FR Mall Again... More Progress Baby

[AsianPersuasion]

Today I approached so many girls that I don't even remember the amount, or what exactly happened with the ones that declined to give me their number... I do remember accidentally approaching a married latina woman that was old enough to be my mom though. They age so well.
It was all basically the same.. I used the same opener, but told them I didn't have a whole lot of time, asked if they were single, and offered a coffee date regardless of their answer. All of these successfully swapped numbers with me.

Girl #1: The very first girl I even considered opening to was flat out gorgeous beyond anybody else I've approached since I started. It's national ice cream day, and I wanted to grab some. I went into the shop dressed as Jim Morrison not planning on approaching anyone, but I saw the blonde babe at the counter and refused to let myself give up this opportunity.
I thought I had jaded myself from Approach Anxiety by now, but my leg still shook when I opened her, and I stumbled on my words.. Perhaps I hadn't been warmed up or something.
Despite my shaking, she wrote her name and number on a napkin. When I left and began eating my ice cream, I'm sure the smile on my face could have stretched from coast to coast. I was 1 for 1.

Girl #2: After meeting several girls that were not single, I met a girl in the Hollister store in the mall. I had just bought a belt buckle from Spencer's and my excuse to go and leave quickly was that I had just undone my belt for someone and was looking for a mirror to readjust my clothes. (I mentioned that the unbuckling was to try on the belt buckle later.) After the girl showed me the mirror, I opened to her. She said she was only sorta single because she was interested in a guy already, but I offered the coffee date, asked for her number, and said she could think about it. Walk in, strut out.

Girl #3: The next girl was an unexpected pick up because I was actually planning on opening to one of her co-workers. When I told her about how I was a very into arts and admiring the pottery in the tea shop, her and I got into this great conversation about the arts and I just had to ask for her number. I only found her kind of attractive, but I love art types more than I probably should. She gave me the number and agreed to the coffee date. She warned me that she had a boyfriend whom she was living with, but oh well. I have a golden retriever that I am living with, so we're even.

Girl #4: This one worked at the Aeropostal store, and I used the same excuse as before to go in and get out quickly so I could have a time constraint. She's from Texas and only staying up here for a little bit, but has a boyfriend that lives in Texas.. Perfect.

Girl #5: This may end up being a failure, because I got her number, but forgot her name. I had to text again to ask.. This one was skeptical about my mirror excuse, but oh well. Can't win everything.

I'm gonna have a totally new vibe when I walk into school come September from all this seasoning... I just hope getting involved with so many girls that all work at the same Mall won't come back to bite me in the ass later. Hopefully I find success with non-employees soon.

 

[AsianPersuasion]

I'm beginning to see why people get addicted to gambling. Right now, I don't think I can stop.

 

[Smurf]

Dang, AP. You really inspire me to try and get some approaches in before school starts, too. Might make some attempts this week, but my mall isn't as good for girls as yours obviously is. Love the golden retriever line too.

 

[Laowai]

You need to write a bit more detailed about what's going on in each set for us to better help you. I still get the feeling that you are way over-gaming the girls - fx the thing with the mirror that a lot of the girls didn't buy into.

What I started doing if I've gotten a girls number is to write down info about her on my cell phone - basically what we talked about when we met. I do that immediately after talking to her, so everything is still fresh. Like you write, when you start to approach many girls it becomes like a blur unless you write down their details.

Also, just a word of caution. You must be aware of recalibrating yourself well when you start in school again. Now you can run around and approach a lot of girls because you don't know them and you won't see them again if you fuck up. When you start back in school you'll be fixed in that social circle there and can run the danger of harming yourself if you fuck up big with some of the people there. Trust me, I've been in that position due to inexperience with women and because I wasn't smooth enough back then but too direct in how I communicated with them, and you don't want to go there.

Again, massive respect and cool points for direct gaming at 17, but you must also learn to chill out more and become more laid-back : )

 

[AsianPersuasion]

Thanks Laowai! I'll scale it back now and a lot more when I get back to school. That'll be a lot easier than bringing myself up at the very least..
There was a girl at my school that had eyes that could peer into the depths of your soul that was giving me all sorts of signals including talking loudly about sex right by me, pushing me, and interrupting my conversations with other girls... I couldn't for the life of myself pick up my balls to just come say hi back then, and I never wanted to have such anxiety ever again. When the time comes, if the window of opportunity hasn't closed on me completely yet, I'm hoping my summer experiences might give me a better shot at her.
And thanks for all the support man, I appreciate it greatly! I'll write more detail in my field reports when I go out again tomorrow, after my date today

 

[AsianPersuasion]

Hey Jake! My mall is terrible too dude haha.. With phones and everything, nobody leaves the house anymore and I almost never see girls my age there. When I do think they might be someone my age from their hair and clothing, they turn around and reveal their faces that are about 5 years younger than mine.
Most of the girls I've opened to look a lot older than me, but since I've been told I look 22 and give off a vibe of 29, I try my luck anyway...
If you just go out there giving yourself permission to mess your interactions up completely for the learning experience, you begin to pick up little tips and tricks every time you mess something up. Plus, you can post it online here where people like Laowai can often give you the little tip that makes or breaks your interaction. Things begin to click, and it becomes very fun... Almost addicting.
There's what I like to call a point of no return when you commit to approaching someone. Just make yourself walk up there, and when you're right by her, your forced to either try opening, or stand there awkwardly.
If you get a date, great! If you completely mess it up, it'll help you learn faster than anything else.

 

[Smurf]

Thanks, AP! makes me feel good that tthere's someone else that's near my age here haha. That thing where they turn out to be like 12 happens to me too! Girls develop much too fast these days...

Yeah I'm gonna start posting here again, hopefully develop some skill before school. I don't look much older than I am, so do you know any methods for that without facial hair? 17 and no facial hair, it's embarrassing, I know.

 

[AsianPersuasion]

It's all in the fundamentals bro! I'm a 5'6'' Asian guy who normally would look 10 years younger than he really is. I think part of the reason they say that is because there are no guys my age that have my posture, my style of dress, my walk, or my overall slowness. When I speak, I speak from my diaphragm so my voice is low and slow and I think it makes my energy seem more grounded than other 17 year olds.
In the same manner girls can trick you into thinking they're older than they really are, you can too.