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I know a big part of game is location, where you're meeting the girls. In many different aspects.
I've been going out and approaching girls for, lets say about a month now. I live in a suburban area and the only good place to find women is the local grocery store. I've approached at least three of the employees in my age group, two of which had boyfriends. The third of which I just got back from approaching and kind of blew it because I was nervous. This happens a lot, the first approach or two I'm nervous but then I build momentum and get much more comfortable with it. This poses a problem though, which I'm getting to.
Because I live in a less populated area, I tend to have to move to a different town outside of my own. I'll go to one with a population of about 50,000 most of the time because that's where the Mall and other better/good places are. So I'll use the mall, the grocery store in my town, the grocery store in the same town as the mall, walmart, target, etc. I'll sometimes go store hopping and find miniscule amounts of women. I'm more interested in day game than I am night game. I should probably add that I'm not 21 yet as well. I also don't like going to places like these with the sole intention of talking to girls because it sometimes makes me feel out of place if I'm there for too long without any products lol.
The problem is that the mall is probably the best place to go in order to get that momentum going, but I mean once that's been run out, that's that. There's not enough girls at the grocery store to gain the momentum needed it seems. Although sometimes I have better days where my state won't be so bothersome in the beginning and I don't get that nervousness. However, most numbers I get flake even if a good amount of rapport was gained during the interaction. Someone please answer this for me here: it's best to wait two days after getting a number to call, right?
Anyway, I'm wondering what are some good places to find girls that I might be missing? I have grocery store, mall, coffee shops, flea markets... Maybe I just need to get better? I just need to know where I stand here. I think it's just a matter of getting better. If you agree with that last statement, what are some good questions to begin the interaction? I mean usually I start with things like, where are you from? what do you like to do for fun? what do you like most about that? what's it like where you're from? and I can usually dive deeper from there... but sometimes these questions will dull the conversation more than intended. It really depends on the girl I'm talking to. Maybe you guys have some better ones to open with if you think that might be the issue.
TL;DR: Under 21, live in a low populated area, not sure if my problem is a lack of women to get to know and practice with due to my location - hence my slow progress - or if it might be my game in general. I have a VERY GOOD foundation of knowledge about how to go about doing this stuff and I just got out of a relationship so I'm applying it more and more. I was already applying it somewhat to the relationship and before I got into that relationship, because before I was in the game to find relationships. Now, however, I realize I'm a bit young to be thinking so far ahead and I just want to have fun doing this stuff. I really enjoy meeting new people so I just want this to work for me. I'm all ears.
EDIT: I just want to add that my inner game is pretty solid. Most people around here know I'm a confident guy and I get along well with everyone. I have no enemies and hold no grudges, I don't mourn over my ex-girlfriend every day and wallow in pain or anything. I'm so over it because I have abundance mentality, yet that mentality kind of feels like it's fading at this rate when I'm not seeing much success. It almost feels like I'm in a dangerous spot. I really have no desire to get back with her, but only continue move myself forward.
I've been going out and approaching girls for, lets say about a month now. I live in a suburban area and the only good place to find women is the local grocery store. I've approached at least three of the employees in my age group, two of which had boyfriends. The third of which I just got back from approaching and kind of blew it because I was nervous. This happens a lot, the first approach or two I'm nervous but then I build momentum and get much more comfortable with it. This poses a problem though, which I'm getting to.
Because I live in a less populated area, I tend to have to move to a different town outside of my own. I'll go to one with a population of about 50,000 most of the time because that's where the Mall and other better/good places are. So I'll use the mall, the grocery store in my town, the grocery store in the same town as the mall, walmart, target, etc. I'll sometimes go store hopping and find miniscule amounts of women. I'm more interested in day game than I am night game. I should probably add that I'm not 21 yet as well. I also don't like going to places like these with the sole intention of talking to girls because it sometimes makes me feel out of place if I'm there for too long without any products lol.
The problem is that the mall is probably the best place to go in order to get that momentum going, but I mean once that's been run out, that's that. There's not enough girls at the grocery store to gain the momentum needed it seems. Although sometimes I have better days where my state won't be so bothersome in the beginning and I don't get that nervousness. However, most numbers I get flake even if a good amount of rapport was gained during the interaction. Someone please answer this for me here: it's best to wait two days after getting a number to call, right?
Anyway, I'm wondering what are some good places to find girls that I might be missing? I have grocery store, mall, coffee shops, flea markets... Maybe I just need to get better? I just need to know where I stand here. I think it's just a matter of getting better. If you agree with that last statement, what are some good questions to begin the interaction? I mean usually I start with things like, where are you from? what do you like to do for fun? what do you like most about that? what's it like where you're from? and I can usually dive deeper from there... but sometimes these questions will dull the conversation more than intended. It really depends on the girl I'm talking to. Maybe you guys have some better ones to open with if you think that might be the issue.
TL;DR: Under 21, live in a low populated area, not sure if my problem is a lack of women to get to know and practice with due to my location - hence my slow progress - or if it might be my game in general. I have a VERY GOOD foundation of knowledge about how to go about doing this stuff and I just got out of a relationship so I'm applying it more and more. I was already applying it somewhat to the relationship and before I got into that relationship, because before I was in the game to find relationships. Now, however, I realize I'm a bit young to be thinking so far ahead and I just want to have fun doing this stuff. I really enjoy meeting new people so I just want this to work for me. I'm all ears.
EDIT: I just want to add that my inner game is pretty solid. Most people around here know I'm a confident guy and I get along well with everyone. I have no enemies and hold no grudges, I don't mourn over my ex-girlfriend every day and wallow in pain or anything. I'm so over it because I have abundance mentality, yet that mentality kind of feels like it's fading at this rate when I'm not seeing much success. It almost feels like I'm in a dangerous spot. I really have no desire to get back with her, but only continue move myself forward.
