I've been on a dry spell for almost two years. I haven't been the most motivated and confident person, but Miami and Key West sparked something in me.
My mom and her boyfriend brought me to Miami and Key West in Florida as a graduation gift for finishing college last week. I spent one night in Miami, then 3 night/ 2 days in Key West, then 2 nights/ 1 day in South Beach, Miami. I'll break it down by the days:
Day 1 Miami: Nothing really appealing happened. I saw the hotel receptionist checking me out a bit and I was about to approach her, but I saw her boyfriend walk in as I was about to talk to her. Oh well.
Day 2 Key West: We checked into our hotel rooms and our hotel had a little private beach, but first I walked to the closest CVS to get some condoms. While I was paying, I noticed a cute latina to my right paying too. I got done first and I waited outside the store and went on Google Maps on my phone ( not to make it too obvious, and I really did need directions back to the hotel.) I saw her walking to her car, and I said, "Excuse me, I'm not really from the area. What are the best places around here at night?" Can't remember where she said exactly, but she mentioned Duval Street. I then asked her about her accent, and she said Puerto Rican. I then began deep diving her about she ended up in Key West and not somewhere else and how long she had been here. After about two minutes of chatting, she offered me her number to meet up at some bar she mentioned. (Thought it was a good sign at first, but I think she did it just to end the conversation) I mentioned I wasn't really doing much at the moment besides exploring, and that we should grab a drink. She said she just got off work and wanted to get changed. (Here, I think I should have been persistent about her work uniform not being a big deal, but I settled for the number) She said she would be ready in about an hour. I texted about a little over an hour later, and no response.
In the night, I went out to Duval Street. Honestly, I was a little disappointed because it seemed like the clubs were more about dancing the night away than seducing; I still went out. I went to a few places and found the same environments of dancing the night away music playing, so I finally settled on one club and stayed. I sat at the bar and asked a girl near me what drink she got. Began deep diving her about her military life and her living here. Same thing, after a minute or two, she said she was going to go find her brother. I bid her farewell. After being a wallflower after that, I decided to hit the dance floor. I was pretty nervous, so I didn't do much. Then, I noticed a cute brunette looking at me a few feet away. I walked to her and said, "How come you're by yourself?" She said, "I"m waiting for my boyfriend. He went to get a drink." I still felt like there a was good vibe between us, but if her boyfriend was at the same place, I didn't want to have that problem." I bid her farewell after her boyfriend came by a few seconds later.
Day 3 Key West: At the hotel's private beach, my mom mentioned she was talking to this hispanic family there and that they had a daughter around my age (my mom trying to play wingwoman lol.) She was with her whole family though when I went over and talked to her, and at first I thought she wasn't interested in me because she kind of ignored me after a little chat, but when I walked away, my mom said she saw her checking me out hard. Just couldn't get her away from her family. Oh well. I didn't go out that night. I was a little discouraged from previous night and went to bed.
Day 4 Key West: This was Monday night, and sadly, I didn't see a lot of life on Duval Street. On the contrary, I did see some pretty cute girls on the street walking there, but I bitched out on approaching them all. I went home after that.
