Met girl on train, don't wanna screw this up

[MihaiR]

Hi guys,

I just met a new girl on the train today from my home town. Late hour in the night, in the station, saw she was kind of looking at me (don't have peripheral vision too good ) and decided to casually sit somewhat in her area in the train. Just dropped everything across her chair area and went to talk on the phone. Made it seem that it would be someone I care about without being to explicit about being a girlfriend. After I talked on the phone the second time with a friend I noticed that she also had some papers to take care of (as I had on my table), listened to her phone call and said hello with a joke. This led to a somewhat 30 minutes conversation. really cute, want her pretty much.
Facts:
-played cool and cocky
-made a few insight remarks on her situation (she pretends to be quite happy in her profession) and on her education
-busted her balls a bit
-she mentioned a long distance boyfriend
-mentioned I had motorcycle to which she told me she separated with a guy with being to obsessed. To which I answered that is not the case and also mentioned a girlfriend (few years ago without mentioning current status)
-asked her an email address to which she responded very promptly and gave me her full name (two first names) and probably could have given also phone number if asked
-joined me to get a cab to get home from a place I knew (where cabs are cheaper) after which I departed with some casual courtesy

She was very opened and seemed interested in me, although mentioned her long distance boyfriend. I was thinking about mailing her a couple of times and then asking her for a coffee.

Question 1: Good or bad approach?
Question 2: She seems very well educated although not exactly a stranger to rebel guys. Found her on facebook and her long distance relationship seems to be with some hipster type guy. Not sure if I should I play a strong type character or not. I'm more of an independent/charming in a smart way (in some cases)/funny kind of guy by nature.

Thanks in advance!

 

[Eric]

A few things:

1) Don't worry about screwing this up, you most likely will. No biggie. It's a good learning experience. Good job on getting the email (next time go straight for phone number or schedule a date)
2) Absolutely do not make correspondance over facebook, in any capacity. No adding as friends, no messages, etc.
3) Just tell her you think she's a cool gal and that you should meet for coffee. A real quick email. Then forget about her. If she responds and wants to go out, cool. If not, cool. No big deal either way.
4) Don't even think about the boyfriend, it's insignificant. Just keep moving. Contact info -> Coffee -> Get her alone -> Kiss / Sex

Godspeed my friend.

 

[MihaiR]

A few things:

1) Don't worry about screwing this up, you most likely will. No biggie. It's a good learning experience. Good job on getting the email (next time go straight for phone number or schedule a date)
2) Absolutely do not make correspondance over facebook, in any capacity. No adding as friends, no messages, etc.
3) Just tell her you think she's a cool gal and that you should meet for coffee. A real quick email. Then forget about her. If she responds and wants to go out, cool. If not, cool. No big deal either way.
4) Don't even think about the boyfriend, it's insignificant. Just keep moving. Contact info -> Coffee -> Get her alone -> Kiss / Sex

Godspeed my friend.

Hi Eric,

I know I should have gotten also the number but sometimes when I sense some kind of distance between me and a girl I try not to be too straightforward and only ask for the email. I've learned they feel it's no biggie to give out their email and also an email can be answered at any time, on the phone I actually have to reach her.

I'll see where it takes me and if I can land this. It would be nice, there's something about her that tells me we could have a really fun time together.

Thanks!

 

[rocky]

If you're afraid to screw this up you will lose her. She will see you're putting effort and trying to be a "better" person. The result is you will come off like a nice guy and fuck it up. This cycle has repeated itself millions of times and this is why this community exists. To make us realize that. Stop trying to be better and just let the chips fall where they may. The best way is to go look for other girls. Simple knowledge will not work well enough.