Maintaining Warmth and Being Genuine With Cold Approaches

[TheEcho]

Hey gents!

I hope all is well for you men in the ladies department
My question today is about maintaining warmth and a genuine feel during cold approaches after you have done a few. I feel like things have grown somewhat plastic since I use similar lines during key points (opener, suggesting meetup). My personality is one very much defined by warmth and adding value, so the plastic feel is incredibly incongruent with the rest of me.

Any personal tips and strategies for maintaining a special feel with every girl during cold approach would be awesome, and anything else, of course.

Thanks guys!
Josh

 

[Inbocca]

Heh. So tbh my cold approach experience is limited and it's always been genuine interest so the lines don't feel as plastic. But I remember this feeling from my salesman days, it's super awkward when you feel robotic and you can almost anticipate getting shut down. No bueno for pickup.

What I did then was try to find something to make each interaction unique. Usually something involving observation, like asking about their hometown if they have an out of state license plate, asking about their sports team if they're wearing a jersey, talking about dogs if they have one. Just something that you'd naturally take interest in to form a connection right off the bat. Shows them you care about them uniquely and you're not just a salesman trying to make a commission (or in this case just another street caller trying to get his dick wet).

Using similar lines helps by making your words feel natural and comfortable, but if they're coming out "plastic", maybe change a few details so the message is the same but the words are customized for the interaction.

Hope this helps.

 

[TheEcho]

Hey Inbocca!

That is perfect! I think I learned that at some point, but I believe I started doing approaches on AP, so I ignored trying to put in the effort to notice/make unique things, which obviously won't work too well haha

Thanks for bringing it back to my attention, it's time to get off AP on approaches, until that AP is smooth and sexy, not platonic and harmless...

Josh