Motivation via Ross

[Richard]

Today, what I'm sharing with you all is courtesy of Ross, these are his instructions, I'm simply passing them on with a few recaps from my own life.

Basically, Ross and I were talking via inbox, and I came to him with questions about communication apprehension which in Wikipedia's terms is:

defined as an individual level of fear or anxiety associated with either real or anticipated communication with another person or persons.

He was talking to me about motivation, and about how most people in truth have to be forced to change, and will not intrinsically generate change, or at least generate enough self-motivation to make a significant difference. The fact is, most people may not be entirely happy with their lives, but are instead content enough to not do anything significant about it. He recommended this, change your environment so you're forced to change and adapt to it. For socializing my changes were:
-Posting a sign on my door with "Do's, Dont's, Reminder's, Inspirational Words from Light, Franco, and Ross, as well as proper techniques." The actual poster from top to bottom reads:
TODAY IS:
-A GREAT DAY TO MEET WOMEN
AND I WILL NOT:
-GO OUTSIDE UNLESS I TALK TO AND APPROACH AT LEAST 3 WOMEN.
AFTER ALL RICKY:
-YOU'RE AN AMAZING PERSON
-YOU'RE A GREAT CATCH
-YOU'RE THE PRIZE!
WOMEN AND PEOPLE:
-DON'T JUDGE YOU SO THERES NO FEAR IN APPROACHING THEM.
-WOMEN WANT YOU! GO GET THEM! THEYRE SILLY CREATURES
REMEMBER:
-STAND UP STRAIGHT
PULL SHOULDERS BACK
BREATHE DEEP AND SLOW
SLOWLY WALK OVER AND SAY HI

I still have this up for days when I feel out of it, or for slow days, it's in my memory word for word, and in addition to this sign, with Ross's homework I also did this for motivation,
-Kept a sheet in my wallet of goals to make sure my activities outside were in line with those goals
-Had a friend call me everyday at 2 and tell me to go meet women
-Every store I went to, I asked for a job application

I changed things around me to inspire me, as well as force me to adapt to the social world around me, if you want to change anything, follow his advice and change your environment so you HAVE to change to adapt to it, I had to be social to get job apps, had to be social on the phone, and also had motivational tactics placed around me so I would see them every day, and then, the want to change became natural and easy.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask or comment,
Thank you,
Richard

 

[mkivtt]

Looks like a good list. I like how you force yourself to remember and go out into situations that test your new skills. I should print one.... I really only approach girls at work, and need to expand my pool of women. Thanks for sharing.