One of the most satisfying developments for me this year has been (and I'm almost there I think, but not completely) a significant drop in the dependence of my happiness on the quantity and quality of sex in my life.
How much of it is just age and maturity, how much is very purposeful personal work on making this happen (with some helpful coaching from Tony on the matter), who knows but I used to get horrifically irritable and depressed when I wasn't having loads of sex, and my hard quality ceiling (8s and above are universally nos/reds for me) used to nag my consciousness to a debilitatingly painful extent, and now I very much (almost completely) don't care.
My mindset has very much shifted towards considering dating and sex as a tertiary priority in my life, after career and hobbies, as just barely important. I now think of large rotations, ltrs, or any sort of spending lots of time, as a completely shitty waste of time, and intend to spend 5 months of every year (in the cold seasons) in Monk mode doing other things. Sex and dating are just a recreational pasttime, like golf say, can be nice to do, but spending a lot of time of it, and especially putting any emotional investment in it, just seems horrendously senseless.
This really goes in line with many stoic principles of going with your nature and doubling down on favorable circumstances and talents, they are certainly more favorable for me to make significant progress in my career and hobbies than women. I'm genuinely excited and happy working on these things, and am even glad when a date flakes, or when it rains and so a daygame session is cancelled, and I can do that instead.
Overall living in this manner and planning my life in such a way as to retain women as a low priority has made me much much happier, gone are so many depression symptoms.
Now, along these lines I do like some people like alphamalestudios and Richard Cooper who say also to pursue greatness over women. However I strongly disagree with the notion that this actually helps with women itself. Beyond being a deadbeat loser, women dont give a fuck how ambitious or even successful you are, they fuck guys who are hot fun and charismatic. Unless you are so successful you can buy a nightclub or host wild yacht cocaine parties, it does not help in one bit. Certainly your drive to succeed doesn't affect attraction at all. In fact it's to a detriment to the extent that it takes away time that you could devote to game and approaching specifically or even partying in general (and thus generally being more socially skilled, cooler and high value).
(Maybe ambition and success matters for keeping women long term but I certainly have zero interest in that)
But in terms of overall mental health and emotional stability, shifting priorities in this sense has done wonders. So it really is put yourself first not because it will help with women but it will make one happier.
So mgtow for the win, but not the angry or whiny kind, but the general principle of deprioritization of woman/romance/sex and complete emotional disengagement from all that shit.
How much of it is just age and maturity, how much is very purposeful personal work on making this happen (with some helpful coaching from Tony on the matter), who knows but I used to get horrifically irritable and depressed when I wasn't having loads of sex, and my hard quality ceiling (8s and above are universally nos/reds for me) used to nag my consciousness to a debilitatingly painful extent, and now I very much (almost completely) don't care.
My mindset has very much shifted towards considering dating and sex as a tertiary priority in my life, after career and hobbies, as just barely important. I now think of large rotations, ltrs, or any sort of spending lots of time, as a completely shitty waste of time, and intend to spend 5 months of every year (in the cold seasons) in Monk mode doing other things. Sex and dating are just a recreational pasttime, like golf say, can be nice to do, but spending a lot of time of it, and especially putting any emotional investment in it, just seems horrendously senseless.
This really goes in line with many stoic principles of going with your nature and doubling down on favorable circumstances and talents, they are certainly more favorable for me to make significant progress in my career and hobbies than women. I'm genuinely excited and happy working on these things, and am even glad when a date flakes, or when it rains and so a daygame session is cancelled, and I can do that instead.
Overall living in this manner and planning my life in such a way as to retain women as a low priority has made me much much happier, gone are so many depression symptoms.
Now, along these lines I do like some people like alphamalestudios and Richard Cooper who say also to pursue greatness over women. However I strongly disagree with the notion that this actually helps with women itself. Beyond being a deadbeat loser, women dont give a fuck how ambitious or even successful you are, they fuck guys who are hot fun and charismatic. Unless you are so successful you can buy a nightclub or host wild yacht cocaine parties, it does not help in one bit. Certainly your drive to succeed doesn't affect attraction at all. In fact it's to a detriment to the extent that it takes away time that you could devote to game and approaching specifically or even partying in general (and thus generally being more socially skilled, cooler and high value).
(Maybe ambition and success matters for keeping women long term but I certainly have zero interest in that)
But in terms of overall mental health and emotional stability, shifting priorities in this sense has done wonders. So it really is put yourself first not because it will help with women but it will make one happier.
So mgtow for the win, but not the angry or whiny kind, but the general principle of deprioritization of woman/romance/sex and complete emotional disengagement from all that shit.
