Missed Approach Invites (Day Game)

[Just a Man]

What I did and it seemed to work reasonably well was to have a combination of effusive positivity and a somewhat 'abashed' expression (like I knew it was slightly embarrassing but I just couldn't miss the chance), and I dipped my head as she looked at me. Dashing, charming, a bit awkward but who cares?

Nice move: "somewhat 'abashed' expression (like I knew it was slightly embarrassing but I just couldn't miss the chance), and I dipped my head as she looked at me".

What you did just there, by the sound of it, was a male form of the classic flirting smile. This, obviously in a male way, is the one that scientists at the University of Kansas have written about from the more traditional vantage-point of girls doing it because it's one of the bloody few things that men (knuckle-dragging bunch that we are...) can actually spot and understand:

Identifying a Facial Expression of Flirtation and Its Effect on Men

Internal states may be conveyed to others nonverbally through facial expression. We investigated the existence of a particular facial cue that may be effectively used by women to indicate interest ...

www.tandfonline.com

I personally do employ this because I know that women also know exactly what it is and, because women know that it's far more often women who use it, they are absolutely likely to be both amused and flattered.

I've never had a married woman. It's not something I aspire to,

I have. They are great bedfellows and have a lot of grounded humour, in my experience. A charming guy like you...? You'd be doing her a very welcome favour. (Again, not necessarily this particular case, but please don't rule out the whole category. There are women out there who need our help!)

 

[Fuck This]

In situations where you’re in passing and you get a quick IOI, but are too slow to react and the girl goes about what she’s doing. Is there a way to salvage the approach without ruining the social frame?

When I miss a super quick window to approach i’m reluctant to go back and engage because I feel like it’d set the wrong precedent early on.

Which is cool there’s a million more girl’s, but on day’s where there haven’t been many prospects I could really use a smooth way to approach without putting her on the spot too bad.

Thanks in advance.

I think about many situations in the past where I was married but met women in passing who gave crystal clear IOI's. It was the "being married" that gave me the pause to escalate.

The one that haunts me still was in a grocery store....A union rep was talking with one of the store employees there at the end of one of the aisles. This union rep was a busty blonde who locked eyes with me. It was a serious "Fuck me eyes" moment. and she was built like a stripper...

Guys, SEIZE THE DAY - CARPE DIEM! Introduce yourself and get the insta date. When these women serve themselves up on a silver platter, take advantage of the momentum.