Looking for some really sexy black button up shirts to wear on dates

[killerman]

Hi, just wondering if anyone can recommend me where to find some really stylish, sexy black button up shirts which I can wear on dates? Any particular brands/websites/places I can find them? I'm thinking to get some which i can get tailored afterwards and where I wear with the top 2-3 buttons undone to display a couple of necklaces/chains. Also would be awesome if anyone could recommend which trousers to wear with such a shirt.

 

[KJ Francis]

I would caution you against this. In traditional menswear, it is a cardinal sin. It is the uniform of banquet staff, security, bartenders, etc.

It can be done as part of an anti traditional look, such as avant-garde, goth, dressy rocker (think Keith Richards, Johnny Depp, Lenny Kravitz, Steven Tyler, etc), artist, designer (sometimes architect).

Even with chains, if you are thinking it is elegant or "dressy", that is when it starts looking like a bouncer or bus boy. If you are doing a bad boy red carpet rocker look, it needs to be congruent with your identity.

 

[killerman]

I would caution you against this. In traditional menswear, it is a cardinal sin. It is the uniform of banquet staff, security, bartenders, etc.

It can be done as part of an anti traditional look, such as avant-garde, goth, dressy rocker (think Keith Richards, Johnny Depp, Lenny Kravitz, Steven Tyler, etc), artist, designer (sometimes architect).

Even with chains, if you are thinking it is elegant or "dressy", that is when it starts looking like a bouncer or bus boy. If you are doing a bad boy red carpet rocker look, it needs to be congruent with your identity.

What about this guy then? He's a male model and dresses mostly in black many times with the same look i'm describing https://www.instagram.com/austinwayneofficial/

 

[KJ Francis]

All rules can be broken with the right nuance to pull things off. If you ride a motorcycle and play in a band, you could probably pull off a more beat up black button up even at a dive bar.

He is a model with clothing and cosmetics collections... This dressy black look is in line with a more artistic image around photographers, fashion designers, etc. His style also veers on the bad boy rock star sexual threat side with the shirts half unbuttoned... it's a delicate balance to not look try-hard.

If it is worn to nighttime social events at nice venues where you are not overdressing too much, you can lean a little toward the black tie affair side and peacock all black with shawl collar or peak lapel jackets. Or some flashy detail to stand out from a uniform type look of the valet.

If you are talking just going on a date to a cocktail lounge, I would reconsider. It veers toward that whole posing with a cigar and scotch thing like you are cosplaying a mob boss. I could see dressy black working if you have a dangerous lifestyle like strip club manager, but again you are in the realm of nighttime service worker.