Met in club, walked home, no sex, no reply to date invite.

[razir110]

SO to keep this short, I went to a club and met this really cool girl. We didnt kiss inside, she was a bit defensive, so eventually we left together. We walked to her place (I was accompanying her, this wasn't a sex invitation) so there was a lot of stuff in common, a lot of chemistry, bla bla. I framed it a bit like on a date, so sexual framing, etc. When we got to hers I didn't really self-invite to go in, honestly it didn't even come to me for some reason (it always does, but that night)

Before leaving we kissed and when I got home I texted her the message of "nice to meet you, keep my number", the same after meeting a girl and getting her number.

She replied the next day with a "same here" so very short. 2 days later (today) I sent her a text asking her out this weekend and got no reply.

Basically, would you say that the fact I didn't go for sex could have disappointing her? But honestly, there was this.. .."lets take this slow" vibe that I really enjoyed, so this time I decided not to go for sex, mistake?..

Deriving from this, what if the lack of "lets fuck now" vibe is the actual problem here and she wasn't that much into as it seemed?

What is your take on this?

 

[JacobPalmer]

Not really enough info, but if things wen't fairly well it could just be that her state dropped and she wasn't in the mood to text her back.

Just text her again, it's not a big deal.

 

[razir110]

Thanks for the reply,

Well I'm not sure what info to add, I mean we have so much stuff in common and there was definitely chemistry there. We met inside the club talked for a few minutes and went to the dance floor, I tried hitting on her, but she was defensive, so I didn't insist too much.. then we left, walked, talked and it was really cool.

One thing that I did remember was that we mentioned she was staying at her friend's and the the friend wasn't around that night, was that an invitation? But again.. there was a different vibe to it all, that it didn't even cross my mind to sneak in to her's, even though I always go for it. Maybe I should have pushed it a bit more, but then I could end in the chaser territory, so a hard one to call..

On a regular date I would def try to bed her, but this wasn't a regular date sort of thing.

Anyway, there isn't much to add I guess, ill give her till tomorrow, 24h and then will make plans with other girls I met around for the weekend.

I do have to admit that I have a tiny crush for her. It's under control, but it does hurt me hat she wasn't responsive to me. Part of the game, that's what it is!

 

[JacobPalmer]

You can text her again, it's not a big deal.

 

[razir110]

So update, she replied 20h later with "my week is super busy and im off to a wedding this weekend, how are you?"
So not accepted the invite and didnt offer alternatives. I say i text her like "cool, talk when we have more time" and delete her number.

This is def lack of interest..

 

[JacobPalmer]

That's a bit harsh. Just say no worries and text her again after the weekend.

 

[razir110]

Fair,
To the message she sent me, "I have a crazy busy week and i am off to a wedding this weekend, How are you?"

I sent her just "lets talk when we have more time then" followed by a cocky joke I was telling her when we met.

I didn't tell her how I was, didn't mention the wedding, didn't wish a good weekend. I want this to signal that I am not into these conversations about nothing, my point is to meet her, period.

PS: Just met a super cute girl in the super market. Life is good.