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Hey guys, welcome to my journal.
I don't know yet how this thread will be shaped. Inner game is a big part of my approach to women so you can expect quite a few a-ha moments and ideas in progress as I'm refining my philosophy.
Here's a snippet of my life. Today's a bit more beautiful than usual but it's a good illustration of the life I'm striving for.
Morning. Yesterday I approached 2 girls in the metro on my way to work, both conversation went good and both girls declined my invitation to meet again. So today I thought I'd slow down on metro approaches because I'm starting to think that, as the same people take the same commute on the same days, people might start spotting me haha. Instead, I spent this morning's commute doing my "inner smile meditation". At my metro exit I saw a cute woman step out and I thought of approaching her, thought twice about it, then realized that I would approach her at the exact same spot I approached another girl last week. "Nah.. I can't start doing that, that would be too on the nose."
Day. Nothing interesting in terms of approaching but I think a good representation of my life:
* Security desk: I forgot my badge so I asked a 1 day temporary badge. Mildly cheerful 30 seconds small talk with the female employee.
* Meeting with HR: optional workshop on health & safety at the workplace. I was the only one who signed up and I had half an hour with 2 HR female employees. They went through the drill of what they had prepared, and halfway through the conversation segued into my unusual career and travels. HR1 says: "yeah that doesn't surprise me at all based on our past interactions." She then turns to HR2 and continues, "see, Loverboy is the kind of person who comes say hi in the morning just for a talk and I like that".
* Talk with male team lead: some international colleagues are scheduled to come visit us in the coming weeks and we talked about the idea to combine their visit with a team drink. (Idea that I had thrown in the air a few weeks ago, since then it has become a recurring topic during meetings.) I thought about it for a while then told him about a really cool local bar. He said "ok you're in charge to make reservations for the group, I'm in charge of finding the budget for the drink."
* Informal networking 1. A good friend of mine is currently applying for the police. Turns out, someone close to me works in the police. So I gave him a call to fish info to help my friend in his application, he told me I could forward my friend his number. So I did.
* Informal networking 2. I had a quick coffee with a colleague from a completely different department whom I bumped into a few weeks ago. He was quite curious about my travel stories. As I talked with him I realized he could be a very relevant professional contact for my good friend mentioned above. So I pinged my friend again, asking if he'd be interested for me to arrange a meet for drinks after work the 3 of us.
* Gym time. Not many people at the gym. 3 guys, 1 girl (not my type). In the locker room I small talked with 1 guy, in the gym I small talked with another one between my sets.
Texting. My follow up texting isn't the strongest one but I'm experimenting with the framework presented in How To Text A Girl. Today I sent a few nice texts to 3 old conversations. Not endless small talk penpalling. 2 of those were smooth ways to get these women in the mindset of meeting up again. (Unfortunately, both of these women are currently traveling abroad, but the seed is planted.) The 3rd one is some semi-romance texting with a woman I met during my last travel who lives in a different country. We've never been physically intimate, but she's been including ❤s in her texts lately. Her English isn't good and she struggled to understand my last voice note and asked me to write down what I sent. My text response: "I thought you would love the sweet sound of my voice!"
Approach. As I walked out of the gym I saw a girl in a beautiful dress walk in front of me, with a discreet tattoo on the ankle. Nobody in sight on the street, I approached her and gave her a sincere compliment about her dress. She paused, we talked for a bit, I took out my phone to show her a picture because the conversation reminded me of an anecdote I wanted to tell her. As I scrolled through my pictures she came next to me to look. She stood at a closer distance than people usually do. I pulled my phone back in my pocket and she stayed at that distance. We had deep eye contact, and if we hadn't just met 2 minutes ago and if we weren't in the middle of a sidewalk that eye contact would have screamed, "kiss me". She was on her way back home so I asked, "hey do you need to go home now? I'm really enjoying this moment and I'd love to grab a drink with you right now." Her response: "yes sorry my friend is waiting for me, but we can meet again another day; I'm going to be away for the weekend but I'll be back on Monday." We exchanged numbers. As we said goodbye I hesitated on giving her a touch on the elbow, she leaned into me and gave me a hug. That was textbook wholesome.
I didn't play the waiting game, I texted her the icebreaker text from the book within 5 minutes. She responded within the minute with this exact message: "you gave me really good vibes, I don't normally give away my number so easily." I ❤ her message and within 10 minutes the follow up date was scheduled.
