Loverboi's journal

[Azari]

Sup studs
My name is Loverboi.But don't let the name deceive you.I'm not much of a boy and am not a Lover....yet.

I live somewhere in Africa.I've always had a problem talking to pretty girls.Didn't really care about the reasons why I was I was/am socially awkward I just wanted to fix it.

So i got tired of being a 'loser' and I scoured the internet for help and that's how I found girlschase.That was in 2018. Anyways I chased some girl for almost a year only to get a cheek kiss...*sigh*....Disappointed I searched the internet again and rediscovered
girlschase in late 2019.

I became a ' consistent ' reader a few months back. I was motivated enough that I decided to approach girls....and Hello Approach anxiety
And that's the reason I started this journal..To get rid of approach anxiety. and of course to lose my v.....
I don't like saying that word . plus accountability .
My plan : Approach 3 girls per day starting tomorrow.

-Loverboi

 

[theblackpanther]

Good luck my friend. Girlschase has helped me so much.

 

[Azari]

So my plan for Friday 18 th was to approach 3 girls....l didn't do it.
The day started well,I was socialising ,building momentum.My cousin and I went to the shopping centre cuz he wanted some new clothes and I needed shoes.
Pretty girls were everywhere alas all I could do was just say ' Hi ' to them.I was still feeling pretty confident when I got home so I decided to get a nap and then head out to approach.....Big Mistake..

I woke up feeling out of state and tired asf but I decided to stick to my plan.All the 'social momentum' I had before wasn't there.As I roamed the streets searching for cuties I only ran to a few girls that I'd really like.
When I ran into such girls...my brain starts giving a thousand reasons why she isn't into me...so I ended up saying Hi to around seven girls and that was it. A very disappointing day...At least I got my shoes.

Saturday 20th

I hit the streets at around 5:00pm and was planning not to go home until I approached 3 girls.
So I chose a street and started my hunt.It took a while to get a girl I really like...I'd make eye contact with girls(not that pretty for my tastes) others would quickly look away while others would actually maintain it. Which made me look away..idk why but it sucks.

First Approach

As I switched to a different street...I saw a girl in a sexy green dress.She was on her phone when I looked her side so she didn't see me checking her out lol. I switched to her side and slowed down my pace a bit to let her catch up with me.

She catches up with me and as I turn to open her. I realise two things..1.She's way older than me and 2.She has an okay face...I decide to proceed anyways

Me: Excuse me does this street lead to...(name of place)
HB:Yeah , are u heading there?
Me:Yeah
HB:Then let's go together (with a hint of a smile)
Me:Are u going there too(am very stupid)
HB:ah yeah...are u new in (name of city)
Me:Actually no...it's just that I don't visit this place often..(Total bs...my friend lives around here)
HB:So which part of ........ are u planning to visit cuz am going to.........
Me:I am going to ......... (Area totally different from what she said....idk why I said this but again I really am stupid)So u live around here?
HB:Yeah...since ur going to(.........)just follow this street until u reach........
.........**Awkward silence **........
HB:looks at me
Me:Thanks
........***another awkward silence***........
HB:..Quickens her pace and leaves me behind...
That's when I realised her ass was out of this world I actually considered running after her..lol
Total interaction lasted around 1 minutes with awkward silences.
After that interaction I was in my head the whole time.I ran into groups of girls and one whole group was eye fucking me...I guess they must be digging my sexy walk.But Approach anxiety is a big bitch.

So that was it...Only one approach. I don't feel bad but I know I can do better than that.

 

[Azari]

what I learnt:
*I don't know places where I can meet alot of girls.
The shopping centre maybe but it's so full of people and I can't make myself start a conversation with them

*I need to work on my delivery and my voice..when I open a girl it's usually a high pitched nervous voice.

*I need to lower my standards alot....pussy is pussy.....I missed so many opportunities to approach cuz they weren't 'good enough ' for me.

*I should get out of my head ....work on 'presence 'or whatever it's called

*I shud develop routines...I know they aren't the best but it would really help with approach anxiety cuz I'm just thinking about what to say

*Work on fundamentals like all the time especially voice

*Read more about approach invitations
* Follow the 3 sec rule...approach first asks questions later.

I've realized that cold approach is actually hard...And I still have a long way to go.But doing nothing isn't gonna get me anywhere.So time to step up.

-Loverboi

 

[theblackpanther]

Great field report. The way you wrote it was very easy to understand.

If you have a problem with keeping eye contact I recommend doing it to guys and family members too, not just girls. Also, every day go in the mirror and make eye contact with yourself.

As for places to meet girls..have you tried a library? Lots of girl sitting down, quiet place so you can use a quiet seductive voice, and not too many people like a mall or store. @Bacchus went to library's a lot when he was younger, and now he's probably one of the best seducers here.

I am in the same situation as you. For AA(approach anxiety) look at this article here. And just say "FUCK IT" to yourself and go. It may sound sill but you'll thank yourself for it.

Based on your report it sounds like you know what to do, but you shoot yourself in the foot when it's time to do it. This can only be overcome with practice.

Overall good job on at least approaching one girl she seemed to be into you. Maybe your good looking or maybe your fundamentals are better than you expect.

-Panther

 

[Azari]

Sup guys

Haven't been here for a while.I've been busy chilling with ma guys , having crazy amounts of fun.I just love the festive season.I haven't done any cold approaching but I met a few girls in social events.

