Married woman coming over for drinks and then partying: course of action?

[lux7]

I've met a married woman and went out with her once.

FIRST TIME OUT
She expected us to go out as "friends" so she turned out my "move" once back home.

She kept hanging around though and said I was a "charmer". I knew that my reply "maybe not a great one though otherwise we'd be together by now" hit the bull's eye when she sat there quiet and pensive -and not smiling and denying-.

I felt she was into me but I didn't go for a second move as I didn't want to be the one putting the spoke in the wheels of her marriage.


MEETING RANDOMLY
I met her a couple of times in the street as she and made some jokes about her wanting me.
The second time I was a bit tipsy and said we should go somewhere.
She said she'd like that as friends and I actually said I'd like it too as I really meant it, but I still winked all the times at the word "friends" to suggest something more sexual.


OUT FOR PARTYING REQUEST
A few days ago she writes me a rather long message with a few mundane things and then.. The funny part.
She was home tipsy and drinking wine and she wanted to "party really, really hard. Wild and glamorous as in the Great Gatsby. But not with my husband... My marriage sucks".

She asks what am I up to on Friday and that I should cancel all my appointments because she will be my appointment.

She would go anyway by herself, but if I didn't go... I'd regret it for sure .
And that I shouldn't hesitate to write her about Friday night...


MY GOOD MOVE
..And I do write about that Friday night saying "yeah, but before let's meet at my place for drinks".
And she said yes.


MY MISTAKE
I accepted the party thing as it's been a while for me and I thought it would be fun.
But I later realized I'm too stingy to do "glamorous hard partying" in some expensive night club .
And of course, night club aren't often conducive to intimacy.

Just drinks and then you go partying would have been the best option, but now it's off the table as I don't wanna flip flop.


COURSE OF ACTION
How would you go from here?
I'd try again to go for sex while at my place.

But it's a bit "dangerous" after we agreed on the party as if it won't go anywhere sexually then I wouldn't feel like going out with her and I'd lose her completely.




So.. ?
Any idea.... ?

 

[Chase]

Lucifer-

Easy. She wants to party hard, and she wants to party hard with YOU.

So, set your place up so that she can party hard with you, IN your place:

• Candles
• Playlists of both smooth music (Sade, Thievery Corporation) and party music (whatever's hot)
• Mood lighting (lava lamp? disco ball? strobe lights, even? - grab stuff from the store)
• A little bar with bottles and mixers and plastic cups, and some drink recipes on-hand so you can mix them
• A drink shaker like you see at the bars - made of aluminum, pretty cheap; you can buy them at many alcohol stores that sell peripherals like wine glasses

At the same time, have a backup place to take her to that is near to your place but doesn't have a lot of male competition (e.g., a gay bar, or a hipster/emo bar, etc.), in case she insists on going out to club.

Chances are, if you can give her a cool experience in your place, that will be WAY better and more exciting to her than a real bar or nightclub, and she won't want to go.

Then just give her the experience - dance with her, grind on her, make it like something out of a movie for her. Don't jump on escalating on her right away - make it an adventure. She wants an adventure... give it to her. Let it unfold gradually as the night wears on. Just get things hotter and hotter and sexier and sexier as the night goes on, and roleplay with her "We can't have sex on the dance floor, can we... someone will see and security will kick us out! We might even get arrested!" then let her convince you to do it anyway.

Chase

 

[lux7]

Thanks Chase!

Was indeed a rather easy one