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Recently I've found myself in a funk. It seems like whenever I make a breakthrough, I hit another wall. For instance, a girl I almost laid gave LMS and hasn't talked to me since. Another girl I kissed when we were able to meet for about an hour and then today, when we had planned to meet, she flaked with no text back.
Then there's the everydays of cold approach. Being on campus, it seems I always am approaching girls with boyfriends. Some are serious, others give me their number, others act so interested you swear they'd make out with you right then and there. The ones who tell me their single end up "being too busy" or "arent looking to date" Then still if I get a number, I get no response. Or if I do get a response and set up a date, they try to reschedule. Or if we do go on the date and she doesn't flake, they end up giving resistance, which if you fall prey to, you lose the girl.
I understand that becoming a worthy seducer takes time, investment, experience, a lot of failure, and learning. I also know we are above the rest by just learning how to be better with girls. But it just feels like its so easy to make one mistake that it loses you the girl. Or if you get into too much of a routine, then it feels gamey. Recently, I feel my compliments suck and need improvement or that I need to figure out a new way to text so I don't get as many flakey numbers.
Honestly, its fun to learn and try to figure out where I can improve. But it is also super exhausting being hit with rejection or failure constantly and then, when I finally make a break through, I hit another failure. I also am stuck living with my parents and don't have the best logistics. Its super difficult to isolate on campus and I get frustrated with handling logistics in college with tests, exams, parents, roommates, etc.
So how do you keep going? What motivates you? How can I keep approaching with the same enthusiasm as I did when I started without worrying about what I'll mess up or if she has a boyfriend and will resist giving me her number or whatever? It seems like time is flying by and I'm just not getting the results I want fast enough. Im definitely making progress, but man do I not want to keep being where I am.
Any advice?
Then there's the everydays of cold approach. Being on campus, it seems I always am approaching girls with boyfriends. Some are serious, others give me their number, others act so interested you swear they'd make out with you right then and there. The ones who tell me their single end up "being too busy" or "arent looking to date" Then still if I get a number, I get no response. Or if I do get a response and set up a date, they try to reschedule. Or if we do go on the date and she doesn't flake, they end up giving resistance, which if you fall prey to, you lose the girl.
I understand that becoming a worthy seducer takes time, investment, experience, a lot of failure, and learning. I also know we are above the rest by just learning how to be better with girls. But it just feels like its so easy to make one mistake that it loses you the girl. Or if you get into too much of a routine, then it feels gamey. Recently, I feel my compliments suck and need improvement or that I need to figure out a new way to text so I don't get as many flakey numbers.
Honestly, its fun to learn and try to figure out where I can improve. But it is also super exhausting being hit with rejection or failure constantly and then, when I finally make a break through, I hit another failure. I also am stuck living with my parents and don't have the best logistics. Its super difficult to isolate on campus and I get frustrated with handling logistics in college with tests, exams, parents, roommates, etc.
So how do you keep going? What motivates you? How can I keep approaching with the same enthusiasm as I did when I started without worrying about what I'll mess up or if she has a boyfriend and will resist giving me her number or whatever? It seems like time is flying by and I'm just not getting the results I want fast enough. Im definitely making progress, but man do I not want to keep being where I am.
Any advice?
