Casual/FWB Mightve chased too much after first fuck, how to get her out again?

[Kaida]

This is the girl from my recent night game LR. She was very invested during the time. She practically begged me to stay over, bought me food, drove me around etc. She was also the first one to mention seeing me again (“You can eat me out next time… I havent waxed” - “We’ll go raw next time”)

I guess this made me very confident of her interest, so I sent some chasey texts without really thinking.

She mightve been busy, but idk

https://flic.kr/p/2oYWK8Y
https://flic.kr/p/2oYWK8N
Pay attention to the long ass response times from her.

I just sent an emoji at the end to imply the conversation end, while still being somewhat warm. I’m specifically not trying to look gamey

Looking back, I feel like just a straight up “u seem busy. Ill text u on the wknd ” would have worked wonders. Direct and not gamey.

I hope I dont look like im messing with her. Shes a great girl fr.

What do I do to get her out again? I do not see her in person so it’ll need to be correspondence.

 

[Skills]

follow up with the studying.... Morning sun emoji,how is the studying going?

the soft close is a break from the studies to do ________ fill in the blank activity with handsome man...

 

[Kaida]

Now that I think about it… do you think that could have possibly been a booty call @Skills

She texted it at 11:30pm and she asked me wyd. And she also said she’s been studying, not that she is. She could have been signaling to me there.

Heres the rest of the convo so far:

https://flic.kr/p/2oZdg4B
https://flic.kr/p/2oZdBt7
She takes a long time to respond

 

[Skills]

Now that I think about it… do you think that could have possibly been a booty call @Skills

She texted it at 11:30pm and she asked me wyd. And she also said she’s been studying, not that she is. She could have been signaling to me there.

Heres the rest of the convo so far:

https://flic.kr/p/2oZdg4B
https://flic.kr/p/2oZdBt7
She takes a long time to respond

It was not a booty call she was apologizing for taking too long to text back saying she was studying..

 

[Rakehell]

Are you trying to lock her in? She could be treating it like a one time thing, & you may need to restart the process of getting her back up to that point.

Go back in time, and get her the way you got her out before, but when she’s with you go past surface level things. Be warmer overall.

Focus more on your conversation and get her to open up to you and invest more emotionally. This might involve you opening up first. Qualify her more and genuinely show that you approve of who she is as a mind.

Make sure you’re relating to her and filling in with aspects of your own life that are relevant to her own.

You don’t have to be a kiss ass/male girlfriend about it and can still tease her in between, if it feels appropriate.

When things feel too deep, go back to normal and fractionate off and on. Don’t lose sight of the sexual, and make sure you’re still doing the things that keep her horny.

Deliver great sex, while showing you’re an attractive guy who get’s her/turns her on, and she’ll stick around.

Think of it like peeling back her layers. The sex was arguably the most important part, especially if it’s good, but imo sometimes things will go stale if there’s no progression emotionally. Even if it’s only on her end.

If she’s not invested the sex isn’t that big of a deal sometimes. Inversely if she is, but feels like you’re, playing her/shady/using her, she might ween herself off you deliberately.

Mitigate that by upping her and your own investment in the relationship little by little.

It makes you addictive

 

[Kaida]

Are you trying to lock her in? She could be treating it like a one time thing, & you may need to restart the process of getting her back up to that point.

Yes I am.

The thing is she was the one who mentioned “next time” first, and if you read the LR she did a lot of investment in me after the sex (bought an uber, drove me around, bought me food, called her friend for me at 4am, etc).

But now idek what she’s thinking. I’m planning on doing one of those suprise calls Karea talked about in an article (calling her ASAP as soon as you get a message)

Heres the rest of the convo so far (she still hasnt replied):
https://flic.kr/p/2oZqZw1
She takes a long time to reply so its not like I could get any real emotional momentum going

Go back in time, and get her the way you got her out before, but when she’s with you go past surface level things. Be warmer overall.

It was late at night and we were both coming back from clubs. She was half drunk when we were texting but was sober once I got there.

It was kind of a right place right time thing, because I got the lay through sending a hail mary text

The sex was arguably the most important part, especially if it’s good, but imo sometimes things will go stale if there’s no progression emotionally. Even if it’s only on her end.

The sex was amazing for me, but I’m not sure how good it was for her. She was very confident in the bedroom so I’m sure shes more experienced, but the investment after the sex made me think she really likes me. She’s 20 and I’m 18

She said she came a few times but not sure how true that is. I’m still not very good at that shit yet. I have inly a handful of bodies and almost none of them are repeats I can practice on . I’m reading Sex God by Daniel Rose now to help