Lord Hellas - The journal

[Lord Hellas]

My story: I am 25 years old and a college student. When I found Girlschase 2 years ago I was still a virgin and had only kissed a woman for the first time a few months earlier. After about one year of trying really hard to improve myself with the help of this site, I got my first lay. After that I have experienced things that I thought never would be possible for me, and I am very thankful for the help from this site, its authors and especially Chase off course.

However, the last 6 months have been somewhat dryer for me regarding my results with women. I want to keep improving, and I think this forum will serve as a good motivator for taking bolder actions in my learning. I have also been searching for a menthor for a long time, but have been unable to find one. I have natural friends from whome I learn stuff, but it isnt the same as having someone to discuss things with. I hope that this forum in a way could be the menthor I have been missing.

My goals: Getting results true Day game (Roughly 90% of my results have been from nightgame, but I really see a lot more potential in daygame, so I want to really focus on that)

My biggest weaknesses at the moment: I get phonenumbers, but I get a lot of flaking before I even get a date. And if I get as far as a date, I have the ability to move things forward, but I get a lot of resistance. This means that it becomes a frame battle, and sooner or later I loose, because it looks like I am chasing. Often the resistance keeps getting stronger, and then the last minute resistance is so strong, that I cant break it, and it is off course frustrating.

My intention is to leave all the comfort-zones that I still have, and thru that create great experiences for me, and also making this journal worth reading.

 

[Lord Hellas]

So, I have had bad backproblems during the last months, and I have basically approached zero woman. I have actually haved very little social intraction at all. I know off course that I could have approached women even with the back, so off course the real problem was in my head. Somehow my mental state is always very connected to my physical health.

Anyhow, the back is better know, and I am working hard to get back in shape (both physically and mentaly). From now on Im gonna start numbering all my approaches (both cold aproach and social circle. I did my first cold approach today, and as you might guess I was akward as hell. It lasted for maybe 20 sec. But still, Im back in business

 

[Lord Hellas]

1. American girl

So I am walking home from the gym true a park, and I see this blond girl sitting on a bench writing something. This is almost the perfect scenario for a cold approach so I feel I have to take action. I am really nervous as I walk up to her, i have 1000 thoughts in my head, and I try to not think anything. How curious it is that after 16 lays, some with beautiful women, I still feel like this.

Me: "Hi, can I sit her?" (I live in spain so, I ask in spanish)

ERROR 1: I dont sit down immediatly, I wait for her to answer. Stupid mistake, should know better.

Her: Almost no reaction , she mumbles something, no eye contact

Me (sitting down now): What are you witing? (in spanish)

She mumbles something. She is clearly very uncomfortable, almost scared. She starts packing her stuff

Me: You dont speak spanish huh?

Her: No, not at all.

ERROR 2. should have known, shes blond for gods sake!

ERROR 3. I should have reacted to her packing her staff, by calming her down, and saying that Im no creap. Instead I just try to radiate calmness but it isnt enough

Me: Where are you from?

Her: New York

Me: small pause - ah, american (calmly)

She is standing up now

Me: You dont have to leave, this is a nice place. I can leave.

The game is obviously over since long, I just try to show her that I really am a nice social aware guy, just to make me feel a little better

Her: No no... mumbles something and leaves

I sit there a while enjoying the sun, and then I keep walking.

 

[Lord Hellas]

2. Scooter girl

So I was walking on the beach. I saw this darkhaired girl in a leather jacket and a scooterhelmet in her hand. I walked up to her and gave her a piece of glass rounded by the ocean.

Me: "For you, a diamond" (in spanish) And the I smiled

She: Thank you! and a wonderful sincere smile! Is there anything better than a woman smiling with her heart? I dont think so.

I could probably have started to talk with her, and I should have. But at the moment I was so happy for the smile and I didnt want to ruin it, so I kept walking.

 

[Lord Hellas]

3. German blonde

As I walked on the beach I saw 2 girls. One was going to take a picture of the other. I went and standed next to the blond, in order to be in the picture with her. I was about to put my arm around her, when she noticed me and took a step away from me whit a quisical expression on her face.

Her: Why (spanish)

Me: Just for fun (spanish) I smiled with my eyes, but kept a straight expression on my face, except for a little hint of a smile. Thats my favourite expression by the way.

