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Hi all,
Two questions for those familiar with the scenario. You can jump to the bottom of the post for the questions, but here's the backstory.
Met a girl at the bar. Said I liked her jacket, pulled her in, peck on the lips, talked for 5 min, got the number, got out.
First date we met for coffee, talked for around an hour, but couldn't bring her home because she was adamant on finishing HW with her friend. On the second date, I met her close to her place since I was around the area, and due to bad logistics (away from my house), I couldn't bring her home. On THIRD date, we had drinks/movie at my place. We started making out/feeling around, and when I went to finger her, her hand came down and said "she wants to take things slow". Fine. Kept messing around, and trying to finger until it was late and she went home.
On the FOURTH date, I suggested movie at my place again. Thought this would be a shoe in. Once again, when I went down to finger her, I got the "I think we should wait. I've made this mistake before with going to fast with guys, etc..."
MY QUESTION:
1) What do you guys do/say when you get LMR? I always feel awkward because I don't have anything to say after a girl says this. I just kind of keep cuddling/making out, etc.
2) Would you leave this girl and move on? I'm on the verge of saying screw it, and just ignoring texts/moving on. But am I walking away too soon? Is there something I can say to let her know if we don't do anything beyond kissing, I'm gone? I told her half-jokingly, in a sarcastic voice and a smile, that maybe we'd be better off as friends. Don't know if this was the right thing to say, as I don't want to sound bitter after getting LMR.
THOUGHTS?!
Two questions for those familiar with the scenario. You can jump to the bottom of the post for the questions, but here's the backstory.
Met a girl at the bar. Said I liked her jacket, pulled her in, peck on the lips, talked for 5 min, got the number, got out.
First date we met for coffee, talked for around an hour, but couldn't bring her home because she was adamant on finishing HW with her friend. On the second date, I met her close to her place since I was around the area, and due to bad logistics (away from my house), I couldn't bring her home. On THIRD date, we had drinks/movie at my place. We started making out/feeling around, and when I went to finger her, her hand came down and said "she wants to take things slow". Fine. Kept messing around, and trying to finger until it was late and she went home.
On the FOURTH date, I suggested movie at my place again. Thought this would be a shoe in. Once again, when I went down to finger her, I got the "I think we should wait. I've made this mistake before with going to fast with guys, etc..."
MY QUESTION:
1) What do you guys do/say when you get LMR? I always feel awkward because I don't have anything to say after a girl says this. I just kind of keep cuddling/making out, etc.
2) Would you leave this girl and move on? I'm on the verge of saying screw it, and just ignoring texts/moving on. But am I walking away too soon? Is there something I can say to let her know if we don't do anything beyond kissing, I'm gone? I told her half-jokingly, in a sarcastic voice and a smile, that maybe we'd be better off as friends. Don't know if this was the right thing to say, as I don't want to sound bitter after getting LMR.
THOUGHTS?!