Day 5 South Beach Miami: We got to the hotel around 5PM. kind of pissed me off that the receptionist told us that if I brought a guest to my room, i'd have to get them to sign their names on some paper, nevertheless, I still wanted pussy. I went out that night to a club I looked up on Yelp that said it played House music (Chase mentioned how great House clubs are for pickup compared to mainstream music clubs). Sadly, the club wasn't playing house music that night. Still fun though. I met a cool dude there from Russia and he helped build my social momentum. I saw a mid 30's girl sitting by herself at a table and I talked to her for a bit. She was by herself that night, so I assumed she was really trying to get picked up. We chatted and she seemed pretty indifferent to me. I tried to get compliance from here to step outside since the club was so loud, subtly touching her while motioning her to come closer to hear her. She didn't bite, so after a few sentences more, I bid her farewell. I went to talking with my Russian friend, and I noticed a cute brunette to my right alone (seemingly.) I tapped her on the shoulder and made a funny comment about two guys dancing near us and she laughed. She asked me if I was there by myself and I said my friends didn't feel like coming out tonight. She said, "I'm surprised. You're adorable. You should be with someone." (I remember William Gupta writing an article about short guys being seen as less threatening to girls at first. Since I'm 5'4, I see what he means, so I was pretty sure hearing her say adorable wasn't as bad as I first thought.) I asked her who she was with and she said her husband. She complained about her husband was always hitting on other girls and left her alone. (Pretty sure she was between buzzed and tipsy, but I took this as an invitation for me) She wasn't lying though. Her husband was literally two feet in front of us, dancing with other people, hammered. I said to her, "Honestly, if you were single, I'd take you home with me." She said something like, "I'm not that kind of girl." I replied something like, "Nothing wrong with it. Forget society; do what you want." (I didn't say it too smoothly, but fuck it.) She didn't seem fazed really, and she was willing to talk to me. Eventually, she went to grab to her trashed husband and go home. Before she walked away to get him, she said "You're really awesome. I have to go get my husband though." I bid her farewell. I looked away for a few seconds, and when I looked back at her direction leaving, she was already staring at me and blew me a kiss. (Again, I think she was between buzzed and tipsy, so hard to figure out for me lol)
I approached a couple more girls after, but they weren't interested. One more girl I approached, while she was dancing, I pulled her in to say, "You look like a good dancer, but I think I'm better. Accept my challenge?" She grabbed my hand and went, "Not in these shoes haha." (This is where I think I fucked up a potential good interaction because I only said, "Okay" and walked away. I think I could have turned that into more.) I stayed until the club closed, but no more approaches that night.
Day 6 (Last day and night): Not much really. I tried to do the beach pickup; for some reason, beach pickup really intimidates me. I feel like it's so awkward for me to walk up to some girls sunbathing, so I tried to open one girl, and she didn't even give me the time of day. Yikes! After that, I went to the hotel haha. That night, I wanted to go out again to another club I heard played house music more frequently, but as I stepped outside to grab a cab, lighting and heavy rain came out. Just my luck on my last night on vacation!
Overall, I loved being away from home because I didn't have to worry as much about repercussions about hitting on girls I may come across again. I'm extremely behind on the game, and I want to get better.
What do you think about the girl from the Miami nightclub on Day 5 about me and her outdancing each other? Was that something I could have turned into something more?
As always, any feedback appreciated.
My mom and her boyfriend brought me to Miami and Key West in Florida as a graduation gift for finishing college last week. I spent one night in Miami, then 3 night/ 2 days in Key West, then 2 nights/ 1 day in South Beach, Miami. I'll break it down by the days:
Day 1 Miami: Nothing really appealing happened. I saw the hotel receptionist checking me out a bit and I was about to approach her, but I saw her boyfriend walk in as I was about to talk to her. Oh well.
Day 2 Key West: We checked into our hotel rooms and our hotel had a little private beach, but first I walked to the closest CVS to get some condoms. While I was paying, I noticed a cute latina to my right paying too. I got done first and I waited outside the store and went on Google Maps on my phone ( not to make it too obvious, and I really did need directions back to the hotel.) I saw her walking to her car, and I said, "Excuse me, I'm not really from the area. What are the best places around here at night?" Can't remember where she said exactly, but she mentioned Duval Street. I then asked her about her accent, and she said Puerto Rican. I then began deep diving her about she ended up in Key West and not somewhere else and how long she had been here. After about two minutes of chatting, she offered me her number to meet up at some bar she mentioned. (Thought it was a good sign at first, but I think she did it just to end the conversation) I mentioned I wasn't really doing much at the moment besides exploring, and that we should grab a drink. She said she just got off work and wanted to get changed. (Here, I think I should have been persistent about her work uniform not being a big deal, but I settled for the number) She said she would be ready in about an hour. I texted about a little over an hour later, and no response.
In the night, I went out to Duval Street. Honestly, I was a little disappointed because it seemed like the clubs were more about dancing the night away than seducing; I still went out. I went to a few places and found the same environments of dancing the night away music playing, so I finally settled on one club and stayed. I sat at the bar and asked a girl near me what drink she got. Began deep diving her about her military life and her living here. Same thing, after a minute or two, she said she was going to go find her brother. I bid her farewell. After being a wallflower after that, I decided to hit the dance floor. I was pretty nervous, so I didn't do much. Then, I noticed a cute brunette looking at me a few feet away. I walked to her and said, "How come you're by yourself?" She said, "I"m waiting for my boyfriend. He went to get a drink." I still felt like there a was good vibe between us, but if her boyfriend was at the same place, I didn't want to have that problem." I bid her farewell after her boyfriend came by a few seconds later.