She came next to me

I asked where she was from. she said germany. We switched to english. I could notice she was was very red (she was blushing). She asked me where I was from. I said Finland. She said "oh really" in an enthuastic way.

Dammit, this girl was really in to me, and she was goodlooking.

But I smiled to her and walked away after the foto. BIG ERROR.

It was because of her friend with the camera who didnt seem very excited about me. She was probably jelous. I have always been way too passive when a girl is with a friend or friends. I have to work on that.

 

[Lord Hellas]

4. Scool teacher

Still on the beach, I saw a women collecting something in a glass can.

Me: Do you like stones (spanish) (smile)

Her: she explained that she collected shells

Me: I asked if she collected shells on the beach every night (just some light teasing, she got it)

her: she explained that she was a teacher, and that it was for a project with her class.

She got warmer all the time as we spoke. She had a nice laughter, very feminine. However lookswise she was in a greyzone, and I decided to wish her good luck with collecting shells. Now that I think about it, I think I would have enjoyed fucking her. She was only a little bit out of shape, and its possible that she had nice tits. Im not sure because she wore a thick coat.

I think its true what chase ones wrote in some article, that when your success goes up you become less picky (regarding sex), and when you are unsuccessfull (as I am for the moment, 4 months since last lay) you become more picky.

I will have to focus on this, because she was fuckable, and I just walked away.

 

[Lord Hellas]

5. older woman with rythm

I did one more approach on the beach. It was already dark, and I saw women sitting and watching the ocean. I didnt see her face, but she had nice legs. She bounced a little to the music from a nearby nightclub. It looked nice. When I approched her she was first frightened because it was dark. But she quickly calmed down. She was friendly but she was probably in her upper 40s and wasnt very well preserved. Its common with older women here, I think its the smoking. And she didnt seem very attracted to me. So we just exchanged a few words and then I kept moving. I complimented her on her sense of rhytm though

 

[Lord Hellas]

6. Leopard metro girl

So I was waiting for the metro. A girl (maybe 19 or 20 yo, typical spanish look) sits down the next to e on the bench. She is wearing a jacket with leopard spots on.

The whole conversation was in spanish

Me: I like your jacket.

Her: Thanks. (neutral tone, almost a little cold. But she turned her eyes at me for a moment.)

Me: How do you call that animal in spanish?

Her: Leopardo (she laugh a little, but she still has that feel about her that says: "Im better than you, and I dont want to talk with you")

I choose to not say anything more because 1. it would be too much chasing, and 2. she is actually not very attractive.

We board the train. I take an other door than her. When I get in I notice that the closest spot is next to her. Ah, what the hell, its good for me to talk to people anyway. I sit down next to her.

Me: Are you like a leopard?

Her: No. (he smiles a little, but she stills has that aloof feeling)

Me: If you were an animal, what animal would you be?

Her: I dont know.. A horse.

I pause a little. I am obviously asking all the questions. But I dont care, cause I´m not attracted to her at this point, and I just try to make some conversation to practice.

Me: Why?

Her: They are smart.

Me: Haha, no they´re not.

We continue to talk a little about horses, but she never really warms up. I decide to shut up, because i dont want to bother her anymore. I dont think she was that bothered though, she just wasnt interested at all.

 

[Lord Hellas]

7. Finnish girl

I Was standing at the red lights, when I saw in the corner of my eyes that a woman came to stand behind me. I turned my head and looked at her for a second and then turned my head back. I thought she looked cute so I opened her a few seconds later:

Me: Your not spanish huh? (she was blond)

Her: No.. (she laughs a little and touches her hair as to ask is that was how I knew)

Me: Haha, yeah not a lot of blonds her.. so where are you from?

Her: Finland

Me: Really?! (i was actually surprised)... Me too

after this we switched to finish. Then it turned out that both of our mothertongues where swedish. So we switch to swedish.. Such a small world..


She was really nervous, and not in a cute way. It interesting that sometimes you lose complete interest in a woman when she opens her mouth. And sometimes its the other way around, the first woman I kissed was like that. First I thought she was just cute, but as I talked to he more she turned in to one of the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I still see her that way, eventhoug im completely over her of course.

Anyhoo, I decided almost immediatly that I didnt want this woman. She was clearly attracted to me, but she was so nervous just talking to me, I cant imagine how she would be if one tried to fuck her.

She was going in an other direction, but she followed me a while, probably hoping I would make a move. But I didnt and then finally we said goodbye.

