Mixed signals

[Thumper]

I had a spontaneous meetup with a girl last night. We went to a few bars, had a few too many drinks and eventually retired to my place before moving to hers. She was very receptive to my compliments and was comfortable holding hands and sitting close to each other, but every time I tried to escalate to a kiss (verbally or physically) she pulled back and made any number of excuses. I challenged her each time, but ultimately we parted in the wee hours of the morning with the mutual agreement that we would meet again soon.

I have some regrets about the way I handled things, but for a first attempt I think it went better than it had any right to given all the mixed signals. Now I'm nervously anticipating a text from her that will decide whether we'll make a second attempt or if I'm back to square one.

I should probably write a field report for the sake of getting some feedback, but I think I've got enough insight into the situation to know where I could improve my technique for next time. I'm more than happy to go at her pace, but if this ultimately fizzles out it could be pretty devastating. Fingers-crossed for me please, gents

 

[OldGuy]

I think you should write a field report. I think you could use advice from more experienced forum members.

 

[Rancorous]

What you have to realize is that if she just met you and it's kind of like a date and not a bar/club hookup she's probably not going to put out the first time she sees/meets you. This makes her seem too easy.

Wait until the second or third date to make a move on her. By date three or four and she still hasn't put out something is probably up. I'd break it off and move on to someone else.

 

[Thumper]

What you have to realize is that if she just met you and it's kind of like a date and not a bar/club hookup she's probably not going to put out the first time she sees/meets you. This makes her seem too easy.

Wait until the second or third date to make a move on her. By date three or four and she still hasn't put out something is probably up. I'd break it off and move on to someone else.

I didn't really have any expectation that it would go that far. In truth I was surprised it went anywhere at all, but I'm satisfied with the outcome. After discussing the night's events with her I'm going to proceed with a more gently-gently, softly-softly approach going forward. We'll see what comes of it. Plenty of other opportunities await in the meantime.

 

[Rancorous]

Sounds like a plan.