Hey guys,
So this is my first field report and as the situation is a little more unique than what I am used to, I figured I could use some other perspectives.
Background: I am 19, in college for the time being and have been genetically lucky enough to develop into a decent looking dude (at the risk of sounding cocky). Coupled with some height and a pretty good build/fashion taste, I have had good results here in my first year with some of the small social circle environments that each class has.
This particular girl is a rather unique case, her name is Amy and she is in my human sexuality class. The class itself is decent and has presented some interesting shared experiences revolving around sex and has allowed me to talk with her about sexual topics, although not in a super personal way. Amy is a year or two older than me and has a young kid, I wanna say 4 y.o. or so. We have sat next to each other since class started last month and have always flirted, and I have been especially pleased at how I present myself in this class (some classes I feel I am not as confident, but this one is definitely an exception). Now due to a couple of different reasons, I waited on asking her out until now, so about 8 classes or so, but the entire time we have still maintained the same level of flirtatious banter. I know she is separated from her kid's dad and that she still goes out on the weekend, but other than that my guess is she has definitely got her hands full, so I wasn't entirely sure she would be up for a date.
Anyways, I was talking with her the other day while we were both on our way out of the class, and said:
Me: "Hey we should grab a coffee sometime, I think you're cute. What do you say?"
(At this point we had kind of come to a stand still on the side walk and were both about to part ways, I kinda asked it while she was just starting to walk away from me (bad timing I know).
Her (while turning and beginning to back pedal towards her next class with a really cute/teasing smile on her face): "Mayyyybe"
Me (laughing with a shit-eating grin): "Maybe!??!"
Her (still backpedaling with another cute/teasing laugh on her face): "Yeah!! (laughs) I have to think about it!!"
Me (still grinning): "Alright haha, I'll see you later"
I was kinda lost at this point but didnt show it and we went our separate ways. Now, if I was thinking clearly, I would have stopped her and talked to her more about it there, but I didn't have any experiences like this and was mentally flustered.
I know reading this that it might seem like she was just saying maybe because she didn't want to say no to my face, but it was pretty flirty and sexually charged, like she knew I was gonna ask her out and was expecting it and we were both just playing a game.
So yeah, it kinda sucks because I wont see her for another 4 days, and so anything could happen, but I was curious if anyone else had any experience with something like this in a social circle setting. I don't know if she just isn't attracted (I doubt this, unless my skills at reading people are worse than I suspect), or if she doesn't want to get bogged down with another time constraint or doesn't like dating people in classes etc. So there are a lot of options. Hopefully some of you guys can help me with what I should expect from her, or if I should try and let her know that this is just a coffee/not a big time commitment.
Thanks in advance for the advice,
Childish
So this is my first field report and as the situation is a little more unique than what I am used to, I figured I could use some other perspectives.
Background: I am 19, in college for the time being and have been genetically lucky enough to develop into a decent looking dude (at the risk of sounding cocky). Coupled with some height and a pretty good build/fashion taste, I have had good results here in my first year with some of the small social circle environments that each class has.
This particular girl is a rather unique case, her name is Amy and she is in my human sexuality class. The class itself is decent and has presented some interesting shared experiences revolving around sex and has allowed me to talk with her about sexual topics, although not in a super personal way. Amy is a year or two older than me and has a young kid, I wanna say 4 y.o. or so. We have sat next to each other since class started last month and have always flirted, and I have been especially pleased at how I present myself in this class (some classes I feel I am not as confident, but this one is definitely an exception). Now due to a couple of different reasons, I waited on asking her out until now, so about 8 classes or so, but the entire time we have still maintained the same level of flirtatious banter. I know she is separated from her kid's dad and that she still goes out on the weekend, but other than that my guess is she has definitely got her hands full, so I wasn't entirely sure she would be up for a date.
Anyways, I was talking with her the other day while we were both on our way out of the class, and said:
Me: "Hey we should grab a coffee sometime, I think you're cute. What do you say?"
(At this point we had kind of come to a stand still on the side walk and were both about to part ways, I kinda asked it while she was just starting to walk away from me (bad timing I know).
Her (while turning and beginning to back pedal towards her next class with a really cute/teasing smile on her face): "Mayyyybe"
Me (laughing with a shit-eating grin): "Maybe!??!"
Her (still backpedaling with another cute/teasing laugh on her face): "Yeah!! (laughs) I have to think about it!!"
Me (still grinning): "Alright haha, I'll see you later"
I was kinda lost at this point but didnt show it and we went our separate ways. Now, if I was thinking clearly, I would have stopped her and talked to her more about it there, but I didn't have any experiences like this and was mentally flustered.
I know reading this that it might seem like she was just saying maybe because she didn't want to say no to my face, but it was pretty flirty and sexually charged, like she knew I was gonna ask her out and was expecting it and we were both just playing a game.
So yeah, it kinda sucks because I wont see her for another 4 days, and so anything could happen, but I was curious if anyone else had any experience with something like this in a social circle setting. I don't know if she just isn't attracted (I doubt this, unless my skills at reading people are worse than I suspect), or if she doesn't want to get bogged down with another time constraint or doesn't like dating people in classes etc. So there are a lot of options. Hopefully some of you guys can help me with what I should expect from her, or if I should try and let her know that this is just a coffee/not a big time commitment.
Thanks in advance for the advice,
Childish
