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Fusion

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hey guys. Beginning of last week I matched with a girl I'm going to call M on tinder.

Fusion: Hey M :) pretty smile <-- (thanks radeng)
M: Hey thank you! :)
Fusion: what kind of trouble are you up to today
M: haha taking my friend to meet her friend at the airport, then I work all night sadly
Fusion: Haha sounds like you don't like your job. Must be a cat breeder or something
M: haha no not a cat breeder, I would just rather be at home or doing something fun
Fusion: that's cool. I don't really like messaging on here, whats your number?
M: me neither, number

I've started waiting until the next day to hit them up, but in this case I text her shortly after. (same day)

Fusion: Hey M its Fusion
M: hey hows it going sorry I was driving
Fusion: Just relaxing after the gym, you?
M:Oh cool, im just relaxing too I just got home ive been like driving around so much today
Fusion: haha perfect opportunity to rock out. I dunno about you but I prefer getting to know someone in person than over text. Whats your schedule like this week?
M: oh totally haha. Ya I agree, Im free during the day Friday and anytime Saturday.
Fusion: Saturday works for me. We'll talk then and iron things out :)
M: Sounds great! :)

Saturday

Fusion: Hey M, got your heels picked out for later? :)
M: Hey, oh sure haha. What did you have in mind for later?
Fusion: Lets meet at the mall for hot chocolate, what time are you free?
M: That sounds good, Im free around 5 is that okay?
Fusion: works for me :)
M: Perfect!
Fusion: Message you when Im leaving!
M: ok great

Later

Fusion: Be there in 15
M: Okay I should be there in 20

We figure out where to meet. I get there first. I sit down and M arrives shortly after. I stand up and greet her with a casual "Hey M", with good eye contact and a smile. Ive been really trying hard to improve my fundamentals over the last few months. Eye contact, posture, walk, have all improved dramatically. She smiles and says hi back. I can tell shes nervous because of how fast shes talking. I tell her we are going to walk around the mall before grabbing hot chocolate. I take this as an opportunity to lead her by placing my hand on her back. Throughout the walk my arm would graze hers and she didn't seem to have a problem with my touch. On the walk I start deep diving her about family and where shes from etc. Her voice slows down a bit so I feel like shes becoming more comfortable.

Make it back to the coffee shop. Nothing was mentioned about how we would split it up. It was like $1.38 for hers so I just covered it. Im trying to find a booth for us to sit so we can sit side by side. After looking for like 10 seconds she points out a table and says "that one is big". I smirk and repeat what she said. I position the chairs so we are actually sitting quite close. I sit in a relaxed manner, not leaning in and legs spread. I let my leg rest against hers, she didn't pull away, but it seemed like she wasn't as comfortable with that for whatever reason.

We have some good conversation. I was deep diving her and she was asking me personal questions. I need to work on being more mysterious. Sometimes if a girl asks me a question I'll say "guess". Let her fumble around with it for a few guesses then tell. I need to evade questions like that a bit more I think. I touch her on her shoulder at some point and she didn't mind at all. She was laughing at my jokes. Trying hard not to become an entertainer so I try to keep the jokes spaced apart. Her eye contact with me was pretty good, caught her glancing down at my cock once haha. Her body was facing me the entire time.

After maybe an hour I tell her we are going to go for a quick walk. My plan was to somehow bring up cooking and suggest she come over and we make something during the week. (My logistics aren't the best right now. So my plan is to take girls out for day one and not push for sex. Then suggest a day two meet up at my place when my parents are at work). While we are walking I hear my name being called. I turn around and its one of my buddies from high school. He got a job as a diamond salesman so he was dressed pretty well (social proof?). I thought that introducing her to one of my friends on a first date would be nothing but awkward so I waved and kept going. "a friend?" she asks. "yeah that's one of my buddies, hes working though I don't want to talk to him haha".

