This happened last Tuesday.
I just walk out of the metro and I approach this well dressed girl.
Funny enough, I start with something people would never recommend to: asking for directions.
Not as an excuse, but because I really needed to ask for directions and could have either first opened direct and then asked for information, or the other way around.
I did it the other way around.
Her face lit up once I told her she was pretty and then I followed up saying she should join me. She’s really thinking about it, seems on the verge of it, then tethers a bit and make some questions.
I know that probably at this point if I took her hand she would just come.
She’s pretty and she's a professional architect, but it’s so full of pretty and prettier women around here and I just started my evening that I almost don’t feel like giving up my freedom yet and committing to the first girl I come across with, so I don’t push hard and she decides to go back.
I keep walking around this amazing place and around 15-20 minutes later she texts me if I reached my destination.
I say I’m on the way and that she should join.
She accepts and we meet up around the same place we met earlier (funny thing, she’d later tell me she wrote a group chat of friends of hers about our brief encounter and they’d tell her she should “hang out” with me. Funny how some women rely on their friends even when the friends are not actually there
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CONVERSATION – I speak the most
Sometimes when you travel by yourself and you feel very social and happy and meet someone you can and want to talk with, you do want to talk.
I suppose that's why this time I go very different than deep dive.
And in these cases, if you're mood is positively contagious, it also often works well though.
However, it’s not talkative about me or my life, more about general aspects of life while she also weighs in and the mood is not about “normal talk”, but more like me being upbeat and happy and making her part of my world.
I’m traveling, alone, no end date no specific destinations, so that makes me already kinda lover/cool and I only play that hand further.
For example when she asks me why alone I’m like
“well you know people, everyone loves traveling the world with a small hand luggage… But who’s going to actually do it? That friend has a girlfriend, that other friend has job, that other one wants to do it next year but you know that next year never comes… so fuck it, I just go” and then smile.
And she’s there nodding and looking at me enraptured lol.
Her looking at me and nodding and interjecting with "yes, right" is her qualifying to me.
And my answer to her questions are beautifully worded and sound smart but actually don’t say anything.
Like for example about buying a house and I’m like “you know, there are certainly a lot of advantages, like if whatever happens to you, one day, well, you have a house and that gives you some guarantees. On the other hand it’s also like dropping an anchor and I still cherish the words a good friend of mine once said that what you own, in the end owns you which, if you think about it, it’s beautiful and it’s also often true”.
So basically I didn’t say it’s better to buy or not, just going off a rant with both pros and cons and ending with another “cool sounding quote”.
However it's not just me talking, we also bond here as she then follows up saying she’s 30 and not yet sure what to do with some options like going back home or buying a flat here or similar, and I relate.
Another strong qualifying/bonding moment happens as she asks if I was considering living here and I go on another philosophical rant on how “I’d love living here, but I also love living in Europe, and the beach is great, but so is the cold Christmas… and how I think it would be amazing to have 100 lives to do it all, but we only have one, so we have to try to fit everything into one”.
Notice how such a rant both shows how positive and in love with life you are, but also that you’re a smart person.
As I say that looks at me and tries to interrupt, and I eventually let her, and she tells me her quote in there is "we only live once".
Bingo.
I look at her saying something like "wow, crazy, here, cheers to that" and do a prost with our small beers to cement the bonding between these two soulmates who just crazily met.
At times I’m also opinionated, laughing at her “working hard” sentence and saying how I find that expression so silly as it conjures up in your mind a hard time with people sweating and running while most people are actually just pretending of “working hard”, while you could just take things easy and do whatever you need to do without “working hard”, but with a smile in your face. And with that expression you’ll hardly manage to have a good time at all.
And she smiles. As much as this is was one of the most “judgemental” and “opinionated” things I said, it’s still difficult not to agree and still paints me as a “cool adventurer” by criticizing on the “business establishment” if you know what I mean.
Well, I guess that in the end... I did get to know her a lot, it's just that her sharing her life happened a bit more as a reaction of my own talking as well, and this way she got to know me as well.
I guess I enjoyed it more this way though, as least now that I was in this "bubbly" mood and just would have felt constrained not to speak as well (I think Chase has an article where he talks about you just mostly listening and other different styles.
