Meeting attractive women after college and hooking up with them, how?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Something that has bothered me since I recently graduated college is that attractive women are much much more difficult to come across. Sometimes I get an attractive woman that I would talk to and she is usually in a committed relationship or engaged. I hear in the rural midwest and areas of the USA that are very conservative tend to have women that marry at a young age.

I feel like I have come such a long way both in terms of physical attractiveness and personal development but it feels like if I don't settle down on a long term relationship (recently broke up), I am screwed. Sleeping around and raising the notch count seem less realistic than they were back when I was in college.

The future is promising as I plan on moving to a big city but I still get that nostalgia of all that time in college I spent in college developing rather than actually putting myself out there.

 

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This thread basically asks and answers your question.

 

[gifatron]

Yeah, this was a bit of a shock to me, too. The good news is, though...the reverse is also true. Attractive men are harder to find for women. Of course, if you're fresh out of college, many of the girls you'll be interested in are college aged and absolutely inundated with suitors, but a couple of years down the line and it does seem to level out.

I started finding extracurriculars that I liked which didn't necessarily involve partying. For me, this ended up meaning ballroom dance socials, boardgame nights, bookstore coffee shops, and other random, interesting events. I also met people through this events and got invited to other events etc etc until I started finding some semi-exclusive venues to partake in.

I started, basically, by going to meetup.com and attending events like crazy until something stuck and I wanted to do it again.

Many people here will propose day game, and it's good, too -- I've met a couple of women that way over the last year or so despite not really putting in the effort. I hear it's the best for people who are highly socially calibrated, and I can see why. You have the freedom to pull high risk maneuvers without losing face, you don't need to worry about where you are in the social hierarchy, etc.

From there, it's a matter of logistics and setting up dates. As was said earlier, you learn to never let an opportunity go to waste. You ask them out right away -- either back to your place / a nearby venue or on a date at another time. And you keep honing that closing instinct.