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Hey guys,
So I'm making progress in life right? Got a few lays under my belt and FINALLY got my own place (with a roommate - a buddy of mine I've known for over 10 years). It's in a popular part of town - I'm close to many coffee shops, stores, hiking areas, the mall, and bookstores (a B&N). I've been in my own place for two weeks now.
I've gone on two dates since getting my own place. In quick summary: the first one was from a girl I met online (Facebook dating) and I wasn't feeling like going on much of a second date with her, to go on said second date and it just not go that well (I wasn't that attracted and losing interest as she was being very off putting). The second date I went on was the other day and she was very talkative and I got her within 20 yards of my apartment but never inside. She wasn't interested in a second date and I think she had some deeper issues. I met her through cold approach.
So things are great right? But I just feel this deep feeling that I could be, should be doing better. One date a week isn't going to get me nowhere near where I want to go. I've also been trying to go out regularly and am just not doing as great as I feel I used to at cold approach. Been doing a lot more indirect game and I've been trying to approach only girls who give signs of interest or are really attractive. But I just have this lingering feeling from when I wasn't on my own that if I don't approach a lot of girls - I won't get anywhere.
So I'm transitioning from doing mass approach to more sniper game - but feel bad that I'm not putting in the quantity that I'd like to or getting the results I want. And because I'm not getting the results I want, I feel I need to do more quantity. It's a vicious cycle.
Obviously I have to work on getting more women home but it's hard to not beat myself up when I'm getting nowhere close to the results I thought I'd get. And by this I mean more dates/same day dates/lays.
Any ideas, tips, suggestions? Anyone else been where I am and know how to best get through it?
Thanks!
NBW
So I'm making progress in life right? Got a few lays under my belt and FINALLY got my own place (with a roommate - a buddy of mine I've known for over 10 years). It's in a popular part of town - I'm close to many coffee shops, stores, hiking areas, the mall, and bookstores (a B&N). I've been in my own place for two weeks now.
I've gone on two dates since getting my own place. In quick summary: the first one was from a girl I met online (Facebook dating) and I wasn't feeling like going on much of a second date with her, to go on said second date and it just not go that well (I wasn't that attracted and losing interest as she was being very off putting). The second date I went on was the other day and she was very talkative and I got her within 20 yards of my apartment but never inside. She wasn't interested in a second date and I think she had some deeper issues. I met her through cold approach.
So things are great right? But I just feel this deep feeling that I could be, should be doing better. One date a week isn't going to get me nowhere near where I want to go. I've also been trying to go out regularly and am just not doing as great as I feel I used to at cold approach. Been doing a lot more indirect game and I've been trying to approach only girls who give signs of interest or are really attractive. But I just have this lingering feeling from when I wasn't on my own that if I don't approach a lot of girls - I won't get anywhere.
So I'm transitioning from doing mass approach to more sniper game - but feel bad that I'm not putting in the quantity that I'd like to or getting the results I want. And because I'm not getting the results I want, I feel I need to do more quantity. It's a vicious cycle.
Obviously I have to work on getting more women home but it's hard to not beat myself up when I'm getting nowhere close to the results I thought I'd get. And by this I mean more dates/same day dates/lays.
Any ideas, tips, suggestions? Anyone else been where I am and know how to best get through it?
Thanks!
NBW