FIRST KISS
Well, this time I spoke at length about the conversation, so I’ll keep the rest brief.
We’re walking on this bridge, and the view is really breathtaking. I think about kissing her here but too many people around, so I take her to the next viewing platform and give her a pecker there (just a pecker because she moves a bit behind and I have to hold her to go ahead).
She asks why and I just say “why not, the scenary is just too perfect”.
While in other occasions I would always start talking to relieve the tension a bit and move on, now I say nothing, just silence. She’s smiling but also very nervous and asks “what” as a plead to break the tension.
A shake the head a few times and still say nothing.
But it’s now getting bit too much and too long, I start feeling tension as well and when it’s too much it risks breaking rapport, so I restart talking her by asking something about some of the beautiful buildings around (she’s an architect).
Then I kiss her again, a bit longer now but still very brief.
Very interestingly, she’d later say she was horny here on the bridge while I thought she was yes attracted but not horny yet.
LOOKING FOR A PLACE FOR SEX
It’s very expensive where I’m staying so I have a room in a family house and don’t wanna take girls home.
But me and her are now walking around this big garden, so.. Who needs a room. I look for a secluded place with her who keeps putting up weak resistances and repeating how crazy this is.
I’m now blazing a narrow trail with the phone’s flashlight as I move the vegetation out of the way and as I pull her by the hand until… Well until a big spider on a web took the wind out of my sails. I ask her if she’s scared expecting her to say yes and then with me reassuring her it’s nothing.
You can imagine my surprise in finding out she didn’t give a fuck about the spider.
The brave blaze trailer though has a thing about spiders, so just turned around.
HER PLACE
In the end we went to her place. Boring, I know, but.. Much more comfortable.
Some very weak resistances it wasn’t a good idea and she’s never done that, and that I should go back to my place but overall it was a very smooth pull.
We have to be quiet as her flatmates are still awake, but it’s still good sex, she’s got a very firm body for a 30YO –well 30 isn’t old at all anyway-.
She comes with me in missionary, then her on top, then I come with her flat on her belly from behind, one of my fav positions to come.
Then we talk a bit and laugh some more.
Overall a great evening.
I just walk out of the metro and I approach this well dressed girl.
Funny enough, I start with something people would never recommend to: asking for directions.
Not as an excuse, but because I really needed to ask for directions and could have either first opened direct and then asked for information, or the other way around.
I did it the other way around.
Her face lit up once I told her she was pretty and then I followed up saying she should join me. She’s really thinking about it, seems on the verge of it, then tethers a bit and make some questions.
I know that probably at this point if I took her hand she would just come.
She’s pretty and she's a professional architect, but it’s so full of pretty and prettier women around here and I just started my evening that I almost don’t feel like giving up my freedom yet and committing to the first girl I come across with, so I don’t push hard and she decides to go back.
I keep walking around this amazing place and around 15-20 minutes later she texts me if I reached my destination.
I say I’m on the way and that she should join.
She accepts and we meet up around the same place we met earlier (funny thing, she’d later tell me she wrote a group chat of friends of hers about our brief encounter and they’d tell her she should “hang out” with me. Funny how some women rely on their friends even when the friends are not actually there
.CONVERSATION – I speak the most
Sometimes when you travel by yourself and you feel very social and happy and meet someone you can and want to talk with, you do want to talk.
I suppose that's why this time I go very different than deep dive.
And in these cases, if you're mood is positively contagious, it also often works well though.
However, it’s not talkative about me or my life, more about general aspects of life while she also weighs in and the mood is not about “normal talk”, but more like me being upbeat and happy and making her part of my world.
I’m traveling, alone, no end date no specific destinations, so that makes me already kinda lover/cool and I only play that hand further.
For example when she asks me why alone I’m like
“well you know people, everyone loves traveling the world with a small hand luggage… But who’s going to actually do it? That friend has a girlfriend, that other friend has job, that other one wants to do it next year but you know that next year never comes… so fuck it, I just go
” and then smile. And she’s there nodding and looking at me enraptured lol.
Her looking at me and nodding and interjecting with "yes, right" is her qualifying to me.
And my answer to her questions are beautifully worded and sound smart but actually don’t say anything.
