Hi Redneck,
Radeng has good points, e.g. get familiar with the site philosophy, mainly stop living scarcity with this girl. There are also different ways to look at the same thing. I'll go through your text and try to point important things to focus on:
"Bit then the next day she wont get back to me"
>>>> There might be a couple of reasons for that. She may need more time, or - worse case scenario - she may be flaking. At this time I wouldn't consider it that important.
"Shes spent the night and we've cuddled"
>>>> That is really good, she is interested in you. However, if you want to get this girl and keep her, you have to move forward. Cuddling will not do it.
"I've been a gentleman not making any moves"
>>>> The same. Forget the whole gentleman issues. Not moving on forward is a HUGE mistake. If you don't move on she will shift you into a friend zone, you may easily become a platonic lover, you will be orbiting her and hoping that you'll eventually get her - while she will be seeking another guy...
and recently we had a drink and she drove me across the parking lot to my car and proceeded to kiss me...
>>>> She was investing into you, that is good.
She might have been going for my cheek but our lips met. Then the next day i dont hear from her after my good morning text. Hard to decipher...can someone please help
>>>> Yes. You have to move forward, get more physical. One kiss won't do it. If you don't do anything she will be gone sooner than you think.
"We do connect on an emotional, intellectual and psychological level"
>>>> Mainly, you have to connect on physical level. You don't want to be in platonic love, patiently waiting - while she is sleeping with someone else.
We have both been through a tough break which may be why shes a tough nut to crack right now. We get along great. We have expressed interest in eachother directly and indirectly with little things like cards and flirts.
>>>> You are shifting yourself into a friend zone. She doesn't really care about flirting, cards, jokes, good feelings, nice conversations and so on. She is looking for a man who she can have physical intimacy with.
This is the girl i need in my life.
>>>> That is a wrong attitude, you are setting yourself for a failure. The more you NEED any woman the less you will be respected as a man, and the less desire she will have to be with you. Avoid that NEEDiness. You may want woman, but you don't need her...
Im not just looking to hook up with her. I'm trying to connect, and i think she is too.
>>>> Well, she is already connected. She is investing. She is giving you good vibes. She cuddles and kissed you. However, that is not enough, you need to move forward otherwise she will be gone.
There is so much more I can say to justify my actions to wanting to land her in my arms forever with
>>>> This attitude itself will set you for failure. Again, the more you NEED her the sooner she will be gone...
Shes waiting for something. I just need to figure out what.
>>>> Here is a hint: you need to take her to the bed asap, otherwise she is gone, forever gone...