 

[Lord Hellas]

8. Skater girl DIGITS 1

I was going to jogg on the beach, its good exercise. When I came to the beach I saw a girl sitting on her skateboard watching the sea. I couldnt see her face, but her ass looked good, so I went to sit on the edge were she was sitting, about 2 meters from her. As I sat down I didnt look at her, I just started to take my shoes off. I saw in the corner of my eye that she looked briefly at me. When my shoes were off I opened her. The whole conversation was in spanish.

Me: How are you doing?

Her: (a few seconds without reaction, I handled this pefectly) "sigh, thats a good question" (she answered in a neutral way, but I could tell that here was hope of something)

Me: And what is the ... Answer (I was searching for the word in spanish, and finally I found it).

Her: well..If I knew that..

this answer was clearly more open so I was feeling good about the situation. I went to sit right next to her and said:

Me: Well you can tell me all your problems (This may sound cheesy, but I said in humorous way and with the right smile.)

Her: Laughs. Im Misty (name changed)

Game on. This is rare for me that a girl takes the initiative for the introduction. Overall I would say that this was one of my better openings, I did a lot of small things just right.


So we sit and talk for maybe 20-30 minutes. She talks A LOT. I dont mind because Im not very confortable with my spanish anyway. I know Im on a good way with this girl, I just try to figure out if I should try to move her right away or just take her number. I decide that it is too risky to try and take her home right away, because I think she had plans for the night. I dont know, maybe I should have gone for it, I had good logistics.

Anyhow, we set up a date for thursday (day after tomorrow). I give her my number, since I dont have my phone with me. When its time to say goodbye I stumble badly in my words because of the language. DAMMIT. I do this on routin in my stronger languages, but now I messed it up. It made me look week. I could see in her face how the attraction faded away. This is a cruel game fellows. One small mistake and all the good work might be lost.

I think I have good chance with this girl if I see her again. But I have this gutfeeling that she is gonna flake.

P.S. We didnt actually set the exact time or place for the date, so unless she textes me, I have nothing.

 

[Lord Hellas]

9. Hermione (weird story) DIGGITS, DATE

So this is a girl who study the same thing that I do, and with whom I had course in september. We connected really good then, and after a lesson we stayed
and talked for a while and I got her phone number. She was actually the one who suggested that we should hang out (to practice eachothers languages).
I had a good feeling about her, because she seemed very in to me, and because of her enthusiasm I thought things would go pretty smoothly.
I also liked her a lot, and I thought she had a very beautiful face. I asked her if she wanted to come with me to the beach via text message. No reply.
After this thing went weird between us, and it wasnt because of me, I acted very normal. This situation seemed weird to me, I couldn´t
understand it. She seemed so interested in me earlier. Anyhow, I had a lot stuff and other problems going on, so I didnt really think about anymore.
I would greet her normally with a smile whenever I saw her, but we never really talked.



But now, 3 months later things got interesting and weird again. I was coming out from a metro station in town to an open square when
I saw her sitting on some stairs. She was reading something. As I walked towards her she noticed me. I smiled and she smiled. I went to sit next to her.
She gave me kisses on the cheeks (greeting in spain). She was very happy to see me (a little weird).
She seemed attracted to me (also weird). She remembered who I am, but still seemed very confused of some things about me.
For example first she thought we had met 3 years ago (what!! how can she not remember the difference between 3 months and 3 years!!)
Anyhow we had a very nice positive light conversation, maybe 20 minutes. I didnt know what to do, because she seemed very attracted to me,
but our history is so weird. I was going to a meeting so I couldnt do an instant date. I asked her out for coffee some other day. She said yes.
She wanted to give me her number, but forgot that I already had it. It might be that
she actually just at that point remembered where she had met me, because she mumbled something like that. I have changed hairstyle, but still,
how can anybody have that bad memory.

Im gonna call her tomorrow to set up the coffee date. The whole situation is so weird though, that I dont think anything will come out of this.
But well see, she seemed very attracted at first...


P.S. after I wrote this I noticed that she has written to on facebook, and suggested time and place for the coffee-date. Additionaly she has liked a bunch of old fotos of me. So it seems like the game is on. I still have no idea what I gonna go for on the date.

QUESTION: what do you guys think on this one? Going agressive or date progression? I really dont know. I think I gonna try to take her home.