Like for example about buying a house and I’m like “you know, there are certainly a lot of advantages, like if whatever happens to you, one day, well, you have a house and that gives you some guarantees. On the other hand it’s also like dropping an anchor and I still cherish the words a good friend of mine once said that what you own, in the end owns you which, if you think about it, it’s beautiful and it’s also often true”.
So basically I didn’t say it’s better to buy or not, just going off a rant with both pros and cons and ending with another “cool sounding quote”.
However it's not just me talking, we also bond here as she then follows up saying she’s 30 and not yet sure what to do with some options like going back home or buying a flat here or similar, and I relate.
Another strong qualifying/bonding moment happens as she asks if I was considering living here and I go on another philosophical rant on how “I’d love living here, but I also love living in Europe, and the beach is great, but so is the cold Christmas… and how I think it would be amazing to have 100 lives to do it all, but we only have one, so we have to try to fit everything into one”.
Notice how such a rant both shows how positive and in love with life you are, but also that you’re a smart person.
As I say that looks at me and tries to interrupt, and I eventually let her, and she tells me her quote in there is "we only live once".
Bingo.
I look at her saying something like "wow, crazy, here, cheers to that" and do a prost with our small beers to cement the bonding between these two soulmates who just crazily met
.At times I’m also opinionated, laughing at her “working hard” sentence and saying how I find that expression so silly as it conjures up in your mind a hard time with people sweating and running while most people are actually just pretending of “working hard”, while you could just take things easy and do whatever you need to do without “working hard”, but with a smile in your face. And with that expression you’ll hardly manage to have a good time at all.
And she smiles. As much as this is was one of the most “judgemental” and “opinionated” things I said, it’s still difficult not to agree and still paints me as a “cool adventurer” by criticizing on the “business establishment” if you know what I mean
.Well, I guess that in the end... I did get to know her a lot, it's just that her sharing her life happened a bit more as a reaction of my own talking as well, and this way she got to know me as well.
I guess I enjoyed it more this way though, as least now that I was in this "bubbly" mood and just would have felt constrained not to speak as well (I think Chase has an article where he talks about you just mostly listening and other different styles
.FIRST KISS
Well, this time I spoke at length about the conversation, so I’ll keep the rest brief
.We’re walking on this bridge, and the view is really breathtaking. I think about kissing her here but too many people around, so I take her to the next viewing platform and give her a pecker there (just a pecker because she moves a bit behind and I have to hold her to go ahead).
She asks why and I just say “why not, the scenary is just too perfect”.
While in other occasions I would always start talking to relieve the tension a bit and move on, now I say nothing, just silence. She’s smiling but also very nervous and asks “what” as a plead to break the tension.
A shake the head a few times and still say nothing.
But it’s now getting bit too much and too long, I start feeling tension as well and when it’s too much it risks breaking rapport, so I restart talking her by asking something about some of the beautiful buildings around (she’s an architect).
Then I kiss her again, a bit longer now but still very brief.
Very interestingly, she’d later say she was horny here on the bridge while I thought she was yes attracted but not horny yet.
LOOKING FOR A PLACE FOR SEX
It’s very expensive where I’m staying so I have a room in a family house and don’t wanna take girls home.
But me and her are now walking around this big garden, so.. Who needs a room
. I look for a secluded place with her who keeps putting up weak resistances and repeating how crazy this is.I’m now blazing a narrow trail with the phone’s flashlight as I move the vegetation out of the way and as I pull her by the hand until… Well until a big spider on a web took the wind out of my sails
. I ask her if she’s scared expecting her to say yes and then with me reassuring her it’s nothing. You can imagine my surprise in finding out she didn’t give a fuck about the spider.
The brave blaze trailer though has a thing about spiders, so just turned around
.HER PLACE
In the end we went to her place. Boring, I know, but.. Much more comfortable
.Some very weak resistances it wasn’t a good idea and she’s never done that, and that I should go back to my place but overall it was a very smooth pull.
We have to be quiet as her flatmates are still awake, but it’s still good sex, she’s got a very firm body for a 30YO –well 30 isn’t old at all anyway-.
She comes with me in missionary, then her on top, then I come with her flat on her belly from behind, one of my fav positions to come.
Then we talk a bit and laugh some more.
Overall a great evening
.