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Lessons I am learning about status in adulthood. Your thoughts GC?

Indian Race Troll (IRT)

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I feel like all the way from high school and especially after college, the higher value kids such as girls in the hottest sorority, the wealthiest frats, and all of those kinds of kids have some sort of a tight knit network. Even though I live in a major city, it seems like if I go to certain bars, I am running into the same fucking people I ran into when I went to college way outside of the city but in the same state.

Just recently I fucked this hot girl I met at a rooftop pool party (lay report upcoming, might take me a while to write it out) and I asked her how she got in. She told me how her sister (sorority) and kids from her university in general tend to move to NYC or a big popular city for a while in their 20s to live it up. Among those kids, there are certain crowds they run in, often with their college friends but they branch out from there onto meeting others in their situation as well.

The average college graduate isn't doing any of that.

They complain all the time about how it is impossible to have fun after college but most of all, they are usually:

1. In debt so they cannot go out to party as much.

2. Working a job they hate which barely pays the bills.

3. Not really moving to a big city in general, especially not a popular one, due to the cost of living there.

4. Not aiming to have fun in life because they thought that the fun ended after college or they never really bothered to start having fun in the first place.

We compare that to a lot of these kids who likely came from wealthier families and here is what I notice:

1. They move to a big city with a network already in place, likely other college classmates, so they are connected from the get go.

2. They move to a big city to have fun while they can in their 20s, to continue some parts of their college glory days.

3. They do not have to keep wandering around trying to piece together a social life or group of friends, it is already there for them, usually other wealthier kids they knew in college and they branch out from there if they need to, usually through fancier social events.

Now I have been doing more and more of this, taking advantage of the alumni network at my university, and meeting back up with some old friends. I notice some of them tend to frequent the same kinds of bars and are focused in the same area.

Problem for me is that I fucking hated my alma mater, could not stand even 90% of those people. Private university, big Greek Life scene for a school in the fucking northeast, stuck up girls, rude people, frat guys looking for a fight, and it was a horrible experience.

I would ideally love to connect with and run with groups and crowds of girls who went to a place like Arizona St and moved up to a big city from there instead of staying near the suckers at my alma mater. Recently fucked a hot girl that went to an SEC school though (talked about it earlier in my thread) so that was a huge plus but this is somewhat eye opening to me.
 
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Oh Pry,

Sounds like you're finally starting to hone in on the issues, here! You are correct -- the people who are complaining are the ones who aren't doing anything with their lives after college. Yet, if you actually go out there yourself, you'll see there are plenty of guys who aren't complaining and just living their 20s the way they want to live it.

As far as seeing people you dislike, it might be worth moving to another big city in the future now that you have a healthier mindset about these things. That way, you'll get to experience the same lifestyle but without having to run into people who remind you of elements of the past that you'd rather forget.

- Franco
 

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I also have the same problem. I live in Seattle and I do not like the monotonicity of the people I am surrounded by here as well, which to describe them it would be outdoorsy techies and asocial techies. I also went to a top tech college where I didn't like the atmosphere that I was surrounded by (geeky, asocial, lack of attractive women, etc.) but I stuck it out to get a high paying software engineering job that I have right now. Nonetheless, I did meet a social and nerdy Jewish friend in college who lives in New York and got to meet a lot of his friends too when I went to New York. I definitely like the vibe in New York a lot more due to the diversity, also feels older and more European in many ways too. I definitely have a plan to get a promotion and get in shape so that I can leverage the promotion into an even higher paying role in New York and my body should be ready to meet massive amounts of beautiful women in NYC that I can't find here in Seattle. I'm a strict believer in efficiency, and this has caused me to delay working on meeting women in favor of earning more money earlier in life, and you would understand why once you see graphs on how economic growth (stocks) and interest (bonds) compound.

There is this concept of the locus of control, and it has to do with how much control you think you have over your life. A high locus of control means that you believe you make your life, which I think has benefited me a lot even in the face of short term unhappiness. And I'm glad we're all taking responsibility here for changing things we're unhappy with, something most people with a low locus of control would blame on external factors instead (corporations, government, feminism, etc).
 

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Franco said:
Oh Pry,

Sounds like you're finally starting to hone in on the issues, here! You are correct -- the people who are complaining are the ones who aren't doing anything with their lives after college. Yet, if you actually go out there yourself, you'll see there are plenty of guys who aren't complaining and just living their 20s the way they want to live it.

As far as seeing people you dislike, it might be worth moving to another big city in the future now that you have a healthier mindset about these things. That way, you'll get to experience the same lifestyle but without having to run into people who remind you of elements of the past that you'd rather forget.

- Franco

Moving out of NYC? I don't know about that Franco, this city provides the highest ceiling to any younger guy out there compared to most other cities.

My thoughts were more about how we don't talk about this sort of stuff even on here in regards to building status after your school years as it can be quite beneficial, making it a lot easier to get laid.
 
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