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So yesterday I was on my way to uni boarding a train and a girl that's boarding the same one gives me side look. I sort of recognize her face so I go over and say hey she gives me a warm response and we have indeed met both of us just don't remember where - I know for certain its day game just don't remember the set. We refresh each others memories - chat about uni and she casually drops she has a bf and says that she wished she saw him more (me and her bf both like video games) but he's busy playing video games. I'm not really sure whether this is a subtle hey not really big on my bf we should do something or she's just put me in nice guy slot and venting. Either way I'm not really interested in becoming this girls emotional baggage carrier or with girls that have a bf so we part ways at the next train.
Later on I get to uni - walking into the food court and I run into another girl I've cold approached again by recognizing her face. She recognizes me too we re-introduce ourselves and I start screening logistics - she says she is meeting with her cousins so I bid her farewell.
I get into the food court and I run into ANOTHER girl that I've approached - holy shit. So at this point I'm kinda getting freaked out because usually I'll run into a girl that I've seen before like once a week usually less. She is sitting at a table working on her laptop and there is a guy sitting in front of her with his body language fully on her and she isn't giving him a single ounce of attention. I open with "hey stranger" she recognizes me and tells me she has like a million things to catch up on so I tap the dude on the shoulder that's sitting in front of her and ask him if she is usually so well organized (with sarcasm obviously) the dude takes my side and says "she is so well organized that this is the first time I've seen her in weeks" I get the impression this guy is an orbiter. Poor guy I really feel for him - not that I'm much better with women but at least I'm aware of this shit. When I first met this girl there was an extremely large amount of sexual tension - it was like a 3 minute interaction she had to go to class and she offered me her number and I was getting a boner from the tension but she flaked on the date and didn't offer an alternative so I just let it be : shame she's pretty hot.I say bye to them both and go get some food.
So I get my food and head outside since the weather is amazing I haven't really seen any girls I find really attractive so I just decide to eat. I go to sit down and from a distance I see a girl sitting on her laptop she seems sorta cute so I get my ass over there and open with just asking what she's doing - she's kinda neutral so I sit and we have a chat. She doesn't turn her attention away from the laptop much and she really isn't super attractive so I'm not seeing this going anywhere I'm basically just asking her about how she wanted to be a teacher and again her body language isn't very positive.
Just when I'm contemplating leaving another girl approaches the table and addresses the girl I'm talking to by name : "Hey girl 1" and then immediately turns to address me and explodes :"Hey skid , I'm girl 2 do you remember my name? probably not since I'm just one of the hundreds of women you hit on - so how about you please leave my friend alone?". I'm kinda snapped out of my daydream state and quite shocked by the initial aggressiveness of her. So I turn to face her but I'm also quite amused she said please when stating her demands but at the same time I'm concerned with why this girl is so hostile towards me since I try to make it a goal of mine not to hurt girls or peoples feelings in general. And yes she is right I don't remember her at all - but that just means we never met up. I remember all the girls I've met up with. So in the space of 5 seconds the girl I was interacting with initially turns from neutral to hostile I keep my cool pretty easily since I've had this happen before once or twice and dealt with girls that have told me to fuck off (fun times) and I say "wait wait wait , what's your problem?" and to which she replies "you can't go hitting on girls all the time" me : "well it was hardly me hitting on you for starters , I literally just said hi ,whatcha up to" - like I said before the interaction was opened indirect and I really didn't have much of a vibe going - shouldn't have qualified myself but I was gathering my thoughts and with that she says "yeah, but it was like that at the start we're leaving" .
And with that they walk off. So I take a second to reflect on it : I would have liked to get to the core of why she was so hostile towards me and stated at some point that she doesn't have a right to be because I can't possibly have burned her because if she wanted to meet with me chances are I gave her an opportunity and asked for her number (I don't remember oops) and also she has no right to shame me for meeting girls with romantic intent if I'm single which I am and have been my entire life. Pity this stuff came to my head after they left.
So basically to me this girl just seemed really bitter for some reason. Maybe she had some bad past experiences with dudes that were good with girls and I hit some sort of anchored memory with my approaching , maybe she was bitter to me personally because she was a set I didn't ask for her number for whatever reason. It's also quite immature of her to be bitter toward me because she wasn't a "special case" and when she found out it happened to her friend too that ruined the memory if that is the reason behind the hostility - if so welcome to reality miss.They way she addressed me gave me the feeling I definitely did approach her ; but it does worry me a bit since she said hundreds of girls (not sure if she thought she was exaggerating) but the number is probs somewhat close to reality which means she could have other friends I've approached. Sigh, wasn't to worried about this because my uni is pretty huge. What do you guys think ? how would you handle that scenario and should I tone down the approaching? I tend to do it fairly often because I'm scared I'll lose the skill set that I've spend so long working on.
