Leaning and applying game is making me exhausted. What to do?

[kristian]

Hey guys.

I am really putting myself out there, trying new stuff, going out of my comfort zone and changing my thoughts on what I actually believe possible. I have a lot of things going on (dates, GF, FWB and getting closer to having one night stands). This new life is amazing and now I am understanding more and more the concept of moving fast and being sexual.

But this whole game has a big drawback. Emotional exhaustion.

Because I am actively doing new things in a very short amount of time, it seem like my brain is on fire these days. My dreams are crazy, and I am seeing pretty girls everywhere. Its like I am in PUA-mode when I am out and its making me tired. I mean I love the new me, but the improved version needs to relax sometimes and just reset my mind.

Is this only temporary because I am new at this? Or do I need to practice something (meditation, relaxation exercises) to survive the meatgrind?

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Kristian,

PUA is exhausting, especially when you are new. Once you get the process down it become second nature and a lot of the stress goes away. Several of the guys her practice meditation to relieve the stress. Meditation and relaxation techniques are nearly the same so both are good at relieving stress. Knowing what causes the stress can help you find ways to relieve it. Below is a list of some of the common causes.

- Fear of rejection
- Moral conflicts
- Self doubt
- Being unprepared
- Inexperience

There are lots of things to deal with above. I just want to address one aspect. One moral dilemma you may face is if you are making women have sex with you who don't want to. Are you tricking them? Yesterday I read one of Chase's articles about Sexual Tension. Within the article he talks about how women are in control of who turns them on. He said,

You cannot force a woman into wanting her. You can't trick her, or fool her, or manipulate her. You can only free her into her desire... if she is in search of it.

If she does not want to feel desire though, nowhere in her heart, nothing you can do or say can affect her.

Therefore you can only have sex with a woman if she wants to do it with you. As a Seducer you are setting the situation so she feels comfortable with having sex with you. You can not trick her into it. Once you realize this it takes away that concern.

BDSC

 

[Rage]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-c ... thing-else

Was rereading the above today; it is relevant here I think man.

Cold approach and pickup are extremely difficult and challenging and taxing to get good at but it has to be for the rewards you get on the other end of it to be that worth it.

Wanting the highest returns and best dates and lays REQUIRES putting in the most work getting the most skilled with women and approaching and meeting lots of girls till you get the best one(s) (whatever your definition of that might happen to be... that definition typically shifts and matures too).

Keep at it bro, only you can let yourself keep trying and keep working to progress just as only you can say "no it doesnt work it isn't possible, I quit/give up/will just do social circle and nothing else).

We all have much further we want to go and much more we want to do, but it takes this sort of grind to get there for each of us: this is true every step of the journey, wherever you might individually happen to be in that. Embrace that grind and love how hard it is, and then from there work balls hard to get as good as you can, and you can get to some pretty high heights/skill levels in time.

-Rage

 

[Smith]

My dreams are crazy, and I am seeing pretty girls everywhere. Its like I am in PUA-mode when I am out and its making me tired. I mean I love the new me, but the improved version needs to relax sometimes and just reset my mind.

You shouldn't feel like you're in PUA-mode when you're out. Remember you're not out there to HUNT. You don't need to be in survival mode with your adrenaline pumping every time you see a cute girl. You're out there to HAVE FUN. Switch your mindset around. Talking to girls and socializing should make you feel energized rather than tired.