Like as a friend more

[Whizzy]

I just met up with this cool girl this weekend and I've hit a bit of a roadblock. She seems to think I want a relationship for some reason and even though she "like likes" me as she put it, she likes me as a friend more. We spent three straight nights together over break, had sex briefly on the 2nd (neither finished because she was sore really fast but she loved it). She wants to hangout again as friends, but i am unsure of how to approach this properly since she knows I liked her. I'm thinking of scraping it and writing it down as a lost cause but wanted people's opinions so I dont mess up again in the future

 

[Just_Dave]

It sounds like she's trying to rope you into a relationship, hence the whole let's back track after getting intimate attitude.

These situations can come on for a number of reasons such as:
Anti-slut defense
Boyfriend Material
How much time you've spent with her
How much time you talk to her
Your value
And what you guys do when you meet up/hangout

Core points: Honesty
She probably just wants to meet up to DFR (define the relationship), this would be a great opportunity to her her out and decide if you can actually keep seeing her and what not. Majority of the time depending on how experienced the girl is, they want sex to lead to relationships. Other times girls just don't like giving it up and watching you walk out.

Either way this is my two cents, I'm sure the others will have good input as well.

Take care,

Dave

 

[Whizzy]

Hey Dave, sounds like you're saying she is pushing back to make sure that I am persistent?

 

[Just_Dave]

Hey Dave, sounds like you're saying she is pushing back to make sure that I am persistent?

Well if by persistent you mean, you won't hit it and quit it then yes. (A guy who will walk out on her, but rather enjoy her company and give her great sex)

Yes, sometimes girls just want to pull up because they feel like they put themselves too much out there. They do this because they don't want to get hurt. Guys can have sex and it will be nothing for the most part. Women on the other hand, sex is more about the connection and all that other stuff. It's all about protecting herself.

 

[Whizzy]

She did mention that before, which is partly why I am unsure of whether or not I should persist or not. She also mentioned how much of a great boyfriend I would make (not really a yikes as we had slept together). However the day after our dates (so yesterday) so drove 3 hours to see a fwb guy so I'm not sure if I would be more backup as a safer option than him or what

 

[Just_Dave]

However the day after our dates (so yesterday) so drove 3 hours to see a fwb guy so I'm not sure if I would be more backup as a safer option than him or what

Could you elaborate on here a little more? I'm just slightly confused on the wording.

 

[Whizzy]

However the day after our dates (so yesterday) so drove 3 hours to see a fwb guy so I'm not sure if I would be more backup as a safer option than him or what

Could you elaborate on here a little more? I'm just slightly confused on the wording.

After we finished hanging out on the last day she went extremely out of her way to see another guy that she was sleeping with (hollister model or something), but he kept telling her they could see other people so we went on a couple dates as a result. So thinking towards that, it almost sounds like I'm a backup to him if they dont work out?

 

[Just_Dave]

However the day after our dates (so yesterday) so drove 3 hours to see a fwb guy so I'm not sure if I would be more backup as a safer option than him or what

Could you elaborate on here a little more? I'm just slightly confused on the wording.

After we finished hanging out on the last day she went extremely out of her way to see another guy that she was sleeping with (hollister model or something), but he kept telling her they could see other people so we went on a couple dates as a result. So thinking towards that, it almost sounds like I'm a backup to him if they dont work out?

Yeah in a situation like that, you're going to want to let her go, or at least not go exclusive with her. Because you'll be in a complete disadvantage or a back up as you put it. Anyway at this point it does sound like she's trying to make you a backup. So yes, I wouldn't get overly involved with her.

 

[Whizzy]

Thanks for the input Dave!