Maintaining a cool attitude (and not slipping back to being timid)


Jun 22, 2019
I was raised by my mother alone and I learned quite early to assume a timid personality to not get punished so much, get get exempted from things (like oral exams, P.E. exercises) etc., so basically never have to make an effort to get things.

This doesn't work too well with women and even though I can assume the cool attitude (good posture, cool walk, voice...) I have to concentrate really hard and if I don't pay attention for a moment I go right back to my timid self.

E.g. go on first date, concentrate, act cool, girl likes it, go on second, lower my guard go back to being timid, girl is like WTF?

Has someone had this problem and how do you deal with it?