I find it's pretty hard to go out solo when I could just hang with my buddies and enjoy the day.In any case I still want to destroy approach anxiety so I guess it's going to be part of my " new year's resolution " lol..cause right now I just wanna have relax and have fun.

Maybe I am being a big bitch by " pausing " my cold approach adventures....or maybe not whatever the case I'm still gonna meet new girls in social events in the next few days. I've found out that I can overcome approach anxiety easily at parties and concerts when I'm with friends. Although the openers may not be the smoothest.

So just wanted to post this cuz I haven't posted anything in a while and it felt like i had already abandoned the journey I started. I'm gonna start posting my ' adventures ' probably after new year. I promise y'all this : 3 new approaches...Modest I know but it's my stepping stone to greatness ; )

Happy new year in advance guys.

-Loverboi

 

[Nicko]

lol i feel u ,the festive season is really enticing and it gets you distracted from these pretty girls waiting for someone like us to sweep them up.
keep grinding u got this! ╭( ･ㅂ･)و ̑̑
~Nicko

 

[Azari]

Hey guys

I haven't been here for a long time.I intended to update this journal daily as I had my adventures but internet connection in my country has been shitty ( Third world problems lol ) and my laptop got spoilt at the start of the year so I'm typing this on mobile....and gotta admit I got a bit lazy.

I promise y'all this : 3 new approaches...Modest I know but it's my stepping stone to greatness ; )

So as it turns out i can do better than 3...a lot better than 3...Honestly once I stopped updating this journal I stopped counting the approaches.Total approaches this year are at around 30 or sth.

Direct approaches are kinda hard for me especially when people are around.I did indirect mostly.I'm still kinda new to applying these ' techniques ' so I messed up these approaches alot.

Out of all those 30 or sth approaches, I number closed only 2 girls (sucks)...and that was that...I messed up.

First girl: I listened to my best friend's advice despite knowing better and did some cringeworthy shit ( I don't feel like mentioning)

Second girl: She actually took my number and called me the next day and I freaked out...seriously had the worst conversation, full of awkward silences and stupid questions ,I totally understand why she didn't ever call back or pick up when I called.

Anyways I deleted both their numbers...gotta meet more girls.

One noteworthy approach though was a girl who apparently lives in the same neighbor hood with a good friend mine.

I approached her indirectly n probably was too much of a nice guy cuz she's hot ( to me anyways).She was all smiles n I actually thought she was into me.

Then when I visited my friend I unexpectedly ran into her...ofcourse she was happy to see me...while I was nervous asf..my hair was a mess..I was hungry..in a bad state.

I can't pin point the problem exactly but since that day she has been extremely cold when I try to initiate conversation.But she still checks me out when we run into each other in their area unfortunately we don't talk to each other..

So this is the only girl I " cold approached " That I keep running into.I would really like to turn things around with her guys cuz she's really hot...so any advice would be appreciated fellas.

Plan right now is to work on fundamentals.
And to stop being much of a 'nice guy'.I know am a nice guy because most of the girls I approached just wanna be friends.Maybe cuz of my nervous smiles ( working on it and so far so good )

I'm still gonna keep at it and eventually I'll get what I want and once I do there's gonna be no stopping me... ; )

-Loverboi

 

[Azari]

Depression.

A constant feeling of sadness and loss of interest which stops you from doing your normal activities.

That's the best way to describe how I have been feeling for most of this year.

But why?

Could be because of my insecurities.
Could be cuz of no dating life.
Could be cuz of my height.
I could go on all day....but I rather not.

This is the first time in my life to actually say it somewhere that I might be depressed. Maybe am not..maybe I'm just sad that my friends have more experience in life and women than I am.

It used to hit me hard that I was the only dude in our social circle with no lay.But I don't care about that anymore.


Sometime after my last journal entry....I was hanging with friends...everyone around was planning for valentine's...I could see it in social media too.We started talking about girls n life in general then it hit me...I was the biggest loser.

I had no life experience...
I mean I was an altar boy when i was thirteen(I left church about a year later when I stopped believing in the church)
I chased three different girls for a period of almost 3 years...and got none of them
Just a cheek kiss from one of them.
Apparently one of those girls liked me but I was super slow n last time I saw her she was pregnant.
Finished highschool a virgin.
Broke asf (but when I was 16 I had a plan to be a multimillionaire in 5 years...I'm 19 now still in the same boat)

Those thoughts made me really depressed...to the point where I questioned my physical appearance.I became insecure..stopped approaching and moped around all day. Occasionally fantasizing how life would be if I was better looking, more experienced n stuff.

It took me a few weeks of feeling really low to realize that my life is on me...If I don't change nothing will.So I'm trying to stop the negative chatter in my head.

I kinda lost sight of the purpose of this journal too...but I'm feeling better now.I even tried approaching yesterday but the beautiful momentum that I had at the beginning of Feb is gone and massive approach anxiety is back.

So it's back to square one...Loverboii vs Approach Anxiety

I'll try to stay positive.... like when I first started this journal ...and at the beginning of the year.

Three approaches a day
Meditation daily
Slow movement speed
Strong eye contact

That's what I'm working on at the moment.

Imma hope for a brighter more positive future

-Loverboi