More Text Game Questions

[Bboy100]

Ok, so I recently started consistently getting phone numbers from parties. Now I feel like some stuff might be missing from my text game (none of this stuff was relevant via Tinder text game). So here are a few questions:

1. If I got the phone number late at night, is it even worth sending the "Glad to meet you tonight! -bboy" text? Or should I just ask her out the next day? Cause I feel like its a little needy to send a text at 3 or 4 am. lol.

2. The above text seems kinda sketchy to me anyways. If someone sent that to me, I wouldn't really be sure how to respond. I would think: Does he want me to just say "I had a good time too?" Should I start a conversation? Should I just not reply? Also, even if she just says, "It was good to meet you too". I feel like she might expect some sort of convo after that?

3. I experimented with a new format instead. I feel like it might be a little bit smoother. I just texted her early in the day "Glad to have met you last night! I'm not a big fan of getting to know someone over text though. Lets grab coffee or drinks sometime next week? -bboy.

What do you guys think of this format?

4. In general, what if her response to asking her out shuts down the conversation entirely and puts the ball in her court before I'd like that.
For example, when I asked the girl I met last night out, her response was:

"Yeah, maybe! I'll let you know when I'm free!"

To this, I could reply, "Ok, sounds good". But then I have no control. I kinda just have to sit and hope she actually texts me back (not likely). Other than that though, I don't see how else I could reply to that text or to any similar situation. Perhaps this would be the time to make a phone call?

 

[Lotus]

This is what I do every time:

Hey XXX, It was nice to meet you -Lotus

I know some other guys use:

Hey XXX, save my number

The second one is less likely to have the girl think a conversation will ensue.

1. If I got the phone number late at night, is it even worth sending the "Glad to meet you tonight! -bboy" text? Or should I just ask her out the next day? Cause I feel like its a little needy to send a text at 3 or 4 am. lol.

I don't think waiting until the next day/morning would be a problem, but at the same time I don't think "nice to meet you" is needy. It shows the girl you enjoyed meeting her, by not trying to start a conversation after that text it cancels out any "neediness".

2. The above text seems kinda sketchy to me anyways. If someone sent that to me, I wouldn't really be sure how to respond. I would think: Does he want me to just say "I had a good time too?" Should I start a conversation? Should I just not reply? Also, even if she just says, "It was good to meet you too". I feel like she might expect some sort of convo after that?

You are overthinking it.... if you lose a girl because of that ice breaker the problem isn't the text it's your legwork leading up to it. If she liked you enough she will reply nice to meet you as well.. simple enough.

If she is expecting/hoping for a convo and you leave it that's going to cause her to invest more because she is thinking about whether you will text her.

Glad to have met you last night! I'm not a big fan of getting to know someone over text though. Lets grab coffee or drinks sometime next week? -bboy.

ehh your investing a lot into a text that long are you are jumping the gun before you have built any rapport via text. You shouldn't be getting to know her via texting anyway, all you need to do is break the ice, building some rapport(remind her why she gave you her number) and then set up the date.

So I don't really like that text... it also implies you didn't "get to know her" when you met her.

And yes you also put her in a leadership position and girls suck at leading.

Lotus

 

[Bboy100]

all you need to do is break the ice, building some rapport(remind her why she gave you her number) and then set up the date.

What's an example of building rapport? Because so far, I've only used text to set up logistics. Everything else, I've always done on Tinder. haha
And I'm guessing the one I came up with puts her in a leadership position because of the way I phrased it? How would you phrase it when you ask her out?

 

[Lotus]

It doesn't have to be much, just one or two initial texts that relate to something you guys talked or flirted about when you met her. Remind her why she gave you her number in the first place.

It's not just because of the way you phrased it, the sheer length of it means she has to invest more when answering, and she may not feel like doing the work... Where as the short and sweet icebreaker doesn't require much effort to respond to at all.

As to the wording itself.... Assume that she is going on a date with you "when are you free this week to get that drink?", but that requires you to set up the date when you get the number.

The more set up you do before you get her number the easier texting is.

Meant to get back to this earlier.