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Met a nice girl at a club. Need some friendly advice?

LondonChaser19

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Hi there,

Long story short I am at a club and some random girl asks if she can sit down till my friends come back. I say okay and chat to her for a bit, I felt we were getting along quite well so I asked for her number. She didnt have her phone so she wrote her name down and told me to look for her on facebook. I then got called of by my wingman.

So I added the girl the afternoon after the club and a day later she accepted my friend request. I didnt even have FB but I told her i would make one to find her.

So my question is considering I only talked to her for 10 mins. What should I send to her? My objectives are to get her number and then get her on a date with as little messages as possible. I want to win her over in person. But i dont really know what would be appropriate?

If anyone has any suggestions or even an example message to send I would be very grateful.

Its the first potential date I have since staring my Girlchase journey so still pretty newbie.

Thank you :)
 

DesiBro

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You made a FB specifically for her? You're already chasing mate. Not gonna turn out well if you keep that up.
 

Light

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When girls use "add me on Facebook" - it is a polite way of them saying they're not interested (usually).

Be honest with her that you're not fond of facebook. Just send her a message giving her your phone number:

"Hey Julie, its Light. Save my number - XXXXXXXXX"

If she texts you back then you're in the game. If she doesn't, move on.
 
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LondonChaser19

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Light said:
When girls use "add me on Facebook" - it is a polite way of them saying they're not interested (usually).

Be honest with her that you're not fond of facebook. Just send her a message giving her your phone number:

"Hey Julie, its Light. Save my number - XXXXXXXXX"

If she texts you back then you're in the game. If she doesn't, move on.


Hi Thank you for the response, I think you were right. The person I found on fb wasn't her (why she added me anyway is any ones guess) so she either gave me a fake name or something. Oh well. I'll keep trying.
 

Marty

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Hey there LondonChaser,

For the future, it might be worth reading these very interesting takes on number-closing during night game, written by Franco and NarrowJ, both among the most experienced and successful members of our community. They come in response to an (overly-simplistic) question from me.

My observation: the fact the she put herself forward in such a proactive way (coming and sitting down next to you of her own accord, and commencing the conversation) means you needed to reward her immediately by escalating as far as possible from that moment on. If any more knowledgeable member has a different opinion, I defer to that though.

-Marty
 

Light

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It depends. If that was just a bench in a park, then yes - her intention was with you.

But this scenario sounds like she was just using the opportunity to grab a quick seat in a club to ease her tiredness.

So you must be your own judge and move accordingly.
 
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