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Two hours ago I had a 7/8-minute conversation with a new waitress at a restaurant close to my place, whose owner I know very well.
The interaction with this girl began very naturally and easily because the owner said: hey, here's our new worker, she's from your same town.
I used the occasion to practice a bit of cool, confident, non-needy behavior, being relaxed, smooth and in control of yourself when talking to a girl. It went quite well actually and she responded very positively, making eye contact and laughing very often. What I noticed anyway is that I can keep this coolness only for the first 5-6 minutes, then something changes inside of me. I begin to lose that feeling of "being relaxed" and I start becoming agitated and out-of control inside. Above all I start being taken by the fear I might not have anything interesting to say anymore and end up being perceived as boring.
I closed the interaction to maintain the good first impression I probably made in the first 5 minutes.
Did you experience something similar when you were at the first stages of "consciously improving your skills with women"?
Which suggestions would you give to practice emotional control while remaining sociable and avoiding becoming too cold and emotionless (I can do that very well, but then of course there's not interaction at all)
The interaction with this girl began very naturally and easily because the owner said: hey, here's our new worker, she's from your same town.
I used the occasion to practice a bit of cool, confident, non-needy behavior, being relaxed, smooth and in control of yourself when talking to a girl. It went quite well actually and she responded very positively, making eye contact and laughing very often. What I noticed anyway is that I can keep this coolness only for the first 5-6 minutes, then something changes inside of me. I begin to lose that feeling of "being relaxed" and I start becoming agitated and out-of control inside. Above all I start being taken by the fear I might not have anything interesting to say anymore and end up being perceived as boring.
I closed the interaction to maintain the good first impression I probably made in the first 5 minutes.
Did you experience something similar when you were at the first stages of "consciously improving your skills with women"?
Which suggestions would you give to practice emotional control while remaining sociable and avoiding becoming too cold and emotionless (I can do that very well, but then of course there's not interaction at all)
