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I recently got out of a 4 year relationship that started right at the end of my undergrad, so it's been a while. My lay count is around 25 so i'm not terribly new but not great also very rusty. I've been on dating apps and recently grabbed a drink with a girl.
She seemed closed of body language wise and had dinner plans later that night so didn't try to invite her back. Waited a few days and setup another meetup for drinks tonight and she was very eager to schedule it. About an hour in I invited her back for wine and surprisingly she declined, but said she still would hang out a bit longer and drink more at the bar. I said it's probably best if we close out since she has to get up early and left. I pretty much consider this dead, but am just confused. I almost always bring girls back the first date and rarely have any issues with that, only didn't here because she mentioned she had plans and it was just a quick hour the first time as well. I'd think she's not into me, but she acted the same both dates and just seemed more shy but still into me, so maybe I got put in boyfriend category?
Also it seems A LOT worse now than a couple years ago, the younger girls when I'm out at night aren't receptive at all to being approached and seem half autistic glued to their phones. Dating apps suck even worse, so I guess that just leaves day game? Not sure if part of this is me being rusty and 26 now in law school as opposed to 22 in a fraternity with a bigger social circle, but I get a feeling it's just worse in general. Anyways, I'm planning on just considering this girl just a dead end and moving on, not sure if it's worth to text in a week or so, but my thinking is thats not really salvageable.
She seemed closed of body language wise and had dinner plans later that night so didn't try to invite her back. Waited a few days and setup another meetup for drinks tonight and she was very eager to schedule it. About an hour in I invited her back for wine and surprisingly she declined, but said she still would hang out a bit longer and drink more at the bar. I said it's probably best if we close out since she has to get up early and left. I pretty much consider this dead, but am just confused. I almost always bring girls back the first date and rarely have any issues with that, only didn't here because she mentioned she had plans and it was just a quick hour the first time as well. I'd think she's not into me, but she acted the same both dates and just seemed more shy but still into me, so maybe I got put in boyfriend category?
Also it seems A LOT worse now than a couple years ago, the younger girls when I'm out at night aren't receptive at all to being approached and seem half autistic glued to their phones. Dating apps suck even worse, so I guess that just leaves day game? Not sure if part of this is me being rusty and 26 now in law school as opposed to 22 in a fraternity with a bigger social circle, but I get a feeling it's just worse in general. Anyways, I'm planning on just considering this girl just a dead end and moving on, not sure if it's worth to text in a week or so, but my thinking is thats not really salvageable.