Groceries time. I needed to buy socks. The store was closing in 5 minutes and security was discouraging people to come in. I told security I just needed a new set of socks and I'd be in and out in 3 minutes. He agreed to let me in.
Inside the store, another security agent was reluctant but my enthusiasm convinced him to let me find my socks. The cashiers were in the process of closing the counter, so the one who would serve me didn't see me at first. When her colleagues told her, "hey take Mr last customer" her brain froze for a moment. A joke came up spontaneously: "well I never knew I have that effect on women!" and all 3 cashiers laughed. On my way back, the reluctant security agent told me thank you for making the women smile because today had been a difficult day for them. I small talked with him about the difficulty of professions exposed to the whole population. On my way out I spotted another group of employees waiting and I told them "I'm the last customer!" They smiled and said something. One of them was quite cute, I looked a bit longer at her, and on my way back I heard them laughing. I looked back at the cute one, hesitated to walk and talk to her. "Nah. Not in front of her colleagues, not in this store where I may come back another day, not in front of security."
As I left the store I told the security agent outside: "3 minutes as promised!"
Bar time. I walked to the bar for my team drink. While waiting for the staff to take my reservation I saw a cute younger girl, max 20 years old waiting with a guy to order their drinks, possibly her boyfriend but without certainty. The girl was cute and sexy like women her age often are and I tried to capture her eye contact--alas she didn't bite.
On my way I approached an Asian girl who turned out to be a ladyboy. Ha! That was embarrassing haha.
As I got to my metro station I saw a girl dressed in full black walk a mesmerizing gait--mesmerizing to me at least. I interrupted her, told her about her gait, she interrupted me saying she just finished her 10 hour shift as a barmaid. She started walking away, I asked her a question trying to expand the conversation further, then she said "I have to tell you I'm 17." I was surprised and paused for a moment, then I asked her in a louder, playful voice as she was getting further, "so when do you turn 18?" She laughed and kept walking away without looking back at me.
Taking the metro home I spotted a professionally dressed good looking woman talking with an equally professionally dressed man. Probably colleagues. I was thinking to try my usual trick to look closely for her exit and leave at the same stop. My stop was coming and I pondered, "should I stay one extra stop in case she splits from the man and exits alone?" In the end I decided against it and leave the two of them alone.
I don't know yet how this thread will be shaped. Inner game is a big part of my approach to women so you can expect quite a few a-ha moments and ideas in progress as I'm refining my philosophy.
Here's a snippet of my life. Today's a bit more beautiful than usual but it's a good illustration of the life I'm striving for.
Morning. Yesterday I approached 2 girls in the metro on my way to work, both conversation went good and both girls declined my invitation to meet again. So today I thought I'd slow down on metro approaches because I'm starting to think that, as the same people take the same commute on the same days, people might start spotting me haha. Instead, I spent this morning's commute doing my "inner smile meditation". At my metro exit I saw a cute woman step out and I thought of approaching her, thought twice about it, then realized that I would approach her at the exact same spot I approached another girl last week. "Nah.. I can't start doing that, that would be too on the nose."
Day. Nothing interesting in terms of approaching but I think a good representation of my life:
* Security desk: I forgot my badge so I asked a 1 day temporary badge. Mildly cheerful 30 seconds small talk with the female employee.
* Meeting with HR: optional workshop on health & safety at the workplace. I was the only one who signed up and I had half an hour with 2 HR female employees. They went through the drill of what they had prepared, and halfway through the conversation segued into my unusual career and travels. HR1 says: "yeah that doesn't surprise me at all based on our past interactions." She then turns to HR2 and continues, "see, Loverboy is the kind of person who comes say hi in the morning just for a talk and I like that".
* Talk with male team lead: some international colleagues are scheduled to come visit us in the coming weeks and we talked about the idea to combine their visit with a team drink. (Idea that I had thrown in the air a few weeks ago, since then it has become a recurring topic during meetings.) I thought about it for a while then told him about a really cool local bar. He said "ok you're in charge to make reservations for the group, I'm in charge of finding the budget for the drink."
* Informal networking 1. A good friend of mine is currently applying for the police. Turns out, someone close to me works in the police. So I gave him a call to fish info to help my friend in his application, he told me I could forward my friend his number. So I did.
* Informal networking 2. I had a quick coffee with a colleague from a completely different department whom I bumped into a few weeks ago. He was quite curious about my travel stories. As I talked with him I realized he could be a very relevant professional contact for my good friend mentioned above. So I pinged my friend again, asking if he'd be interested for me to arrange a meet for drinks after work the 3 of us.
