LR Lost virginity, Tinder

[jackoftades819]

About a week ago I matched with a girl on Tinder who I'll call Deb. Not super attractive, a little chubby, but I thought she was fuckable. Conversation was short, I opened her with an assumption that she was "the silent but sexy type". We arrange to meet up and watch a movie at her place but due to conflicting schedules we aren't able to meet until a week later. After work I drive to her dorm and she comes out to greet me, and she is much heavier than in her pictures. Oh well, I drove all the way there and I figured I'd still be able to do it. We get to her room and she puts on "Pitch Perfect 2" (she also gave me water and a cookie). I make some small talk about her and her college and soon we kiss. She's very eager and I command her to take her pants off. We kiss for a little longer, I'm rubbing her pussy outside her panties and command her to remove those too. Soon, she's completely naked and so am I, and I get a condom on. I'm fucking her in adapted missionary and she's moaning a lot while I'm kissing and nibbling her neck. Honestly, I couldn't tell if I was in her half the time but she shifted so I was hitting it deeper. It feels amazing but it's taking me a long time to come so I'm talking dirty to her and we switch to doggie. This feels a lot better and I get a good view of her ass and I'm spanking it. I cum, and then I slip my fingers into her pussy and start fingering her fast until she finally orgasms. She's been moaning the whole time and calling my name and it was such a turn on. She sucks the remaining cum off my cock and we make out a little longer, we talk a bit about doing this again and then I leave. I'm pretty stoked about losing my virginity and I'm glad I got her to come. I might make her a fuck buddy but I definitely don't consider her relationship material. Any advice on that front or anything about starting to approach girls IRL?

 

[Ambiance]

Fatties need some love too! You are a very honorable man for taking it upon yourself to help them out. Thank God for benevolent souls like you, otherwise I might feel obligated to...

All kidding aside, congrats man. Good choice getting your first time out of the way and just swallowing the pill. You'll thank yourself later. It's the guys who have the lower standards who get more experience and fuck more girls, which translates into a strong abundance mentality and sound understanding of women in the long run.

As far as how to handle her going forward, it goes along with your second question about approaching girls in real life. You want to start cold approaching girls right away, tomorrow ideally, for two big reasons. The first being you can ride the momentum from this lay to get more headway, and the second being you don't want to fall into a relationship out of a lack of options with this girl. Only see the fatty once a week max, and that's if you even want to keep her around. I know to some guys pussy is pussy but a fatty is where I draw the line. That's just me though. If you want to keep her around read How to Convert One Time Sex Into Regular Sex on the main site.

For approaching girls, just get out there. Go to a place you know there will be attractive women, and start approaching them. It is ok if the first time or even the first few times all you do it walk around feeling self conscious, you just gotta keep getting out there and you will start approaching more and more. I'd start with complimenting girls on something and getting into conversation from there, then either go for a number or get them to accompany you.

Hope that helps. Congrats again bro

Ambiance

 

[lostnumber]

Congrats bro!

Getting the first one under your belt is a big deal.

Regarding keeping this girl around, I dont think you have anything to worry about. Fat girls are not sexually attractive to most of western society and can often become quite desperate as a result. Exhibit A would be inviting a stranger from Tinder over to her dorm room and banging him after a perfunctory amount of small talk. This isn't behavior that attractive girls with a lot of options engage in.

If you are even an average looking guy you are quite the catch for her. You may find you have more trouble getting rid of her when you decide you aren't interested than you do keeping her with you.

My one piece of advice is to make sure you dont get complacent and settle. From your description its clear you aren't attracted to this girl. There is nothing wrong with keeping her around for a while as a casual lay to build confidence, buts its not going to work in the long term; you won't become more attracted to her over time. So make sure you never end up in a scenario where you find yourself avoiding actively pursuing hot girls because you might get rejected and hooking up with this girl you arent into because you know she will say yes.

 

[lao che]

great stuff. hell of a first time, much better than mine!

keep her around, see her once a week or less (less, preferably, while you're out smashing other girls, but don't be surprised if weeks or even months go by and she reconnects and invites you over), be nice to her, and amazing things might happen, e.g she introduces you to other friends, perhaps even for some 3 way action.

keep an open mind, be nice to her, don't treat her like she's worth less because she's a fat slut (LOL i'm serious though)