Motivation

[TheRuralJuror]

Hey Fellow GirlsChase Users!


This is my first time posting on the boards, so bear with me. I'm new to this.

A little background on myself,
I am 21 years old. Live in a big city, work full time (although I'm trying to leave) at a job I've been at for 2 years. I've attended college for a year, but left because it wasn't what I wanted to do at the time. But I want to go back at some point soon. Never had a girlfriend, although I'm not entirely mad at this. Also not a virgin, if that matters lol. But its been a while. I'm okay with women but I always fumble the ball somewhere, whether it's moving too slow or becoming too needy. I have HIGH approach anxiety! Can't approach most days. Always in my head. I've tried the newbie assignment, but when I get to the "hi" day, I shut down. So I've been reading the authors articles (great stuff!) And also you guys fr/lr And they're great, reading other people's successes and failures and what they're doing to correct it. I see I am ranting so I'll get on with it...

What Keeps motivating you guys to keep going out and approaching women? What was the point in your life where you said "enough is enough" I'm doing this no matter what? I would love hear/read some of your stories and if you have any advice for me to help me get started , it will be greatly appreciated! Because I am at a point where I want to learn, but a part of me is like "what's the point? It'll work for them, but not for me.
Or if you want to just yell at me for not starting that'll be fine also... I guess I deserve it! Haha

Thanks,
TheRuralJuror

 

[Bboy100]

Two things motivate me:

1. When I was in high school, I went on 0 dates, kissed 0 girls. In fact, I never even had a friend who was a girl. Then, I ran into David DeAngelo's material (do not recommend!). One of the things he said is "you need to make a promise to yourself that you'll do whatever it takes to get this area in your life handled". That really stuck with me. I made that decision then and there. I don't care what hardships I go through, I don't care how long it takes, I don't care where it takes me. I will have the dating and relationship life I desire.

2. This is literally the most important thing in your life outside of bare necessities. Nothing else deserves more attention. Your happiness and fulfillment in life is directly related to the quality of your relationships with friends, families and lovers. If this is true, then it only makes sense that we put whatever effort is necessary towards making these relationships great. Moreover, most people get married sooner or later. Even the people who say "I will never get married". Your wife will be the single most influential person in your life thereafter. If you're incapable of finding a good one, your life will be marginally lower quality. I believe that the person I choose to marry is the most important decision of my life. I better be capable of making a good one.

Once you've come to understand these things, you'll notice that no amount of anxiety, laziness, or any other obstacles (real or imagined) will deter you from becoming good.

 

[Inbocca]

This is literally the most important thing in your life outside of bare necessities. Nothing else deserves more attention. Your happiness and fulfillment in life is directly related to the quality of your relationships with friends, families and lovers. If this is true, then it only makes sense that we put whatever effort is necessary towards making these relationships great. Moreover, most people get married sooner or later. Even the people who say "I will never get married". Your wife will be the single most influential person in your life thereafter. If you're incapable of finding a good one, your life will be marginally lower quality. I believe that the person I choose to marry is the most important decision of my life. I better be capable of making a good one.

Damn. That's pretty solid, man.

I mean, when you think about what we know absolutely about the meaning of life, it's very little. But pretty much all we do know we're designed to do is survive and reproduce. So yeah, it's pretty much your prime directive to figure it out somehow. I think even for people who never take action, failing to do so is probably one of the biggest causes of depression in their lives. They're not doing what they're meant to do.

 

[TheRuralJuror]

Two things motivate me:

1. When I was in high school, I went on 0 dates, kissed 0 girls. In fact, I never even had a friend who was a girl. Then, I ran into David DeAngelo's material (do not recommend!). One of the things he said is "you need to make a promise to yourself that you'll do whatever it takes to get this area in your life handled". That really stuck with me. I made that decision then and there. I don't care what hardships I go through, I don't care how long it takes, I don't care where it takes me. I will have the dating and relationship life I desire.

2. This is literally the most important thing in your life outside of bare necessities. Nothing else deserves more attention. Your happiness and fulfillment in life is directly related to the quality of your relationships with friends, families and lovers. If this is true, then it only makes sense that we put whatever effort is necessary towards making these relationships great. Moreover, most people get married sooner or later. Even the people who say "I will never get married". Your wife will be the single most influential person in your life thereafter. If you're incapable of finding a good one, your life will be marginally lower quality. I believe that the person I choose to marry is the most important decision of my life. I better be capable of making a good one.

Once you've come to understand these things, you'll notice that no amount of anxiety, laziness, or any other obstacles (real or imagined) will deter you from becoming good.

Hey bboy100!

Thanks for responding to my post!
In high school I was in the exact same boat as you. 0 dates, 0 kisses, 0 lays. Although I had some friends who were girls. But I didn't like them like that. So you say you ran into David deangelo in high school, when you decided to make this change. So how long were you using his stuff before you found GC? And were there any good material in there?

 

[TheRuralJuror]

This is literally the most important thing in your life outside of bare necessities. Nothing else deserves more attention. Your happiness and fulfillment in life is directly related to the quality of your relationships with friends, families and lovers. If this is true, then it only makes sense that we put whatever effort is necessary towards making these relationships great. Moreover, most people get married sooner or later. Even the people who say "I will never get married". Your wife will be the single most influential person in your life thereafter. If you're incapable of finding a good one, your life will be marginally lower quality. I believe that the person I choose to marry is the most important decision of my life. I better be capable of making a good one.

Damn. That's pretty solid, man.

I mean, when you think about what we know absolutely about the meaning of life, it's very little. But pretty much all we do know we're designed to do is survive and reproduce. So yeah, it's pretty much your prime directive to figure it out somehow. I think even for people who never take action, failing to do so is probably one of the biggest causes of depression in their lives. They're not doing what they're meant to do.

Hey, Inbocca!

Thanks for your response! So what about you? What's your story?

 

[Inbocca]

Hey, Inbocca!

Thanks for your response! So what about you? What's your story?

Long and not that interesting Once I rejoin the ranks of the able-bodied, I'll finish my newbie assignment and make some more journals, there'll be tidbits in those.


Slay,

The only way you can say "Women aren't important" is if you're already fucking women. Otherwise you're probably just a liar and a fake.

It's sad to see naturals try to give advice to newbies about being happy and they're all like "Women aren't everything", "Find some hobbies", or try and reassure them about their success in other areas of life. It's like they don't realize the impact their success with women has had on their own perspective.

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