* Gym time. Not many people at the gym. 3 guys, 1 girl (not my type). In the locker room I small talked with 1 guy, in the gym I small talked with another one between my sets.
Texting. My follow up texting isn't the strongest one but I'm experimenting with the framework presented in How To Text A Girl. Today I sent a few nice texts to 3 old conversations. Not endless small talk penpalling. 2 of those were smooth ways to get these women in the mindset of meeting up again. (Unfortunately, both of these women are currently traveling abroad, but the seed is planted.) The 3rd one is some semi-romance texting with a woman I met during my last travel who lives in a different country. We've never been physically intimate, but she's been including ❤s in her texts lately. Her English isn't good and she struggled to understand my last voice note and asked me to write down what I sent. My text response: "I thought you would love the sweet sound of my voice!"
Approach. As I walked out of the gym I saw a girl in a beautiful dress walk in front of me, with a discreet tattoo on the ankle. Nobody in sight on the street, I approached her and gave her a sincere compliment about her dress. She paused, we talked for a bit, I took out my phone to show her a picture because the conversation reminded me of an anecdote I wanted to tell her. As I scrolled through my pictures she came next to me to look. She stood at a closer distance than people usually do. I pulled my phone back in my pocket and she stayed at that distance. We had deep eye contact, and if we hadn't just met 2 minutes ago and if we weren't in the middle of a sidewalk that eye contact would have screamed, "kiss me". She was on her way back home so I asked, "hey do you need to go home now? I'm really enjoying this moment and I'd love to grab a drink with you right now." Her response: "yes sorry my friend is waiting for me, but we can meet again another day; I'm going to be away for the weekend but I'll be back on Monday." We exchanged numbers. As we said goodbye I hesitated on giving her a touch on the elbow, she leaned into me and gave me a hug. That was textbook wholesome.
I didn't play the waiting game, I texted her the icebreaker text from the book within 5 minutes. She responded within the minute with this exact message: "you gave me really good vibes, I don't normally give away my number so easily." I ❤ her message and within 10 minutes the follow up date was scheduled.
Groceries time. I needed to buy socks. The store was closing in 5 minutes and security was discouraging people to come in. I told security I just needed a new set of socks and I'd be in and out in 3 minutes. He agreed to let me in.
Inside the store, another security agent was reluctant but my enthusiasm convinced him to let me find my socks. The cashiers were in the process of closing the counter, so the one who would serve me didn't see me at first. When her colleagues told her, "hey take Mr last customer" her brain froze for a moment. A joke came up spontaneously: "well I never knew I have that effect on women!" and all 3 cashiers laughed. On my way back, the reluctant security agent told me thank you for making the women smile because today had been a difficult day for them. I small talked with him about the difficulty of professions exposed to the whole population. On my way out I spotted another group of employees waiting and I told them "I'm the last customer!" They smiled and said something. One of them was quite cute, I looked a bit longer at her, and on my way back I heard them laughing. I looked back at the cute one, hesitated to walk and talk to her. "Nah. Not in front of her colleagues, not in this store where I may come back another day, not in front of security."
As I left the store I told the security agent outside: "3 minutes as promised!"
Bar time. I walked to the bar for my team drink. While waiting for the staff to take my reservation I saw a cute younger girl, max 20 years old waiting with a guy to order their drinks, possibly her boyfriend but without certainty. The girl was cute and sexy like women her age often are and I tried to capture her eye contact--alas she didn't bite.
On my way I approached an Asian girl who turned out to be a ladyboy. Ha! That was embarrassing haha.
As I got to my metro station I saw a girl dressed in full black walk a mesmerizing gait--mesmerizing to me at least. I interrupted her, told her about her gait, she interrupted me saying she just finished her 10 hour shift as a barmaid. She started walking away, I asked her a question trying to expand the conversation further, then she said "I have to tell you I'm 17." I was surprised and paused for a moment, then I asked her in a louder, playful voice as she was getting further, "so when do you turn 18?" She laughed and kept walking away without looking back at me.
Taking the metro home I spotted a professionally dressed good looking woman talking with an equally professionally dressed man. Probably colleagues. I was thinking to try my usual trick to look closely for her exit and leave at the same stop. My stop was coming and I pondered, "should I stay one extra stop in case she splits from the man and exits alone?" In the end I decided against it and leave the two of them alone.
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