Hi there. I've been here for a year now, having steady progress lately and a lot of a-ha moments.
Until I was 27 I only had one woman (my ex GF). I left her three years ago and embarked on a journey trying to figure this whole seduction thing out. I started having success with online dating when I began my pick up "carreer". I have also had some relationships (my last one three months ago) and quit doing the online thing a couple of years ago in order to cold approach a lot more.
In a year I've had three lays from cold approach and some from the extended social circle. I am satisfied with my successes and fully aware that I have a long way to go in order to become the kind of lover I envisioned a year ago. Thats when I started doing this seriously.
But hanging out here, meeting people from the small community here in Norway and through my talented friends, I feel like I am playing a young mans game. The ones I know that are good with women, started to learn this in their early to mid-twenties, some guys are older than that but it's rare to meet someone over 30 doing this as they're either in a LTR or already married and planning kids.
I am currently 30 years old. Women in my age are already looking for something serious so I had to learn quickly to adapt my game so to speak to women in their early 20s. The age gap is not a problem as far I know. I also feel alive when I am with my younger pick-up interested friends, but I also feel a little lonely since I don't have any friend my age doing this thing. They're either in a commited relationship, already established as womanisers (in other words not down to teach) or have given up learning to pick up women.
I guess my question is: given all these factors, what are the advantages in learning game 10 years later than what's normal?
In a way I feel that more is expected from me. Girls in their 20s expect me to be already established as a womaniser (more now that I have good fundamentals).
In another way I feel like my life experience give me a competitive edge over guys their age. I seem more secure in myself and "worldly", so to speak.
I would love to read some of your take on this issue. I haven't read any post here or anywhere about learning pick up as an "older" guy.
Until I was 27 I only had one woman (my ex GF). I left her three years ago and embarked on a journey trying to figure this whole seduction thing out. I started having success with online dating when I began my pick up "carreer". I have also had some relationships (my last one three months ago) and quit doing the online thing a couple of years ago in order to cold approach a lot more.
In a year I've had three lays from cold approach and some from the extended social circle. I am satisfied with my successes and fully aware that I have a long way to go in order to become the kind of lover I envisioned a year ago. Thats when I started doing this seriously.
But hanging out here, meeting people from the small community here in Norway and through my talented friends, I feel like I am playing a young mans game. The ones I know that are good with women, started to learn this in their early to mid-twenties, some guys are older than that but it's rare to meet someone over 30 doing this as they're either in a LTR or already married and planning kids.
I am currently 30 years old. Women in my age are already looking for something serious so I had to learn quickly to adapt my game so to speak to women in their early 20s. The age gap is not a problem as far I know. I also feel alive when I am with my younger pick-up interested friends, but I also feel a little lonely since I don't have any friend my age doing this thing. They're either in a commited relationship, already established as womanisers (in other words not down to teach) or have given up learning to pick up women.
I guess my question is: given all these factors, what are the advantages in learning game 10 years later than what's normal?
In a way I feel that more is expected from me. Girls in their 20s expect me to be already established as a womaniser (more now that I have good fundamentals).
In another way I feel like my life experience give me a competitive edge over guys their age. I seem more secure in myself and "worldly", so to speak.
I would love to read some of your take on this issue. I haven't read any post here or anywhere about learning pick up as an "older" guy.