LR Meh- having more sex

[thedude]

This one was my first cold approach lay for the year. I was walking on campus heading somewhere when I spot what I believe is a cute Asian Girl.

I open with a direct opener…

Me: Hey… I saw you walking there and I just have to say… you’re really cute

Her: Oh thank you!

The conversation is pretty boring… I realize that I’ve been making pretty mundane conversation at the beginning during my cold-approaches instead of flirting/being witty.

The realization occurred when a bunch of really attractive girls I cold-approached didn’t return my text messages

Anyway I say goodbye, send an ice-breaker text. And then go on my way.

I arrange a meetup a couple of days later and it goes pretty standard. This girl definitely wanted it and was experienced.

We head back to my place, make a fruit smoothie and eventually go at it.

I don’t call her again because she was honestly not that attractive but hey, at least I got some experience.

 

[Howell]

Sounds like you may be realizing that you're not really a "notch" guy (as in, motivated by getting notches on your belt).

If you often feel "meh" about the girls you're with, it may be time to stop worrying so much about quantity of lays and focus your game more on meeting higher quality women who you can date and form a strong emotional connection with (this is a very useful domain of experience for the budding player). Whenever I've just used a girls vagina for masturbation, I always feel a bit of shame underlying my feelings of successful conquest; something important feels left out.

So maybe use this as impetus for critically and deliberately re-evaluating your values when it comes to sex and relationships. It's a useful exercise. I re-evaluate mine every few months or so, and for me it's been a steady process of unfolding layers.

Good luck, and keep on rocking it man!

Howell

 

[mindful]

Sounds like you may be realizing that you're not really a "notch" guy (as in, motivated by getting notches on your belt).

If you often feel "meh" about the girls you're with, it may be time to stop worrying so much about quantity of lays and focus your game more on meeting higher quality women who you can date and form a strong emotional connection with (this is a very useful domain of experience for the budding player). Whenever I've just used a girls vagina for masturbation, I always feel a bit of shame underlying my feelings of successful conquest; something important feels left out.

So maybe use this as impetus for critically and deliberately re-evaluating your values when it comes to sex and relationships. It's a useful exercise. I re-evaluate mine every few months or so, and for me it's been a steady process of unfolding layers.

Good luck, and keep on rocking it man!

Howell

I have had this feeling more so than I've wanted. And most likely, it is because you are with a girl you are not that into physically. I've realized this because girls that I am really into sexually I get horny just thinking back on when we had sex and can't wait to do it again. I also can't fuck a girl that is a little above average weight anymore. Done with that. So yeah, up the quality and the girls that really push your sexual buttons. These are also the girls I get more self conscious around because I am more into them.Not a good thing but its a part of the process that I'm working on.