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I read the original post and wanted to comment so please excuse I sort of skipped over the side-conversation.
Lao Che,
If you want to know what's up here, I think you're looking at this all wrong. I think you're taking the entitled and abundance mentality to the extreme here where you're assuming women who are not into you, are... and women who are... you're being too entitled and dickish with.
On the first two OKC girls. Well, that's online dating. These women were not into you. Women send these one word things to pass time. Not to "allow you seduce them".
It could be argued you had a shot when they replied by being fairly non-reactive instead of needy like most guys but still... you're focusing on women who are passing time and assuming their lack of effort means they suck.
No, their lack of effort is a result of their indiference to your messages/profile.
On the texting girl...
Again, you're taking it too far. It's one thing to play cool and sort of take the upper hand because you know she's chasing you and not allowing yourself to be needy enough to have the tables turned.
However, chase framing still involves being playful. You're not meant to sit there plowing into her the fact that SHE is chasing nd YOU are in control. It's about playfully setting the tone. You're not supposed to TELL her you have the upper hand, you just playfully DISPLAY it, if you want it to work.
On all 3. I'm guessing these are young girls.... <24, probably younger?
Look, here's what I know here... below maybe 25, this is how girls communicate. Over 25, some do, but you really don't want those women. Or at least, it's not my taste. Not because of the communication per se, it's just a maturity thing.
But you just have to communicate with younger women on their level. Their indifference is easy to turn around, but you have to do it on THEIR level... you sort of had it going initially in ll these interactions but then went too hard on them.
2 examples of women I'm seeing at the moment.
A 22 year old hair stylist /makeup artist... she is really smart, talkative, even speaks elegantly in person. But her texting is that of a 9 year old. So I basically just don't engage in any "real" conversation by text. It's a means to meet up. Short messages designed to get her to meet me, work. Trying to text her any meaningful conversation is basically ignored or responds with a "k". So i don't even go there.
Another is a 28 year old who works as a dietician and fitness instructor. Again, very well spoken and accomplished. I still use text as a means to meet up with her but she needs a little "mature" conversation beforehand... basically just catch up on what she's been up to before asking to meet, but sending her a "K" would not get a reply.
The difference is maturity level overall. But if you want BOTH types, you need to tailor your game to the audience.
Try reeling back the bitterness and entitlement attitude a little. It comes off a little phoney and overly agressive.
If you REALLY had the abundance to write these women off, you wouldn't even be replying to them.
Lao Che,
If you want to know what's up here, I think you're looking at this all wrong. I think you're taking the entitled and abundance mentality to the extreme here where you're assuming women who are not into you, are... and women who are... you're being too entitled and dickish with.
On the first two OKC girls. Well, that's online dating. These women were not into you. Women send these one word things to pass time. Not to "allow you seduce them".
It could be argued you had a shot when they replied by being fairly non-reactive instead of needy like most guys but still... you're focusing on women who are passing time and assuming their lack of effort means they suck.
No, their lack of effort is a result of their indiference to your messages/profile.
On the texting girl...
Again, you're taking it too far. It's one thing to play cool and sort of take the upper hand because you know she's chasing you and not allowing yourself to be needy enough to have the tables turned.
However, chase framing still involves being playful. You're not meant to sit there plowing into her the fact that SHE is chasing nd YOU are in control. It's about playfully setting the tone. You're not supposed to TELL her you have the upper hand, you just playfully DISPLAY it, if you want it to work.
On all 3. I'm guessing these are young girls.... <24, probably younger?
Look, here's what I know here... below maybe 25, this is how girls communicate. Over 25, some do, but you really don't want those women. Or at least, it's not my taste. Not because of the communication per se, it's just a maturity thing.
But you just have to communicate with younger women on their level. Their indifference is easy to turn around, but you have to do it on THEIR level... you sort of had it going initially in ll these interactions but then went too hard on them.
2 examples of women I'm seeing at the moment.
A 22 year old hair stylist /makeup artist... she is really smart, talkative, even speaks elegantly in person. But her texting is that of a 9 year old. So I basically just don't engage in any "real" conversation by text. It's a means to meet up. Short messages designed to get her to meet me, work. Trying to text her any meaningful conversation is basically ignored or responds with a "k". So i don't even go there.
Another is a 28 year old who works as a dietician and fitness instructor. Again, very well spoken and accomplished. I still use text as a means to meet up with her but she needs a little "mature" conversation beforehand... basically just catch up on what she's been up to before asking to meet, but sending her a "K" would not get a reply.
The difference is maturity level overall. But if you want BOTH types, you need to tailor your game to the audience.
Try reeling back the bitterness and entitlement attitude a little. It comes off a little phoney and overly agressive.
If you REALLY had the abundance to write these women off, you wouldn't even be replying to them.