Mini Golf?

[Doctor]

Hey again,

What do you guys think about Mini Golf as a date activity after visiting a café on a first date? Anybody tried it?

Could it be seen as a bit, erm, 'juvenile'? If so, would the fact she is a fair bit younger than me accentuate this problem?

Any thoughts on this are appreciated

Cheers
-Doctor

 

[Biz]

I believe, and someone please correct me if I'm wrong, the goal is less. Just have her meet you somewhere near your house for coffee, ice cream, something simple. You don't need to impress her with fun things to do. The goal is to deep dive, set your frame, and move fast. Try and pull her home. Look through the articles on dates. The one on date compression sticks in my mind, though I believe that is for when you don't try and pull her home on the first date.

 

[Knightrain]

The date sounds fun, but unfortunately that will only decrease your chances.


https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-fun-seduction-killer

 

[Smurf]

I agree with the above. Seems like too much investment for the first meet.

Jake

 

[Doctor]

Cheers guys!

I had a niggling feeling somewhere in my mind that this was a bad idea but couldn't put my finger on why! Thanks for helping me out, and thanks for the article link, I hadn't read that before and it certainly cleared up a few things for me.

The bad news is she flaked the night before when I told her the time to meet with what I think was a genuine reason (viewing some flats with her real estate agent). I made excuses for her saying it's just bad timing etc (she seemed genuinely sorry) and left it at that (no rescheduling). Anyway I am seeing her in person in a few days for work so I guess it's just a case of saying something like;

"So how was the flat viewing? About that coffee, how does your schedule look this weekend?"

Is that about right?

Sorry for all the questions it's just this is my first proper attempt at setting up a date in a LONG time and beginners failure SUCKS (no reference points)! So I am just trying to get some perspective so I at least know where I might be going wrong!

Cheers
-Doctor

 

[trashKENNUT]

Doctor,

"So how was the flat viewing? About that coffee, how does your schedule look this weekend?"

Ask her about the flat viewing. Then Ask her the coffee question the next day.

Zac

 

[Doctor]

Cheers Zac, I appreciate the input!

Problem is I only see her once a week in person and I want to get her to agree to a time and place face to face if possible. This should help avoid further flakes right? So I guess my question is is it best to wait until I see her next week to reschedule, or do it this week? I just fear I may have lost my initial advantage of striking while the iron is hot by next week.

Thanks
-Doctor

 

[trashKENNUT]

Doc,

I noted something. I shall put a post. Anyway just ask her this week then.

Zac

 

[Doctor]

Hey guys just a quick update on this one.

I met her yesterday for the first time since her flake and, my god, it was crazy! She was so cold to me at first, closed off, upset and even clearly angry with me. Now, the man I was before would have thought this was a bad thing and been really phased. However, thanks to some things I learned on here, I had a whole new take on it this time...

I took a step back and thought, "why is she like this?". I put two and two together. Clearly something I have done has caused her to suddenly become cold to me and the only thing I have done since I last saw her is NOT chase her by trying to re-arrange the date after her flake. She was angry at me for not chasing!!! I should mention she is a 10 so probably isn't used to this at all.

So her actions that day told me two things; I have control over her emotions, so she is clearly invested in me, AND, her body language - cold and angry - told me she was also horny as hell! Double win!

Needless to say it was easy moving forward from there...

Anyway I just wanted to let you guys know! Thanks to the advice on this site I had a totally different outcome to what I would've had before.

I guess not all flakes are lost causes!

-Doctor

 

[trashKENNUT]

Doctor,

I guess not all flakes are lost causes!

Yeap. I have the feeling that a lot of guys here think that all flakes are lost causes and intentional. Sometimes you need to give her a text a few days later or call her. There's many reasons, from nervousness to work.

Zac