Logistics for young adults

[Dormidov2]

Helloo everyone, i've had this doubt ever since I started reading GC.

I actually believe around 75% of the articles it's directed towards people that have their own place, where they can crash with a girl everytime they want.

However, in some cultures it's customary to move from the parents until the marriage. I'm talking again about 70-80% of men and women living with their parents until 27-29 years old.

Since i'm still young (22 yo), most of the girls I'm interested in doesn't have the posibbility (and i'm talking about logistics only) to get laid without having to use the resort of getting into a hotel (few people want to spend around 30 dollars to get laid) or also to do it in a car/closet/bathroom etc...

My question is, how necessary is having sex for young adults around my sex, compared to the adults around 25-30 yo. Is there a "Plan B" that gives the same or similar results?

-Dormido.

 

[Franco]

Dormidov,

Just out of curiosity, what culture is it that has most men staying with their parents until their late 20s? And is it actually a cultural thing, or is it a financial thing? What do the other 20%-30% of men do?

- Franco

 

[Tim Iron]

Dormidov2, I would take a guess and say, you are in Africa. Either Kenya, Ghana, Benin Or Nigeria. Franco, It is sort of a culture thing in so many parts of Africa (low income & lower middle class) that there is no need to move out of your parents house if your place of work is not very far from home. And so most people only move out when they are getting married.

Here is my own story: When I finished University (I was 22 years then), I moved to another state in my Country where I had an Aunt (my mother's younger sister) that treats me like her own child. After staying in her house for 4 months (I had a room to myself alone) when I insisted I wanted to get my own apartment, she did everything possible to stop me. She called my Mother, Grandmother, 2 Uncles to complain that why was I insisting on leaving her house when her husband & kids (my junior cousins) did not offend me. She was really sad that I was insisting on having my own place. My workplace at that time was like 15 minutes slow drive from the house.

But, guess what I still left my Aunt's house to an apartment that was like 10 minutes walk from her house and I was still eating dinner everyday in her house.

So, Dormidov2 if you are working or earning your own income, look for a good reason to get your own apartment and insist on it, except maybe you can't afford to rent a place of your own. If that is your case, then always fix your dates in a hotel bars or restaurant so that you can make an excuse that you are staying in the hotel overnight and invite her in.

 

[Franco]

I think Tayo has given you some good advice, and he has experience to back it up. My suggestion was going to be to do anything in your power to move out -- even if it's just around the corner from your family. If it's a financial issue, then you really should look for any possible way to increase your income so that you can afford it. It makes a world of difference.

Cheers,

Franco

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

I turned 27 last month and I still live with my parents, not financially stable yet, no college degree yet either, which I feel kinda ashamed of for not taking education seriously earlier because like a year or year and a half ago, that's when it hit me really hard in my mind, that the harsh reality of life is that it is very hard, almost impossible to acquire a job that provides enough financial stability to live on with just a high school diploma

 

[Tim Iron]

You can start learning about different internet business models on WarriorForum.com or you can start learning about a Blue Collar skill that you can later use to start a business. I am sure you live in U.S.A --- that is the land of freedom and opportunity, you can overcome you lack of college degree.

I turned 27 last month and I still live with my parents, not financially stable yet, no college degree yet either, which I feel kinda ashamed of for not taking education seriously earlier because like a year or year and a half ago, that's when it hit me really hard in my mind, that the harsh reality of life is that it is very hard, almost impossible to acquire a job that provides enough financial stability to live on with just a high school diploma

 

[Man-O]

Feel so obligated to be having my education paid by the state + we get paid for taking the education when reading this.
I think Italy, Spain and Greece got same issues with young adults staying by family till they've completed their education. Might be so in muslim countries too.

 

[Dormidov2]

hahaha well, i do not how to feel about you thinking im from africa, but ok.

Actually, i guess it's just as cultural as economical. People is not accustomed to get roomates to share expenses and they prefer to move until having a girl...i guess.

anyway, i'm actually right now getting a new job so i could have a place on my own...so let's the girls come

Thanks to everyone for your answers.

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

hate how it has to look worse in guys than it does in girls if a person lives with their parents

 

[Nova]

Well, I would have though that if you are living in a place where it is seen as normal for a guy to live with his parents until later on that there wouldn't be any huge social stigma against it that you would have to overcome with a girl, so I guess the issue must be that your parents don't allow you to bring a girl back as often as you like?

In that case your only two options are talk to your parents and tell them that you are a big boy now and that you want to bang chicks (you will have to put up with the knowledge that they are probably cringing next door and can hear every squeak of the bed and moan as you slam her but hey ho)

OR

You can go and make enough money, and move out. I don't know if that's possible where you live and in your situation, but whatever, if it's not then go to option one.

You know the answers lol. It's really simple. Either stay and find a way to make it work, or work your ass off and move out. Simple.

For sure seduction will always be easier when you have your own place, I will give you that. Which is why if you can, I think you should be looking to move out. Don't stay somewhere that isn't working or you don't like just because it's customary to. Jesus fuck that. It's probably customary over there not to have sex before marriage also right? I don't do customs.

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Well, I would have though that if you are living in a place where it is seen as normal for a guy to live with his parents until later on that there wouldn't be any huge social stigma against it that you would have to overcome with a girl, so I guess the issue must be that your parents don't allow you to bring a girl back as often as you like?

In that case your only two options are talk to your parents and tell them that you are a big boy now and that you want to bang chicks (you will have to put up with the knowledge that they are probably cringing next door and can hear every squeak of the bed and moan as you slam her but hey ho)

OR

You can go and make enough money, and move out. I don't know if that's possible where you live and in your situation, but whatever, if it's not then go to option one.

You know the answers lol. It's really simple. Either stay and find a way to make it work, or work your ass off and move out. Simple.

For sure seduction will always be easier when you have your own place, I will give you that. Which is why if you can, I think you should be looking to move out. Don't stay somewhere that isn't working or you don't like just because it's customary to. Jesus fuck that. It's probably customary over there not to have sex before marriage also right? I don't do customs.

my parents are okay with that, it's more on how girls would be okay with it

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

since it seems a lot of girls, or almost all of them, refuse to date or hook up with, sleep with a guy that lives with his parents if he is past a certain age, meanwhile most guys could care less if a girl lives with her parents or not

 

[Dormidov2]

Well guys, I left my house this weekend and i'm on my own right now Im pretty happy with my new home even if I have still to buy all the furniture.

However, there's still one problem. Since i'm living with 3 other roomies, i had to share bedroom with another guy, so how would you deal with bouncing a girl to your place, and having two beds in my room. Would that be a problem?

 

[Franco]

Dormidov,

However, there's still one problem. Since i'm living with 3 other roomies, i had to share bedroom with another guy, so how would you deal with bouncing a girl to your place, and having two beds in my room. Would that be a problem?

If your roommate seems cool and you think you can do this, then I would setup a "team" mindset with him. What I mean by that is, let him know that there are going to be days that both of you want to bring girls back to your room, so make sure to let each other know beforehand so you can find other things to do or places to go while your roommate pulls the girl back to the room.

Although it's not ideal, you can even work out a situation where you have an extra pillow and blanket(s) available in the living room if the girl is spending the night, and you can crash on your couch until the girl leaves (later that night or early in the morning). Whatever you do, just try not to make having girls over a "battle" with your roommate. That's not only going to make your general life stressful, but it's going to make it difficult to bring home and sleep with women as well.

Talk to your roommate about it once you get to know him, and see what kind of "team deal" you can work out for sleeping with beautiful women. =)

- Franco