Managing Casual Eye Contact

[Nuncle]

Was at a street festival the other day and happened to be feeling particularly at ease and looking pretty sharp, although wasn't there with the aim of picking up.

I got a number of long, direct, blatant stares from passing women, one of them on a date. I tended to look away soon but slowly (if you know what I mean), following which the women concerned seemed to quickly drop me from their consideration.

I wasn't intimidated so much as I think the whole "staring each other out" thing is a little odd and a little cheesy (though I know girls often like cheesy and it can therefore be a successful tactic).

What is the best thing to do when you get one of these? (I know, I know, approach! I have not really started on that journey just yet).

Thanks

 

[Franco]

Nuncle,

If you're just playing around with eye contact and it's just casual (meaning no, or little, intent of approach), then try making eye contact like you were, but then very slowly turn away while also slowly curving your lips into a sexy, curved smile.

The vibe behind this small gesture should be, "yeah, I definitely noticed you noticing me. You're cute... if only the situation was different where we could somehow meet each other..."

It may seem like a smile can't really say that much, but body language can really communicate a lot. If you want a girl to look your way a second time, then I would try experimenting with this. Once I know I've made eye contact the first time and then turn away with the sexy smile, I'll keep her in my peripheral vision until I notice her look over again for a second, then look away because she notices you aren't looking at her and doesn't want to be "caught" staring at you.

Bam! Chase frame established.

Cheers,

Franco

 

[Nuncle]

Cheers Franco, food for thought.

Yes even if not actively on the pull it still hurts to see a hot girl show then lose interest in you!

 

[Marty]

I've wanted to ask this very question for some time, but wasn't sure how to phrase it. Sometimes approach is a near impossibility (eg if she's with a guy), but your sense of self-respect still wants her to go off with a good opinion of you.

Thanks so much, Nuncle, for asking, and thank you Franco for such a clear and thorough response.

Definitely something to try over the next few days!

 

[trashKENNUT]

The vibe behind this small gesture should be, "yeah, I definitely noticed you noticing me. You're cute... if only the situation was different where we could somehow meet each other..."

Franco, the irony where i know you notice me, you cute,if only the situation was different but then i was in the elevator with her. HAHA!

Zac

 

[Marty]

By the way, it's interesting how you start to notice this more as you make progress, isn't it? Partly through paying more attention to your peripheral vision, partly from improved social awareness, and partly because, as your fundamentals are tightened down, you are in actual fact receiving more attention.