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So I been in the community about 20 years, and i can tell you I am one of the happiest guys in the community constantly..... This is despite of being older, ethnic, not rich, suffer defeated break ups, was not welcome in the seduction community and had to go against top guys slandering me for years, had to adapt to usa coming from a latin country after high school not knowing anybody, awful break ups, biz failures etc.... I did not say i don't go into low momentum, i did not say i don't get angry, i did not say i don't get depress... I am human, what i said my default stay is HAPPY/CRAZY/FUN DUDE.... People may think i am angry cause the way i behave on the internet, but is an ACT a STYLE.... I call it fake angry So i am going to backwards engineer the why in this post, maybe it can help somebody....
Environment.- I come from a latin country were people are notorious for being fun, happy people, party people, players.... But this can not be replicated, but i will tell you why environment is crucial, specially the people you surround yourself with...
Remove yourself from people and environments that are toxic, bring you unhappiness, gives you stress.... This includes girls on the side, girlfriends, friends, family,work, people in the community, forums, virtual groups.... You need to be able to walk.... This is extremely important because the environment and the people you surround yourself with have a massive influence on your life... Now don't do like red pillers just walking away... First try to have a convo. Then, try to work on making things better and put a lot of effort, if that does not work just walk away..... I can give you many examples:
- had girls that were not coming into my frame, and i worked on it till they did, when they did not they were out... Caveat.- one hit me, that is a hard next, no matter what, one fb accused me falsely of rape again same thing.... In forums i just put out good content and then people were confused of why what other elders were saying did not match the results they were getting from my stuff, they became followers and the other people had to walk or convert.... In private groups if they were too toxic, i tell them to fuck off and i walk away... Simple! I can go on and on, but you get the point...
- Learn seduction.- Maslow shit involves relationships and belonging... You need to master seduction that will give you the freedom of choice, relationships in your terms and sex.... We are human and we need human connection. But getting women as a seducer from TRUE RAW SEXUAL PASSION VS exchanging sex from anything other than that, will make sure you are going to be wayyyy happier... Had a boarderline black piller take my coaching rambling on the forum about depression.... took my coaching found hot girlfriend depression gone.... I seen this a lot...
- Fitness and hormone optimization.- I don't drink, never have, i don't smoke, i don't do drugs.... I am in south florida plenty of sun and vitamin d.... Even were i have gotten chubby, i have always been into fitness, i have never stop lifting consistently without breaks... Only time i stop was a really bad injury for couple of months in the last 30 years.... But fitness is not going to the gym is mastering nutrition.... (eventually i will make my own guide).... After trying every workout program etc... i really recommend kino body for the practical minimalistic workouts AND NUTRITION SUPER EASY that give you seduction body..... Layne Norton for the science inner game of fitness... I also recommend Canadians and people in Europe to supplement with vitamin d in winters due to lack of sun..... Hormones play a CRUSIAL role in your mental well being... Let me give you a story as much as i dislike tate, he had a suicidal student, he told him get a 6 pack and get back to me (depression gone after he got 6 pack).... I will soon make a fitness guide with my transformational pics at almost 50...
- sports and martial arts.- Join some type of sports or even better martial arts group, this will help with masculinity, competition, belonging etc... This indirectly helps with happiness.
- Learn about minimalism.- Money issues can make you unhappy, i have been loaded, i have lost everything and it can fuck with your head... learning to be a minimalist can help tremendously.... (warning it can fuck with your drive to acquire stuff).... But for me, it definitely plays a part of my happiness this is the book i recommend to learn everything you need to know:
- Become a sigma.- Learn and adopt sigma lifestyle and mindsets i really recommend the book the Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
- Read.- Yes read or look for self help sources As a 17 year old i read the book How to stop worrying and start living from Dale Carnagie.... Read it multiple times and this help tremendously, i know Tonny Robbins is not reputable but his book Awaking Gient within was helpful as well...
-join social groups.- For example there are groups the deal with addiction, death, divorces etc.... (this i am kj but seen it work)
- Turn to religion.- (no my thing but i seen it work with guys during depression)
- Give to charity or contribute.- Giving helps, one of the reasons i post and put value is my way of giving, this makes me happy.... Giving contributes to happiness...