Skid
Later on I get to uni - walking into the food court and I run into another girl I've cold approached again by recognizing her face. She recognizes me too we re-introduce ourselves and I start screening logistics - she says she is meeting with her cousins so I bid her farewell.
I get into the food court and I run into ANOTHER girl that I've approached - holy shit. So at this point I'm kinda getting freaked out because usually I'll run into a girl that I've seen before like once a week usually less. She is sitting at a table working on her laptop and there is a guy sitting in front of her with his body language fully on her and she isn't giving him a single ounce of attention. I open with "hey stranger" she recognizes me and tells me she has like a million things to catch up on so I tap the dude on the shoulder that's sitting in front of her and ask him if she is usually so well organized (with sarcasm obviously) the dude takes my side and says "she is so well organized that this is the first time I've seen her in weeks" I get the impression this guy is an orbiter. Poor guy I really feel for him - not that I'm much better with women but at least I'm aware of this shit. When I first met this girl there was an extremely large amount of sexual tension - it was like a 3 minute interaction she had to go to class and she offered me her number and I was getting a boner from the tension but she flaked on the date and didn't offer an alternative so I just let it be : shame she's pretty hot.I say bye to them both and go get some food.
So I get my food and head outside since the weather is amazing I haven't really seen any girls I find really attractive so I just decide to eat. I go to sit down and from a distance I see a girl sitting on her laptop she seems sorta cute so I get my ass over there and open with just asking what she's doing - she's kinda neutral so I sit and we have a chat. She doesn't turn her attention away from the laptop much and she really isn't super attractive so I'm not seeing this going anywhere I'm basically just asking her about how she wanted to be a teacher and again her body language isn't very positive.
Just when I'm contemplating leaving another girl approaches the table and addresses the girl I'm talking to by name : "Hey girl 1" and then immediately turns to address me and explodes :"Hey skid , I'm girl 2 do you remember my name? probably not since I'm just one of the hundreds of women you hit on - so how about you please leave my friend alone?". I'm kinda snapped out of my daydream state and quite shocked by the initial aggressiveness of her. So I turn to face her but I'm also quite amused she said please when stating her demands but at the same time I'm concerned with why this girl is so hostile towards me since I try to make it a goal of mine not to hurt girls or peoples feelings in general. And yes she is right I don't remember her at all - but that just means we never met up. I remember all the girls I've met up with. So in the space of 5 seconds the girl I was interacting with initially turns from neutral to hostile I keep my cool pretty easily since I've had this happen before once or twice and dealt with girls that have told me to fuck off (fun times) and I say "wait wait wait , what's your problem?" and to which she replies "you can't go hitting on girls all the time" me : "well it was hardly me hitting on you for starters , I literally just said hi ,whatcha up to" - like I said before the interaction was opened indirect and I really didn't have much of a vibe going - shouldn't have qualified myself but I was gathering my thoughts and with that she says "yeah, but it was like that at the start we're leaving" .
And with that they walk off. So I take a second to reflect on it : I would have liked to get to the core of why she was so hostile towards me and stated at some point that she doesn't have a right to be because I can't possibly have burned her because if she wanted to meet with me chances are I gave her an opportunity and asked for her number (I don't remember oops) and also she has no right to shame me for meeting girls with romantic intent if I'm single which I am and have been my entire life. Pity this stuff came to my head after they left.
So basically to me this girl just seemed really bitter for some reason. Maybe she had some bad past experiences with dudes that were good with girls and I hit some sort of anchored memory with my approaching , maybe she was bitter to me personally because she was a set I didn't ask for her number for whatever reason. It's also quite immature of her to be bitter toward me because she wasn't a "special case" and when she found out it happened to her friend too that ruined the memory if that is the reason behind the hostility - if so welcome to reality miss.They way she addressed me gave me the feeling I definitely did approach her ; but it does worry me a bit since she said hundreds of girls (not sure if she thought she was exaggerating) but the number is probs somewhat close to reality which means she could have other friends I've approached. Sigh, wasn't to worried about this because my uni is pretty huge. What do you guys think ? how would you handle that scenario and should I tone down the approaching? I tend to do it fairly often because I'm scared I'll lose the skill set that I've spend so long working on.
Skid
