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Well, I think my cardinal sin is missing an escalation window, attraction expired, and that was that. Date 3 came around and I think she got cold feet with sex on the horizon, especially after we'd not seen each other in two weeks.
This one hurt.
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Day 1 (Sunday): Met this girl on the train back to my parents' house in the suburbs. I see this cute looking girl on the train, we chat, set up a date for the next day.
Day 2 (Monday): Pick her up, go to drinks and dinner. Good conversation and fun vibes. I invite her back (to my parent's, ugh) but she has to get up very early the next day so we raincheck. She DOESN'T let me kiss her goodnight, avoiding it by going off to the side. [Odd?]
[12 days later -- due to COVID and travel reasons, we can't hang out again for a while]
Day 14 (Saturday): End up meeting again in our hometown. We cook dinner at my parents' house, chill, and watch a movie. We begin to make out downstairs by the TV, but can't do much more there. She gets up and says she wants to "go slow because she feels weird being in the parents' house." We go up to my bedroom, kiss more, get pretty intimate in a romantic kind of way, but not sexual. I can smell how wet she was, but she still insisted on going slow. Eventually, I drive her back home. [I probably missed a window that night.]
Day 15 (Sunday): Cancel 1. We made plans to see each other the next day (on her suggestion), but she cancels for family reasons.
Day 18 (Wednesday): Cancel 2. We make plans to see each other again, but she cancels again because of COVID concerns RE her parents. At this point, she sounds genuinely sorry, but says "can we please hang out again when we're both in the city." Which is not for another 1.5 weeks. We do a "Facetime Date" instead, on her suggestion. The "date" is fun, but I let it go on just a bit too long.
(Throughout this, in scheduling texts and our conversations, I'm clear about wanting to see her sooner rather than later, because these long gaps are death to momentum. I worry she interpreted this the wrong way, as 'neediness.')
Day 25 (Tuesday): We set up a date in the city. She agrees to hang out Saturday night, so far all seems smooth.
Day 28: (Friday) [This comes out of nowhere] I ask if she wants to check out some spots in my neighborhood.
* She responds: "Hey to be transparent, I'm not looking for anything serious right now. But I'd still love to keep hanging out. Just want to let you know where my head is." Later conversation reveals this to be a rejection.
This one hurt.
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Day 1 (Sunday): Met this girl on the train back to my parents' house in the suburbs. I see this cute looking girl on the train, we chat, set up a date for the next day.
Day 2 (Monday): Pick her up, go to drinks and dinner. Good conversation and fun vibes. I invite her back (to my parent's, ugh) but she has to get up very early the next day so we raincheck. She DOESN'T let me kiss her goodnight, avoiding it by going off to the side. [Odd?]
[12 days later -- due to COVID and travel reasons, we can't hang out again for a while]
Day 14 (Saturday): End up meeting again in our hometown. We cook dinner at my parents' house, chill, and watch a movie. We begin to make out downstairs by the TV, but can't do much more there. She gets up and says she wants to "go slow because she feels weird being in the parents' house." We go up to my bedroom, kiss more, get pretty intimate in a romantic kind of way, but not sexual. I can smell how wet she was, but she still insisted on going slow. Eventually, I drive her back home. [I probably missed a window that night.]
Day 15 (Sunday): Cancel 1. We made plans to see each other the next day (on her suggestion), but she cancels for family reasons.
Day 18 (Wednesday): Cancel 2. We make plans to see each other again, but she cancels again because of COVID concerns RE her parents. At this point, she sounds genuinely sorry, but says "can we please hang out again when we're both in the city." Which is not for another 1.5 weeks. We do a "Facetime Date" instead, on her suggestion. The "date" is fun, but I let it go on just a bit too long.
(Throughout this, in scheduling texts and our conversations, I'm clear about wanting to see her sooner rather than later, because these long gaps are death to momentum. I worry she interpreted this the wrong way, as 'neediness.')
Day 25 (Tuesday): We set up a date in the city. She agrees to hang out Saturday night, so far all seems smooth.
Day 28: (Friday) [This comes out of nowhere] I ask if she wants to check out some spots in my neighborhood.
* She responds: "Hey to be transparent, I'm not looking for anything serious right now. But I'd still love to keep hanging out. Just want to let you know where my head is." Later conversation reveals this to be a rejection.
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