If none of these work reach out for medical help...
p.s. If you get to field test what i suggest let me know, would love to know....Or pm directly if you get into one of this issues, if i don't get back right away make sure you don't shoot yourself or anything i don't want to deal with the guilt, so give me a week to get back to you...
Environment.- I come from a latin country were people are notorious for being fun, happy people, party people, players.... But this can not be replicated, but i will tell you why environment is crucial, specially the people you surround yourself with...
Remove yourself from people and environments that are toxic, bring you unhappiness, gives you stress.... This includes girls on the side, girlfriends, friends, family,work, people in the community, forums, virtual groups.... You need to be able to walk.... This is extremely important because the environment and the people you surround yourself with have a massive influence on your life... Now don't do like red pillers just walking away... First try to have a convo. Then, try to work on making things better and put a lot of effort, if that does not work just walk away..... I can give you many examples:
- had girls that were not coming into my frame, and i worked on it till they did, when they did not they were out... Caveat.- one hit me, that is a hard next, no matter what, one fb accused me falsely of rape again same thing.... In forums i just put out good content and then people were confused of why what other elders were saying did not match the results they were getting from my stuff, they became followers and the other people had to walk or convert.... In private groups if they were too toxic, i tell them to fuck off and i walk away... Simple! I can go on and on, but you get the point...
- Learn seduction.- Maslow shit involves relationships and belonging... You need to master seduction that will give you the freedom of choice, relationships in your terms and sex.... We are human and we need human connection. But getting women as a seducer from TRUE RAW SEXUAL PASSION VS exchanging sex from anything other than that, will make sure you are going to be wayyyy happier... Had a boarderline black piller take my coaching rambling on the forum about depression.... took my coaching found hot girlfriend depression gone.... I seen this a lot...
- Fitness and hormone optimization.- I don't drink, never have, i don't smoke, i don't do drugs.... I am in south florida plenty of sun and vitamin d.... Even were i have gotten chubby, i have always been into fitness, i have never stop lifting consistently without breaks... Only time i stop was a really bad injury for couple of months in the last 30 years.... But fitness is not going to the gym is mastering nutrition.... (eventually i will make my own guide).... After trying every workout program etc... i really recommend kino body for the practical minimalistic workouts AND NUTRITION SUPER EASY that give you seduction body..... Layne Norton for the science inner game of fitness... I also recommend Canadians and people in Europe to supplement with vitamin d in winters due to lack of sun..... Hormones play a CRUSIAL role in your mental well being... Let me give you a story as much as i dislike tate, he had a suicidal student, he told him get a 6 pack and get back to me (depression gone after he got 6 pack).... I will soon make a fitness guide with my transformational pics at almost 50...
- sports and martial arts.- Join some type of sports or even better martial arts group, this will help with masculinity, competition, belonging etc... This indirectly helps with happiness.
- Learn about minimalism.- Money issues can make you unhappy, i have been loaded, i have lost everything and it can fuck with your head... learning to be a minimalist can help tremendously.... (warning it can fuck with your drive to acquire stuff).... But for me, it definitely plays a part of my happiness this is the book i recommend to learn everything you need to know:
Goodbye, Things: The New Japanese Minimalism by Fumio Sasaki
- Become a sigma.- Learn and adopt sigma lifestyle and mindsets i really recommend the book the Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
- Read.- Yes read or look for self help sources As a 17 year old i read the book How to stop worrying and start living from Dale Carnagie.... Read it multiple times and this help tremendously, i know Tonny Robbins is not reputable but his book Awaking Gient within was helpful as well...
-join social groups.- For example there are groups the deal with addiction, death, divorces etc.... (this i am kj but seen it work)
- Turn to religion.- (no my thing but i seen it work with guys during depression)
- Give to charity or contribute.- Giving helps, one of the reasons i post and put value is my way of giving, this makes me happy.... Giving contributes to happiness...
If none of these work reach out for medical help...
p.s. If you get to field test what i suggest let me know, would love to know....Or pm directly if you get into one of this issues, if i don't get back right away make sure you don't shoot yourself or anything i don't want to deal with the guilt, so give me a week to get back to you...
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