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I've read the articles here and think they're pretty awesome. I've worked on my fundamentals: eye contact, posture, sexy smile. I have spent at least a day on each. Did I improve my eye contact, according to the article? I do believe so. My posture? I try to stand as dominant and yet sexy as possible. I smile, where my eyes are slightly squinted, and I feel very sexy--the Sexy Smile. Looking through corners of eyes. Squinted eyes. Calmness. Expression of sexuality.
Yet, something does not seem to be sticking.
I have trouble in nightclub/bar/party scenarios. I actually do open "sets;" I talk to people. I even deep-dive, hearing their particular stories. But I do not *STICK*. I talk; I try to be myself as much as possible--no games, just genuine expression of intent and interest, in a very human way.
Yet I somehow cannot help but feel my approach has some issues. The irony is that I do not have trouble in specific scenarios--house parties, groups where people know each other--I tend to generate much interest: eye contact, contact in general. Connection. But in more public settings, I simply do not seem to click in the same way.
I know, given the articles here, that it is not due to superficial attitudes. I work on myself as much as possible--I try to improve my attitudes, not be judgmental, enjoy life, relax, express my sexuality. Yet I feel like women simply do not respond when I am in bars or clubs.
I believe I have a sticking point of which I'm not quite aware. If there is a deeper issue, I would love to learn what that is as well. I believe this is hardly an uncommon sticking point.
I am deeply interested in hearing people's feedback. I will post field reports as well, if details are required--on the other hand, I don't think I will reveal anything beyond what I have already written.
Hope to hear feedback from the wonderful people on this board!
Best
SuperDup.
I've read the articles here and think they're pretty awesome. I've worked on my fundamentals: eye contact, posture, sexy smile. I have spent at least a day on each. Did I improve my eye contact, according to the article? I do believe so. My posture? I try to stand as dominant and yet sexy as possible. I smile, where my eyes are slightly squinted, and I feel very sexy--the Sexy Smile. Looking through corners of eyes. Squinted eyes. Calmness. Expression of sexuality.
Yet, something does not seem to be sticking.
I have trouble in nightclub/bar/party scenarios. I actually do open "sets;" I talk to people. I even deep-dive, hearing their particular stories. But I do not *STICK*. I talk; I try to be myself as much as possible--no games, just genuine expression of intent and interest, in a very human way.
Yet I somehow cannot help but feel my approach has some issues. The irony is that I do not have trouble in specific scenarios--house parties, groups where people know each other--I tend to generate much interest: eye contact, contact in general. Connection. But in more public settings, I simply do not seem to click in the same way.
I know, given the articles here, that it is not due to superficial attitudes. I work on myself as much as possible--I try to improve my attitudes, not be judgmental, enjoy life, relax, express my sexuality. Yet I feel like women simply do not respond when I am in bars or clubs.
I believe I have a sticking point of which I'm not quite aware. If there is a deeper issue, I would love to learn what that is as well. I believe this is hardly an uncommon sticking point.
I am deeply interested in hearing people's feedback. I will post field reports as well, if details are required--on the other hand, I don't think I will reveal anything beyond what I have already written.
Hope to hear feedback from the wonderful people on this board!
Best
SuperDup.