Day 3 Key West: At the hotel's private beach, my mom mentioned she was talking to this hispanic family there and that they had a daughter around my age (my mom trying to play wingwoman lol.) She was with her whole family though when I went over and talked to her, and at first I thought she wasn't interested in me because she kind of ignored me after a little chat, but when I walked away, my mom said she saw her checking me out hard. Just couldn't get her away from her family. Oh well. I didn't go out that night. I was a little discouraged from previous night and went to bed.
Day 4 Key West: This was Monday night, and sadly, I didn't see a lot of life on Duval Street. On the contrary, I did see some pretty cute girls on the street walking there, but I bitched out on approaching them all. I went home after that.
Day 5 South Beach Miami: We got to the hotel around 5PM. kind of pissed me off that the receptionist told us that if I brought a guest to my room, i'd have to get them to sign their names on some paper, nevertheless, I still wanted pussy. I went out that night to a club I looked up on Yelp that said it played House music (Chase mentioned how great House clubs are for pickup compared to mainstream music clubs). Sadly, the club wasn't playing house music that night. Still fun though. I met a cool dude there from Russia and he helped build my social momentum. I saw a mid 30's girl sitting by herself at a table and I talked to her for a bit. She was by herself that night, so I assumed she was really trying to get picked up. We chatted and she seemed pretty indifferent to me. I tried to get compliance from here to step outside since the club was so loud, subtly touching her while motioning her to come closer to hear her. She didn't bite, so after a few sentences more, I bid her farewell. I went to talking with my Russian friend, and I noticed a cute brunette to my right alone (seemingly.) I tapped her on the shoulder and made a funny comment about two guys dancing near us and she laughed. She asked me if I was there by myself and I said my friends didn't feel like coming out tonight. She said, "I'm surprised. You're adorable. You should be with someone." (I remember William Gupta writing an article about short guys being seen as less threatening to girls at first. Since I'm 5'4, I see what he means, so I was pretty sure hearing her say adorable wasn't as bad as I first thought.) I asked her who she was with and she said her husband. She complained about her husband was always hitting on other girls and left her alone. (Pretty sure she was between buzzed and tipsy, but I took this as an invitation for me) She wasn't lying though. Her husband was literally two feet in front of us, dancing with other people, hammered. I said to her, "Honestly, if you were single, I'd take you home with me." She said something like, "I'm not that kind of girl." I replied something like, "Nothing wrong with it. Forget society; do what you want." (I didn't say it too smoothly, but fuck it.) She didn't seem fazed really, and she was willing to talk to me. Eventually, she went to grab to her trashed husband and go home. Before she walked away to get him, she said "You're really awesome. I have to go get my husband though." I bid her farewell. I looked away for a few seconds, and when I looked back at her direction leaving, she was already staring at me and blew me a kiss. (Again, I think she was between buzzed and tipsy, so hard to figure out for me lol)
I approached a couple more girls after, but they weren't interested. One more girl I approached, while she was dancing, I pulled her in to say, "You look like a good dancer, but I think I'm better. Accept my challenge?" She grabbed my hand and went, "Not in these shoes haha." (This is where I think I fucked up a potential good interaction because I only said, "Okay" and walked away. I think I could have turned that into more.) I stayed until the club closed, but no more approaches that night.
Day 6 (Last day and night): Not much really. I tried to do the beach pickup; for some reason, beach pickup really intimidates me. I feel like it's so awkward for me to walk up to some girls sunbathing, so I tried to open one girl, and she didn't even give me the time of day. Yikes! After that, I went to the hotel haha. That night, I wanted to go out again to another club I heard played house music more frequently, but as I stepped outside to grab a cab, lighting and heavy rain came out. Just my luck on my last night on vacation!
Overall, I loved being away from home because I didn't have to worry as much about repercussions about hitting on girls I may come across again. I'm extremely behind on the game, and I want to get better.
What do you think about the girl from the Miami nightclub on Day 5 about me and her outdancing each other? Was that something I could have turned into something more?
As always, any feedback appreciated.
