always telling other guys on the boards that humor is very important. Humor is the backbone for chase framing and being playful. In my opinion if you can't make a girl laugh something will be lacking from the relationship. Whether she be a friend, lover, or girlfriend. Of course life doesn't revolve around making people laugh. There is a time to be serious and a time to be fun, a time to make girls laugh their heads off and a time to deep dive them.

Yes the best seducers are the ones who manage social circles well (usually).. I agree with you and I am also on the same mission. Working on all the social dynamics instead of putting all focus only on seduction. And since I am in high school I need to put the majority of my focus there. It's kind of a closed environment where everyone knows everyone from different high schools.

For you that might not be the case. Nevertheless humor is what makes life fun. I suggest if you haven't gotten the e-book get it now ( and follow Franco's advice ) Make Girls Laugh

Troy

 

[ray_zorse]

I think it would be good to develop a focus on sexual humour and chase frames (which are a form of humour, Chase recommends to use them to lighten up a deep dive for instance). I suggest to read stickied LRs, there's also a lot of examples in my posts which I cannot be bothered digging up right now. Basically once you develop a library of sexual and chase frames, you find they're quite broadly applicable with small changes to suit the situation. Yes, initially it will be difficult, probably one of the hardest things is forcing yourself to actually say the sexual or chase frame smoothly when it comes into your head and you're not used to doing so. Just keep trying.

On the other hand, I feel that too much humour can be a disadvantage as already meantioned, and I would recommend a focus on your delivery, try to keep it as deadpan as possible. I have been finding that in my interactions I'm often laughing at my own jokes and just generally keeping a very funny, playful vibe going (by using a lot of sexual humour), but when I catch sight of myself in a mirror I notice that I can look quite strained and tense, because I'm constantly exercising my facial muscles with all this laughter and smiling etc. So it's best to practice "law of least effort" in facial expressions and just try gentle slow smiles and that kind of thing.

I wanted to post a link to that book suggested by Troy, but had lost it. I've read it and found it to be somewhat useful, even though the author gets off the brief a bit, and talks a fair bit about general seduction related matters.

Ray

 

[Ross]

Ah, yes, wit. My specialty .

I feel that most of the previous advice given has been good for developing wit. Exposure to others that have a great wit about them will cause you to develop a good instinct for it, so as long as you are surrounding yourself with funny people you should be fine. You develop this kind of instinct where you start expecting to hear something witty after someone says something, and oftentimes you'll just say it yourself and get some laughs.

Also, laughter and defusion of tension definitely has a place in seduction. Building up tension too far will cause auto-rejection, so its good to let a little pressure loose every now and then, especially with the more inexperienced girls.