At some point she says "what time is it?" I assumed she was going to say she needed to go (now that im thinking about this though it might have been a window?) so I beat her to it and told her I needed to get going. She said okay. I told her I would walk her to the exit she was going to so I could pitch the day 2 idea. I say tell you what, come over sometime this week and we can cook something up together. (Honestly cant remember how I brought it up but I don't think it seemed out of place). She laughs and says "haha no no, like what? noodles? Kraft dinner?" I say "yup, i'll even cut up a hot dog and throw it in for you". She laughs but doesn't say a definite yes or no.... So I change the subject naturally and keep going.

Reach the doors and give her a hug goodbye. She said this was fun. I tell her we'll talk soon and she smiles and says okay.

Looking back the conversation wasn't really sexual at all. Something I want to improve. Hopefully my fundamentals make up for that a bit. Anyway my plan is to text her tomorrow afternoon to see when shes free.

Fusion
 

Seppuku

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Hey Fusion,

I do a lot of online dating. Here are a little thoughts to improve on your game.

1. You guys matched, and she came, so she already likes you. It's one of the big differences with day game. Of course there are some surprises sometimes (like she's obese and it didn't show on the pics), and same for her, but you'll both know on the moment you see each other. So if it doesn't feel odd, you're good, she already likes you.

2. So you can be bolder with your touch. Take her hand right away. Within the first minute of meeting her, we're walking side to side, I open my hand, palm up, next to her. She will normally put her hand in it by herself. Or sometimes I just simply take her hand. A few cases I had a reaction like she withdraws her hand... then put it back by herself. Breaking the physical barrier immediately will help you a lot, first of all by making a huge impression of her, especially if you can come across as a calm and confident.

3. As you deep dive you can proceed to get closer and increase your touch. It's easy, because you have already broken the physical contact barrier. Caress any of her bare skin, arms, neck, cheeks, hair, and just keep making her talk. That's sexual. To test how good you're doing, at some point just interrupt the touching, lay back a bit, and keep the conversation. She will normally touch you back. Means she likes the touch and wants more.

4. No kiss, no making out, until you're about to fuck her. I have made this mistake too much.

5. OK logistics is the big thing. How about only dating her when you're sure you have the logistics good, right away. I only approach online if I know I have an available logistic window in the next few days. And I avoid meeting her if I know logistics aren't good the same evening. Then when I go to meet her, I know I'm good. Then I try to have the first meeting brief, then invite her home for a glass of wine, or other excuse.

6. Cooking dates are a great idea. The way to introduce them is just mention in the initial get to know conversation, that you love cooking. Or, that you're good at so and so recipe. You'll get curiosity from the girl, she'll ask you. Then proceed to conversation, switch subjects. The idea of both of you cooking together is now in her mind, let it grow. Later, you can just introduce the cooking date idea.

Another note: the touch, as described above, will normally make her excited and horny more than you suspect, so be ready to pull, or you can run some disappointment. I lost quite a few that I made so horny, and counting on a second date which never happened.

I hope it helps!

Seppuku
 

Fusion

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I appreciate the post, Seppuku. All of your points make sense. My only question for you is does holding her hand at the beginning of the interaction boyfriend zone me at all?

Fusion
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

Seppuku

Tribal Elder
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Hey Fusion,

It does good things. Good impression, builds comfort, it shows confidence, and breaks physical contact very early, opening the way for more. Make sure that you follow up by increasing your touch, in the same evening. She's already comfortable with your hand. Now, as she speaks, touch her bare arm in a sensual way, appreciating her smooth skin. That's *not BF behaviour, but sexual one. Keep her speaking and increase. Use sexy voice and deep penetrative eye contact. If you do all that she will get very excited. Make sure you have the logistics to pull right after.

When I take her hand it's actually the beginning of the physical escalation.

Cheers,
Seppuku
 

Fusion

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Well put Seppuku. Logistics are good for the next few days so hopefully I can try this right away!

Fusion
 
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