Lifestyle VS Pickup

[Bboy100]

So, I've recently been reading Models that Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson. And he makes a very compelling case for why our lifestyles and the things we do with our lives in general are a critical factor in what kinds of women we will attract. And just reading that chapter got me thinking: How important is "game" in finding high quality girlfriends? Obviously, if my goal in life is to have sex with as many women as I can, studying game would be the best way to go about doing that hands down. But when it comes to attracting and keeping high quality women, I'm starting to believe cultivating a certain lifestyle would be more helpful than mastering "tactics" like deep diving and chase framing. Especially post-sex. Like, if I have no direction, no mission, nothing of particular interest going on in my life, it doesn't matter how good I am at managing relationships, I feel like my chances of keeping her would be far lower than a guy who simply has an interesting life and other pursuits and endeavors. What do you guys think?

 

[Franco]

Bboy,

Ultimately, if you're going to be a "Provider" for a girl and you can't provide (meaning start a stable family and provide children for her), it's going to eventually put an end to the relationship.

However, that stuff only begins to matter down the road in a relationship (probably around the 2-year drop on average). You can be the guy with no job or no mission, but if you're giving her great sex and have great relationship management skills, you'd be surprised how long you can keep a girl around. This doesn't mean she won't be hounding you to improve your life, though.

If you think about it, if she finds a guy that is the most dominant man she's ever met and gives her the best sex she's ever had, it's probably going to be easier in her mind to try to change his habits and get him to provide rather than dump him and try to find another man who satisfies her the way he does. So she'll likely do everything in her power to keep him but also have him fill the provider role.

It's why you'll sometimes see stunning women with deadbeat guys. The guy likely is 100% in the Lover role, and she LOVES that about him, but she's hoping that if she hangs around and prods him enough that she can make him into a family man. At a certain point, the guy either decides to get his act together and provide for her, or he exits the relationship.

Personally, you should always be pursuing your own mission or at least have things going on in your life that you're passionate about other than women, otherwise you'll likely either be very distracted by them (which will not let you perform at your highest level) or you'll realize one day that you're tired of the lifestyle and realize you don't have any other passions or skills to motivate you. Don't try to cultivate a lifestyle to draw in high quality women though; you're going to find that you're putting in a lot of effort for something that can be done with a lot less effort by just practicing your skills while cultivating a lifestyle that is just for you.

- Franco